When someone tells you that you have already told them something

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I enthusiastically say "yes! you told me this! It was so funny!"

I do a version of this too, with people I'm close to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this rude? I usually don't tell people when this happens. I'm especially sensitive if they're telling me a happy story.

I say nothing. I let them tell it again.

NOBODY can truly keep track what they said whom, we all talk to million people and that is more rude then not to say something like that. Unless it is matter of time, and urgency and every word and scecond matters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:With aging parents, the same stories get repeated frequently.

Sometimes in the same phone conversation. Hi, Mom.

And let them tell the stories. The thing with Moms is that at one point in life, it is harder and harder to get new stories for them
and they still want to talk about something so it is pretty much like.. the best hits lists.. let them say, this makes them happy
as oftne bring happy memories.

You also remember most stories they say most so if they will be gone one time.. this is what will be remembered and you will wish
you dismissed it.

[Anonymous]

Yes it is rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this rude? I usually don't tell people when this happens. I'm especially sensitive if they're telling me a happy story.

Generally, no. Personally, I always ask "did I tell you this before?" Because I have pretended not to know a story and had to listen to the long explanation and it gets boring after a while. I am not talking about people with memory problems. I would want someone to tell me!

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Anonymous wrote:Op here: The story was so short like maybe 1 minute. It was about something my 16 month old son did. I think I'm overly emotional. I don't have my parents living anymore and my in laws do not speak English and live abroad. I don't have many people to share baby things with. This friend has been rude in other ways. I wanted to see what people do in these situations. I don't tell people usually because I find it rude. I was very close to my grandmother growing up and I got used to this I guess. Her stories were very long but she loved telling them.

Do you have a spouse? Tell them. Or write the story in a journal for your son. He will be interested when older. It is true nobody really cares about your kid's accomplishments but, you and your family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:With aging parents, the same stories get repeated frequently.

Sometimes in the same phone conversation. Hi, Mom.

And let them tell the stories. The thing with Moms is that at one point in life, it is harder and harder to get new stories for them
and they still want to talk about something so it is pretty much like.. the best hits lists.. let them say, this makes them happy
as oftne bring happy memories.

You also remember most stories they say most so if they will be gone one time.. this is what will be remembered and you will wish
you dismissed it.

Yes, but unless the person is really ancient they need to find a way to tell different stories. Not talking about covid times but, my mom was young ( in her 60s) when she kept repeating stories. When she went back to college she had more to say and didn't repeat herself. Your parents can learn new things and not repeat the same boring stories!

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Anonymous wrote:I usually don't say anything. DH will tell me, and I find it very rude.

He’s supposed to sit through your long winded story multiple times? I would want to know. Do you care if he’s bored and miserable or do you just want an audience?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I enthusiastically say "yes! you told me this! It was so funny!"

I do a version of this too, with people I'm close to.

Same. But also agree that it's impossible to track who told whom what at this stage so it's all very easy with me. I know I do it too and totally don't care if someone interrupts me with recognition of the story!
Everyone needs to relax. You're not that important.

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Anonymous wrote:2nd time i give you a pass. 4th or 5th time, i will let you know.

This is me with my mom. And it’s always something I didn’t care about the first time, so by the third or fourth time, I’m totally out of patience.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:With aging parents, the same stories get repeated frequently.

Sometimes in the same phone conversation. Hi, Mom.

+1. But the really important stuff is never mentioned. I heard about the flat tire 10 times but no one mentioned the sudden doctor visit that happened last week.

[Anonymous]

Quite rude
but
these days
people have
NOT
been trained to be polite
SO
if you are the recipient
ignore them
and their ignorant parents
or caregivers

[Anonymous]

I try to interject early on with an enthusiastic “oh, yes! I remember!” to save them from getting so far into the story.

[Anonymous]

It saves time and energy to tell the person they've already told the story, especially if they are getting senile and you've already heard it 5 times.

[Anonymous]

On a related note, I find it interesting when there are 5+ pages of people giving the same 2 or 3 responses, each sounding like they think it's the first time their point has been made.