Lunch and Movie Theater for Daughter's 8th Birthday- Invite Help!!!

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My daughter went on a Field trip today. 1 teacher and 1 volunteer for 26 kids. Do your forbid your 8yr old to go on field trips?

What school is this?

When my kids went on field trips when they were 8, the teacher would have taken about four or five volunteers for that number of kids.
This was at public schools in Virginia and California.

MCPS school. The location could only take 1 volunteer per class. So 103 kids and 4 teachers and 4 volunteers total.

No, my kids would not go on that kind of field trip. Either we go, or our child does not go. We've been on enough field trips to see kids get separated with parents not paying attention or on their phones, especially working. My kid in MCPS doesn't like most of the field trips so when we ask, he's glad to opt out and do something fun with us instead. We had a teachers only field trip, no volunteers and we declined and kept her home.

Is your kid a he or a she? Also, in the history of field trips at MCPS, has any child ever been lost? Kind of doubt it.

Your anxiety seems like it might be overpowering you and smothering your child.

In Baltimore, a kid got lost: http://baltimorewatchdog.com/2016/12/08/mom-helps-create-survival-guide-for-school-field-trip-chaperones/

Younger child at a day care: http://wjla.com/news/local/three-year-old-boy-on-a-daycare-field-trip-left-behind-at-chuck-e-cheese-87067

Teen died on field trip: http://www.nbcwashington.com/news/local/Teen-Student-Becomes-Ill-Dies-During-School-Field-Trip-299445861.html

10 year old molested at Fairfax recreation center: http://wtop.com/fairfax-county/2015/12/man-charged-with-assaulting-10-year-old-at-fairfax-co-recreation-center/

Here's one at a local movie theater: http://wjla.com/news/crime/dc-mom-files-lawsuit-after-son-alleges-to-being-molested-at-local-movie-theater

Just a few if you google in our area.

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My daughter went on a Field trip today. 1 teacher and 1 volunteer for 26 kids. Do your forbid your 8yr old to go on field trips?

What school is this?

When my kids went on field trips when they were 8, the teacher would have taken about four or five volunteers for that number of kids.
This was at public schools in Virginia and California.

I grew up in New York and this was common and not a problem. Mayyyyyybe there'd be two parents, but one parent and one teacher is fine. Want me to blow your mind? I live in SF now and when DD goes on field trips they take mass transit. Even as young as kindergarten that's how they got to their field trips. Sometimes kids are goofing around and don't get off the train when they're supposed to. Fun times for all!

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Anonymous wrote:What 8yr old has 18 close friends. Please OP. Get real

This says lot about the OP.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, just be prepared that some parents are not going to be comfortable with a drop off at a movie theatre with that many kids and few adults. Who would take the kids to the bathroom? I would not want my child to go knowing you'd probably send them in the bathroom alone. I'd have no problem paying for myself (no siblings so its a non-issue) but not a chance I'd send my 8 year old alone.

I continually get surprised at the level of hovering other parents do. I also have an 8 year old daughter and she rides public transportation alone.

How sad you are too lazy to take your child where she needs to be. 8 is way to young.

My daughter bikes up to the playground about 1/4 mile away with her friends. They are all 7 and 8.

Most 8 year olds ride public transportation alone in cities when they have to go to school.

The reason you think your 8yr old is too young is because you have coddled her all her life and have not taught her to think and do things for herself in small increments until she is comfortable.

My daughter went on a Field trip today. 1 teacher and 1 volunteer for 26 kids. Do your forbid your 8yr old to go on field trips?

I ride a city bus every day to school, along with an number of other families and schoolkids. I notice when kids start riding alone. They aren't eight years old. I've never seen a kid younger than fourth grade ride the city bus alone to our school.

You may be entirely right that kids can do this, but in our community, they don't.

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Anonymous wrote:What 8yr old has 18 close friends. Please OP. Get real

This says lot about the OP.

As I mentioned before, 6 are relatives. Wow! Very judge people out here today. 12 non-relative friends for an 8 year old that has friends from school, drama class and sports doesn't seem like too many to me.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, just be prepared that some parents are not going to be comfortable with a drop off at a movie theatre with that many kids and few adults. Who would take the kids to the bathroom? I would not want my child to go knowing you'd probably send them in the bathroom alone. I'd have no problem paying for myself (no siblings so its a non-issue) but not a chance I'd send my 8 year old alone.

