Where to meet quality men around here?!?!??

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Guys your age who are single and never married either have issues, or do not ever want to get married. The issues can be anything, but my guess is they would probably eliminate them from the "quality" pool in your eyes. And unlike prior generations, where a guy would often pooh pooh marriage and then eventually march to the altar because 90% of all adults get married, men this age and younger see never marrying as a completely valid option. So I'm going to guess that eliminates "quality" for you as well.

I don't think that's true. I have two good very male friends from work who are quality guys - reasonable looking, but not gorgeous, decent jobs but not millionaires, graduate degrees, on the nerdier side but not socially inept - who did not get married until their early to mid 40s. There wasn't anything seriously wrong with them, and they did want to get married. If I had been single, I would have considered dating either of them if they'd asked me out.

Meh, the market clears. People who are high value in the dating world get taken first. Lower value people clear when they match with people of the same value. The market clears slowly when people are introducing roadblocks to the eventual clearing mechanism.

You assume "high value" individuals want something exclusive in their younger years. I know a lot of attractive guys in their early 30s who preferred to have fun in their 20s and just recently started looking for the one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Guys your age who are single and never married either have issues, or do not ever want to get married. The issues can be anything, but my guess is they would probably eliminate them from the "quality" pool in your eyes. And unlike prior generations, where a guy would often pooh pooh marriage and then eventually march to the altar because 90% of all adults get married, men this age and younger see never marrying as a completely valid option. So I'm going to guess that eliminates "quality" for you as well.

I don't think that's true. I have two good very male friends from work who are quality guys - reasonable looking, but not gorgeous, decent jobs but not millionaires, graduate degrees, on the nerdier side but not socially inept - who did not get married until their early to mid 40s. There wasn't anything seriously wrong with them, and they did want to get married. If I had been single, I would have considered dating either of them if they'd asked me out.

Meh, the market clears. People who are high value in the dating world get taken first. Lower value people clear when they match with people of the same value. The market clears slowly when people are introducing roadblocks to the eventual clearing mechanism.

You assume "high value" individuals want something exclusive in their younger years. I know a lot of attractive guys in their early 30s who preferred to have fun in their 20s and just recently started looking for the one.

I'm not assuming that. They aren't in this market, but OP is.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Tough love:

You are 35 and never married. You are a teacher, so you don't make a lot of money. I have no idea how attractive you are, so let's take that off the table.

Guys your age who are single and never married either have issues, or do not ever want to get married. The issues can be anything, but my guess is they would probably eliminate them from the "quality" pool in your eyes. And unlike prior generations, where a guy would often pooh pooh marriage and then eventually march to the altar because 90% of all adults get married, men this age and younger see never marrying as a completely valid option. So I'm going to guess that eliminates "quality" for you as well.

So, are you interested in any divorced men? Are you prepared for stepchildren? Burdensome child support payments? Bitchy ex-wives? Because this is the marketplace you might find yourself dabbling in, but not everyone can handle it.

Get out of your basement much? There are plenty of guys in their 30s with a solid background who would love to meet a cute teacher who is reasonably attractive and fun.

Yeah a cute teacher who is 25 - not 35

[Anonymous]

http://www.rooshv.com/15-reasons-why-washington-dc-sucks-for-guys

[Anonymous]

Seek men in their 60s

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Guys your age who are single and never married either have issues, or do not ever want to get married. The issues can be anything, but my guess is they would probably eliminate them from the "quality" pool in your eyes. And unlike prior generations, where a guy would often pooh pooh marriage and then eventually march to the altar because 90% of all adults get married, men this age and younger see never marrying as a completely valid option. So I'm going to guess that eliminates "quality" for you as well.

I don't think that's true. I have two good very male friends from work who are quality guys - reasonable looking, but not gorgeous, decent jobs but not millionaires, graduate degrees, on the nerdier side but not socially inept - who did not get married until their early to mid 40s. There wasn't anything seriously wrong with them, and they did want to get married. If I had been single, I would have considered dating either of them if they'd asked me out.

Meh, the market clears. People who are high value in the dating world get taken first. Lower value people clear when they match with people of the same value. The market clears slowly when people are introducing roadblocks to the eventual clearing mechanism.

You assume "high value" individuals want something exclusive in their younger years. I know a lot of attractive guys in their early 30s who preferred to have fun in their 20s and just recently started looking for the one.

yeah and they follow the derek jeter path - lock down a hottie who is in her mid twenties.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Guys your age who are single and never married either have issues, or do not ever want to get married. The issues can be anything, but my guess is they would probably eliminate them from the "quality" pool in your eyes. And unlike prior generations, where a guy would often pooh pooh marriage and then eventually march to the altar because 90% of all adults get married, men this age and younger see never marrying as a completely valid option. So I'm going to guess that eliminates "quality" for you as well.

I don't think that's true. I have two good very male friends from work who are quality guys - reasonable looking, but not gorgeous, decent jobs but not millionaires, graduate degrees, on the nerdier side but not socially inept - who did not get married until their early to mid 40s. There wasn't anything seriously wrong with them, and they did want to get married. If I had been single, I would have considered dating either of them if they'd asked me out.

were they under 5'9? I've noticed that - the shorter guys who don't meet someone in college or grad school manytimes are left until later in life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:http://www.rooshv.com/15-reasons-why-washington-dc-sucks-for-guys

okay, MRA

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:http://www.rooshv.com/15-reasons-why-washington-dc-sucks-for-guys

Frank assessment point by point.

1. Yes, compared to NYC, LA, Miami, Nashville, Denver, San Diego, etc this is true. But if you are looking for a 6/7 with smaller breasts, skinny, pale, won't get fat, and went to a t25 school - this is a good town. The issue is DC women (especially compared to women out west) if holding looks as constant, expect way more. Nevertheless I am comfortable with the profile of DC women so it's ok. I'm not gunning for 8's and i don't like dumb girls from questionable families so the dc pool works for me.

2. True.

3. very true. Not sure why women say that it is hard to find guys in dc. most social places in the evening have a lopsided ratio of m>f

4. don't agree

5. true

6. very true

7. true

8. extremely true

9. very true - but that's like that everywhere.

10. dunno - don't go out in admo

11. i guess?

12. true

13. true

14. true

15. true

[Anonymous]

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The thing is, many of the single women in the 30's and beyond have decided that they would rather be single than with the wrong guy.

OP wants quality men. That's code for millionaires.

Hmm, transferring or projecting, which are you?

There are a quite a few qualities women value over dollar value, let me assure you.