Very strange predicament - paternity test?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, what was your LMP?

This is actually pretty critical info.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, what was your LMP?

This is actually pretty critical info.

Yup! I asked it a couple pages ago. We also might be able to deduce from eye color and blood type. But radio silence from OP....who is probably a troll

[Anonymous]

You said he looks like your father. That is the answer, and leave it there. There is no other answer with a good outcome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, what was your LMP?

This is actually pretty critical info.

Given that it's been 12 years, OP probably doesn't remember, but either way, it's absolutely not helpful. Many women do not ovulate like clockwork.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister has 4 kids. 3 kids look completely alike and resemble her and have touches of her DH. The remaining child child looks nothing like her siblings and only has the rarest glimpse of resemblance to some of other relatives. there is no doubt that the 4th child is a biological child of both my sister and her husband.

Like Khloe Kardashian

OP, maybe Yuit were dizzy because you were pregnant and drunk!

[Anonymous]

I think you have an over-active imagination and not enough important things to do with your time.

[Anonymous]

I would want to know. But what happens when the kid asks the results of his DNA testing? Maybe it's better to find out before the son tries testing his own DNA or something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, what was your LMP?

This is actually pretty critical info.

Given that it's been 12 years, OP probably doesn't remember, but either way, it's absolutely not helpful. Many women do not ovulate like clockwork.

I remember for my first after nine years...you get asked it 10 million times per pregnancy.

Also she seems to remember the other associated dates!

But since she's a Troll and making the whole thing up...

[Anonymous]

Whose baby do you want this to be, op?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, what was your LMP?

This is actually pretty critical info.

Given that it's been 12 years, OP probably doesn't remember, but either way, it's absolutely not helpful. Many women do not ovulate like clockwork.

I remember for my first after nine years...you get asked it 10 million times per pregnancy.

Also she seems to remember the other associated dates!

But since she's a Troll and making the whole thing up...

You get asked because it might be helpful, but it is not for many women. It was not for me.

[Anonymous]

Please get a paternity test, OP. Because I want to know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I think that right now, it sounds like either nothing happened - you had some wine, your colleague was creepy, you brushed him off, and you were already pregnant with a son who looks nothing like your husband - or you were raped by your colleague after he spiked your drink and became pregnant as a result of that encounter. Setting aside how f-ed up and wrong the second scenario is, you could also consider things like your son's birthday in relation to the potential dates of conception (election night and the other night). Was he large when he was born? Did he come early? These are questions that might help you with some of the baby-related math.
As for your current situation, I think that truthfully, if I was in your situation, I would try to forget about it and continue with my life. Bringing this up will bring a world of pain onto your entire family, and for what? The only thing I can think of would be to get your son his accurate family medical history. But doing so will tell a 12yo boy that his mother was sexually assaulted, that his father is a rapist who poisoned a woman to rape her, and that the man he's always thought was his father is not his biological father after all. Your husband may not believe you that it wasn't consensual (like that PP up thread who suggested that this is a situation where you regret sex you had willingly and are now trying to cover your tracks because your son looks like the man you slept with).

I see few benefits to exploring this further, but I can understand why it's hard for you not to.

OP here, thanks, these are really helpful insights. Those are some great points about the timing and size. Our son was born pretty much exactly 9 months to the date of conception (so August 4, when election day night was November 4). He was also a relatively small/normal baby - 6 pounds, 9 ounces. I'm certain I'm just overreacting and that these FB pictures of my colleague (there, to the cohort snippets, lol) are just messing with my head. FWIW, my son also closely resembles my dad, eerily so, so I'm a big believer in genetics and how they can really influence the physical and facial characteristics of a person. Ok, I'll just put this whole subject to rest and won't pursue it any further, you've helped to talk me back from the ledge. Thanks again.

Election day 2004 was November 2. Just pointing that out since you seem to be so confidant of exact dates 12 and 13 years later.