You don't let your 8 year old go in the bathroom alone? What if you have a kid of the opposite gender? I have a boy and he's very big for his age (7). It would be wildly inappropriate to go to the men's room with him or bring him to the women's room. He's been going in the bathroom alone since he was probably 5. I can't even remember honestly.

Yes, my 7 year old still goes into the women's bathroom with me. If you don't like it, too bad.

This is sincerely mind blowing to me. I also believe you are way in the minority because not once in my life have I seen a 7 year old boy using a public women's restroom. I'm curious how long you plan to do this? What's the cut off?

I'm curious too. I'll take your "too bad" and raise you one - once they can independently use the bathroom, they are all set to use the men's room. Your caution does not match the likely danger level of the scenario.

No they aren't and things happen in bathrooms. I take my 7 year old in and am not at all concerned about what others think.

Please enlighten us with what happens in the men's bathroom at movie theater during a matinee. I am honestly curious.

NP here. Not long ago there was a story on the news about two teens who went into an elevation burger bathroom and were sexually assaulted by a male employee who followed them in there. The employee had a prior criminal record. This happened while their parents were in the restaurant.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, just be prepared that some parents are not going to be comfortable with a drop off at a movie theatre with that many kids and few adults. Who would take the kids to the bathroom? I would not want my child to go knowing you'd probably send them in the bathroom alone. I'd have no problem paying for myself (no siblings so its a non-issue) but not a chance I'd send my 8 year old alone.

You don't let your 8 year old go in the bathroom alone? What if you have a kid of the opposite gender? I have a boy and he's very big for his age (7). It would be wildly inappropriate to go to the men's room with him or bring him to the women's room. He's been going in the bathroom alone since he was probably 5. I can't even remember honestly.

Yes, my 7 year old still goes into the women's bathroom with me. If you don't like it, too bad.

This is sincerely mind blowing to me. I also believe you are way in the minority because not once in my life have I seen a 7 year old boy using a public women's restroom. I'm curious how long you plan to do this? What's the cut off?

I'm curious too. I'll take your "too bad" and raise you one - once they can independently use the bathroom, they are all set to use the men's room. Your caution does not match the likely danger level of the scenario.

No they aren't and things happen in bathrooms. I take my 7 year old in and am not at all concerned about what others think.

Please enlighten us with what happens in the men's bathroom at movie theater during a matinee. I am honestly curious.

NP here. Not long ago there was a story on the news about two teens who went into an elevation burger bathroom and were sexually assaulted by a male employee who followed them in there. The employee had a prior criminal record. This happened while their parents were in the restaurant.

Here is the story --

http://www.fox5dc.com/news/217415997-story

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Anonymous wrote:OP, just be prepared that some parents are not going to be comfortable with a drop off at a movie theatre with that many kids and few adults. Who would take the kids to the bathroom? I would not want my child to go knowing you'd probably send them in the bathroom alone. I'd have no problem paying for myself (no siblings so its a non-issue) but not a chance I'd send my 8 year old alone.

You don't let your 8 year old go in the bathroom alone? What if you have a kid of the opposite gender? I have a boy and he's very big for his age (7). It would be wildly inappropriate to go to the men's room with him or bring him to the women's room. He's been going in the bathroom alone since he was probably 5. I can't even remember honestly.

Yes, my 7 year old still goes into the women's bathroom with me. If you don't like it, too bad.

This is sincerely mind blowing to me. I also believe you are way in the minority because not once in my life have I seen a 7 year old boy using a public women's restroom. I'm curious how long you plan to do this? What's the cut off?

I'm curious too. I'll take your "too bad" and raise you one - once they can independently use the bathroom, they are all set to use the men's room. Your caution does not match the likely danger level of the scenario.

No they aren't and things happen in bathrooms. I take my 7 year old in and am not at all concerned about what others think.

Please enlighten us with what happens in the men's bathroom at movie theater during a matinee. I am honestly curious.

NP here. Not long ago there was a story on the news about two teens who went into an elevation burger bathroom and were sexually assaulted by a male employee who followed them in there. The employee had a prior criminal record. This happened while their parents were in the restaurant.

