It's a dire situation for men out there today

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I thought it was pretty funny.

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:"One unsolicited d*ck pic away." Thats funny!

Haha! No idea why guys think sending a picture of their junk is appealing....

It's not and screams mental disorder. Also, mature people don't do this assine stuff. Not to mention other people or kids can get a hold of it.

Back in the early days of the net/chat gaining popularity...20+ years ago when there were a lot fewer people on...I did in fact send pics out but they were solicited and I never sent any 'willynilly'...in fact...the only way you could identify me is if you had already been up close and personal.

Young people now send out all kind of selfies doing all sorts of stuff knowing full well that it is permanent and think nothing of their face being in it.

[Anonymous]

I'm 52. Today on Bumble a 49-year-old asked me for a picture of my dick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 52. Today on Bumble a 49-year-old asked me for a picture of my dick.

That's what makes it, well, not unsolicited.

There's never been a problem with getting solicited dick pics, if you're the woman who solicited them.

[Anonymous]

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sandmguy wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"One unsolicited d*ck pic away." Thats funny!

Haha! No idea why guys think sending a picture of their junk is appealing....

They do it because it works.

I'm not sure they do, and the only place I get them is online and I've never gone out with someone that sent me one. And I'm not some prude, I love the sight of a big, <you know what, this is a non-explicit forum>, but nothing turns me off more than a guy sending a unsolicited pic of his junk. Seriously guys, its all about mood and context.

I agree its a nice sight but not when you're not expecting it and from someone you don't know. My ex was HUGE and used to send pics of him bulging out of his underwear with a message like "I can't stop thinking about you" etc. That was really hot and certainly built up tension.

You must be a man posting this. I can think of few things grosser than getting that. "Building up tension"- yes it would- the kind that results in a blocked number...

NP here. I'm a woman I like seeing my DH's bulge it's a turn on. As pp pointed out context is everything. Back when I was dating those kinds of pictures from randoms, did nothing for me and I found them rude and offensive and those men were blocked. Those kinds of pictures from my DH ( or once we were engaged in a sexual relationship) are fun.

Agree. DH and I do this. Sometimes when he's out Ill send him tit pics. His reaction is usually something aling the lines of Ill be home right away! And then I'll get a dick pic of him sitting in the car as he peels out.

[Anonymous]

Man here. She wasn't really funny but she has a point. Men would do better in relationships if they paid more attention to women and did more small, kind gestures. However, it's not exactly easy for men to do, it's not intuitive.

Sort of like how women don't get men. All women have to do is be kind and have lots of sex with their husbands. So easy right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here. She wasn't really funny but she has a point. Men would do better in relationships if they paid more attention to women and did more small, kind gestures. However, it's not exactly easy for men to do, it's not intuitive.

Sort of like how women don't get men. All women have to do is be kind and have lots of sex with their husbands. So easy right?

The correlation between men's actions and women's positive reaction is so often not strong or close enough in time for guys to see what's sexually attractive and what's not. At least that's been my experience. Adding to the confusion is observing women who are dating abusive asshole types, and it's tough to figure out what sorts of actions are appreciated romantically. (It's easy to get in the friend zone.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here. She wasn't really funny but she has a point. Men would do better in relationships if they paid more attention to women and did more small, kind gestures. However, it's not exactly easy for men to do, it's not intuitive.

Sort of like how women don't get men. All women have to do is be kind and have lots of sex with their husbands. So easy right?

You're dishonest to pretend that marriage and cohabiting for the rest of your life can't be tough, that couples don't get into ruts with hard to break habits.

[Anonymous]

Frankly, I don't see how it's a dire situation for me out there. Men don't seem to rush online in drove to ask for strangers' advice on how to find wives. Judging from DCUM, it's the other way around.

[Anonymous]

Not dire for me. As an attractive, very fit, active male with a good job it's easy quite frankly. I'm divorced, have 50% custody and still have no issues finding women to have sex with. Dovorced, never married and even women with boyfriends. I've slept with plenty since my divorce. It's a matter of meeting them at the right places and not being a dope.

Here are the key points:

Stay in shape, women don't like fat dudes

Buy good, nice fitting clothes. You don't need to spend tons of money to look good. Just buy stuff that fit rights and have some class

Even if all else is falling sort, come in to your job ready to work and perform the best you can. Without a job you have no purpose or income

Find an activity that doesn't invoke video games and getting fat. Get off the couch.

Be an awesome dad, it gives purpose and makes you really happy. Plus when women see pictures of me with my beautiful happy kid it makes them melt.

Be spontaneous as much as possible - I understand with kids/job there's only so much you can do - but trying to live life as fully as possible will help.

Don't piss off your ex wife too much - chances are she or her friends somehow know the lady you're trying to hook up with - six degreees if separation and all.

