Confronting a cheater: in person or e-mail?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Sybian?

must be

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:what is the fetsish?

feet?

leather?

spanking?

puppy play?

Watching. He has a very expensive sex toy that he likes to watch people use. I wasn't aware he had it until I found his ad, offering to let people use it if they let him watch.

Would any women actually use a toy that they know has been inside god-knows-how-many others?

OP with update: turns out it was much more than watching and had been going on for almost a year. So yeah, over, thanks everyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:what is the fetsish?

feet?

leather?

spanking?

puppy play?

Watching. He has a very expensive sex toy that he likes to watch people use. I wasn't aware he had it until I found his ad, offering to let people use it if they let him watch.

Would any women actually use a toy that they know has been inside god-knows-how-many others?

OP with update: turns out it was much more than watching and had been going on for almost a year. So yeah, over, thanks everyone.

.

OP, I really admire that you were able to confront him and that you appear to have refused to get sucked into any drama or justifications on his part. Good for you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get the once a cheater always a cheater is the prevailing school of thought. However, it isn't always the case. Before I was married I was a bit of an asshole. Cheated on pretty much all my girlfriends, including serious ones. The thing is, I was just selfish and immature and I grew out of it. Married 15 years now and take my vows very seriously.

OP here. I'm glad to hear that cheating is not necessarily a lifelong character flaw, but I think people like you are few and far between. And that this guy is not one of them. Dumping will commence shortly.

Thanks for the feedback everyone. And those who just wanted deets on the fetish/toy, go f*k yourselves.

OP, I'm so glad you dumped him, that's good news. But the fact that folks are curious seems completely normal and I'm not sure why the anger at people -- not like you are protecting your ex?