This is terrible. Bad things happen. Two teenagers parents are not going to accompany them to the bathroom. You seem to think you will be able to prevent any bad things from ever happening to your children. You can't. None of us can. Also, in the process of trying to prevent anything from ever happening, you are not allowing your child to develop grandual independence and confidence in his or her decision making and problem solving skills that he or she will need to navigate in the world without you. In short, you are fucking your kid up. Stop reading local news and watching CNN. That will help immensely.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, just be prepared that some parents are not going to be comfortable with a drop off at a movie theatre with that many kids and few adults. Who would take the kids to the bathroom? I would not want my child to go knowing you'd probably send them in the bathroom alone. I'd have no problem paying for myself (no siblings so its a non-issue) but not a chance I'd send my 8 year old alone.

You don't let your 8 year old go in the bathroom alone? What if you have a kid of the opposite gender? I have a boy and he's very big for his age (7). It would be wildly inappropriate to go to the men's room with him or bring him to the women's room. He's been going in the bathroom alone since he was probably 5. I can't even remember honestly.

Yes, my 7 year old still goes into the women's bathroom with me. If you don't like it, too bad.

This is sincerely mind blowing to me. I also believe you are way in the minority because not once in my life have I seen a 7 year old boy using a public women's restroom. I'm curious how long you plan to do this? What's the cut off?

I'm curious too. I'll take your "too bad" and raise you one - once they can independently use the bathroom, they are all set to use the men's room. Your caution does not match the likely danger level of the scenario.

No they aren't and things happen in bathrooms. I take my 7 year old in and am not at all concerned about what others think.

Please enlighten us with what happens in the men's bathroom at movie theater during a matinee. I am honestly curious.

NP here. Not long ago there was a story on the news about two teens who went into an elevation burger bathroom and were sexually assaulted by a male employee who followed them in there. The employee had a prior criminal record. This happened while their parents were in the restaurant.

This is terrible. Bad things happen. Two teenagers parents are not going to accompany them to the bathroom. You seem to think you will be able to prevent any bad things from ever happening to your children. You can't. None of us can. Also, in the process of trying to prevent anything from ever happening, you are not allowing your child to develop grandual independence and confidence in his or her decision making and problem solving skills that he or she will need to navigate in the world without you. In short, you are fucking your kid up. Stop reading local news and watching CNN. That will help immensely.

This! Pp here. Possibility is not probability. And I am saying this as a parent whose child was assaulted *while I was holding her hand.* We were walking down the street and some a$$**** quickly rubbed her breasts and vanished into the crowd and ran down into the subway. She was not quite 4. Now she is 6, and if she is out with her dad she goes to the ladies room and he stands outside because that is the appropriate thing to do. Assaults suck, but you aren't going to prevent them by keeping your kid from becoming an autonomous person.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, just be prepared that some parents are not going to be comfortable with a drop off at a movie theatre with that many kids and few adults. Who would take the kids to the bathroom? I would not want my child to go knowing you'd probably send them in the bathroom alone. I'd have no problem paying for myself (no siblings so its a non-issue) but not a chance I'd send my 8 year old alone.

You don't let your 8 year old go in the bathroom alone? What if you have a kid of the opposite gender? I have a boy and he's very big for his age (7). It would be wildly inappropriate to go to the men's room with him or bring him to the women's room. He's been going in the bathroom alone since he was probably 5. I can't even remember honestly.

Yes, my 7 year old still goes into the women's bathroom with me. If you don't like it, too bad.

This is sincerely mind blowing to me. I also believe you are way in the minority because not once in my life have I seen a 7 year old boy using a public women's restroom. I'm curious how long you plan to do this? What's the cut off?

I'm curious too. I'll take your "too bad" and raise you one - once they can independently use the bathroom, they are all set to use the men's room. Your caution does not match the likely danger level of the scenario.

No they aren't and things happen in bathrooms. I take my 7 year old in and am not at all concerned about what others think.

Please enlighten us with what happens in the men's bathroom at movie theater during a matinee. I am honestly curious.

NP here. Not long ago there was a story on the news about two teens who went into an elevation burger bathroom and were sexually assaulted by a male employee who followed them in there. The employee had a prior criminal record. This happened while their parents were in the restaurant.

This is terrible. Bad things happen. Two teenagers parents are not going to accompany them to the bathroom. You seem to think you will be able to prevent any bad things from ever happening to your children. You can't. None of us can. Also, in the process of trying to prevent anything from ever happening, you are not allowing your child to develop grandual independence and confidence in his or her decision making and problem solving skills that he or she will need to navigate in the world without you. In short, you are fucking your kid up. Stop reading local news and watching CNN. That will help immensely.