Be funny, women lie to laugh...just don't steal my material. Get you're own bit.

And I can stress this one enough...once again be fit and approachable. Having a good body does go a long way. As does not being an asshat. You'd be shocked how often I get approached just being me and having a smile on my face. I'm the lovable dad everyone likes.

[Anonymous]

^

Also, having straight teeth and good hygiene go a long way...as do nice arms and butt...

So work the lower body too chest bros..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not dire for me. As an attractive, very fit, active male with a good job it's easy quite frankly. I'm divorced, have 50% custody and still have no issues finding women to have sex with. Dovorced, never married and even women with boyfriends. I've slept with plenty since my divorce. It's a matter of meeting them at the right places and not being a dope.

Here are the key points:

Stay in shape, women don't like fat dudes

Buy good, nice fitting clothes. You don't need to spend tons of money to look good. Just buy stuff that fit rights and have some class

Even if all else is falling sort, come in to your job ready to work and perform the best you can. Without a job you have no purpose or income

Find an activity that doesn't invoke video games and getting fat. Get off the couch.

Be an awesome dad, it gives purpose and makes you really happy. Plus when women see pictures of me with my beautiful happy kid it makes them melt.

Be spontaneous as much as possible - I understand with kids/job there's only so much you can do - but trying to live life as fully as possible will help.

Don't piss off your ex wife too much - chances are she or her friends somehow know the lady you're trying to hook up with - six degreees if separation and all.

Be funny, women lie to laugh...just don't steal my material. Get you're own bit.

And I can stress this one enough...once again be fit and approachable. Having a good body does go a long way. As does not being an asshat. You'd be shocked how often I get approached just being me and having a smile on my face. I'm the lovable dad everyone likes.

Taking romantic advice from a divorced guy is like going to a dentist with bad teeth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not dire for me. As an attractive, very fit, active male with a good job it's easy quite frankly. I'm divorced, have 50% custody and still have no issues finding women to have sex with. Dovorced, never married and even women with boyfriends. I've slept with plenty since my divorce. It's a matter of meeting them at the right places and not being a dope.

Here are the key points:

Stay in shape, women don't like fat dudes

Buy good, nice fitting clothes. You don't need to spend tons of money to look good. Just buy stuff that fit rights and have some class

Even if all else is falling sort, come in to your job ready to work and perform the best you can. Without a job you have no purpose or income

Find an activity that doesn't invoke video games and getting fat. Get off the couch.

Be an awesome dad, it gives purpose and makes you really happy. Plus when women see pictures of me with my beautiful happy kid it makes them melt.

Be spontaneous as much as possible - I understand with kids/job there's only so much you can do - but trying to live life as fully as possible will help.

Don't piss off your ex wife too much - chances are she or her friends somehow know the lady you're trying to hook up with - six degreees if separation and all.

Be funny, women lie to laugh...just don't steal my material. Get you're own bit.

And I can stress this one enough...once again be fit and approachable. Having a good body does go a long way. As does not being an asshat. You'd be shocked how often I get approached just being me and having a smile on my face. I'm the lovable dad everyone likes.

Taking romantic advice from a divorced guy is like going to a dentist with bad teeth.

He's
Probably getting laid more than you...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not dire for me. As an attractive, very fit, active male with a good job it's easy quite frankly. I'm divorced, have 50% custody and still have no issues finding women to have sex with. Dovorced, never married and even women with boyfriends. I've slept with plenty since my divorce. It's a matter of meeting them at the right places and not being a dope.

Here are the key points:

Stay in shape, women don't like fat dudes

Buy good, nice fitting clothes. You don't need to spend tons of money to look good. Just buy stuff that fit rights and have some class

Even if all else is falling sort, come in to your job ready to work and perform the best you can. Without a job you have no purpose or income

Find an activity that doesn't invoke video games and getting fat. Get off the couch.

Be an awesome dad, it gives purpose and makes you really happy. Plus when women see pictures of me with my beautiful happy kid it makes them melt.

Be spontaneous as much as possible - I understand with kids/job there's only so much you can do - but trying to live life as fully as possible will help.

Don't piss off your ex wife too much - chances are she or her friends somehow know the lady you're trying to hook up with - six degreees if separation and all.

Be funny, women lie to laugh...just don't steal my material. Get you're own bit.

And I can stress this one enough...once again be fit and approachable. Having a good body does go a long way. As does not being an asshat. You'd be shocked how often I get approached just being me and having a smile on my face. I'm the lovable dad everyone likes.

Yup to all of this. If you are decent looking, don't have a personality disorder, and have a good job ($100K+ salary), dating as a man in DC is amazing.

[Anonymous]

Men need to take this advice. As a young woman this is exactly why I've started having relationships with women.