Stop lecturing me. I am a NP responding to the poster who wanted to know what could happen in a bathroom during a matinee. I gave her an example. I do let my eight year-old use the bathroom alone. Would I let her walk out of a movie playing and walk down a long hallway to go to the bathroom alone? Probably not because those areas are typically empty during the movie.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, just be prepared that some parents are not going to be comfortable with a drop off at a movie theatre with that many kids and few adults. Who would take the kids to the bathroom? I would not want my child to go knowing you'd probably send them in the bathroom alone. I'd have no problem paying for myself (no siblings so its a non-issue) but not a chance I'd send my 8 year old alone.

What? My 8 yr old can go to a movie theatre bathroom with one friend, and they'll come out fine. Is your child special needs?

This is why I would not let my child go with you. Its not the kids I am worry about but who else is there. If you are not willing to supervise the kids properly and 8 is still very young, you need to have more adults or let the parents come.

I think the PP was ridiculous, but 6 adults really can supervise 18 kids. Especially when those 18 kids are watching a movie.

Parents go out in public with 3 or 4 kids all the time, either because they have 3 or 4 kids, or because their kids bring friends. Even if 1 adult gets pulled off to take 1 kid to the bathroom, there will still be 5 adults to supervise the other 17 kids who are sitting watching a movie.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, just be prepared that some parents are not going to be comfortable with a drop off at a movie theatre with that many kids and few adults. Who would take the kids to the bathroom? I would not want my child to go knowing you'd probably send them in the bathroom alone. I'd have no problem paying for myself (no siblings so its a non-issue) but not a chance I'd send my 8 year old alone.

You don't let your 8 year old go in the bathroom alone? What if you have a kid of the opposite gender? I have a boy and he's very big for his age (7). It would be wildly inappropriate to go to the men's room with him or bring him to the women's room. He's been going in the bathroom alone since he was probably 5. I can't even remember honestly.

Yes, my 7 year old still goes into the women's bathroom with me. If you don't like it, too bad.

This is sincerely mind blowing to me. I also believe you are way in the minority because not once in my life have I seen a 7 year old boy using a public women's restroom. I'm curious how long you plan to do this? What's the cut off?

I'm curious too. I'll take your "too bad" and raise you one - once they can independently use the bathroom, they are all set to use the men's room. Your caution does not match the likely danger level of the scenario.

No they aren't and things happen in bathrooms. I take my 7 year old in and am not at all concerned about what others think.

Please enlighten us with what happens in the men's bathroom at movie theater during a matinee. I am honestly curious.

NP here. Not long ago there was a story on the news about two teens who went into an elevation burger bathroom and were sexually assaulted by a male employee who followed them in there. The employee had a prior criminal record. This happened while their parents were in the restaurant.

This is terrible. Bad things happen. Two teenagers parents are not going to accompany them to the bathroom. You seem to think you will be able to prevent any bad things from ever happening to your children. You can't. None of us can. Also, in the process of trying to prevent anything from ever happening, you are not allowing your child to develop grandual independence and confidence in his or her decision making and problem solving skills that he or she will need to navigate in the world without you. In short, you are fucking your kid up. Stop reading local news and watching CNN. That will help immensely.

Great plan. Stop reading the news and pretend everything is good in the world. My parents were protective and taught me to navigate the world just fine without them.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, just be prepared that some parents are not going to be comfortable with a drop off at a movie theatre with that many kids and few adults. Who would take the kids to the bathroom? I would not want my child to go knowing you'd probably send them in the bathroom alone. I'd have no problem paying for myself (no siblings so its a non-issue) but not a chance I'd send my 8 year old alone.

What? My 8 yr old can go to a movie theatre bathroom with one friend, and they'll come out fine. Is your child special needs?

This is why I would not let my child go with you. Its not the kids I am worry about but who else is there. If you are not willing to supervise the kids properly and 8 is still very young, you need to have more adults or let the parents come.

I think the PP was ridiculous, but 6 adults really can supervise 18 kids. Especially when those 18 kids are watching a movie.

Parents go out in public with 3 or 4 kids all the time, either because they have 3 or 4 kids, or because their kids bring friends. Even if 1 adult gets pulled off to take 1 kid to the bathroom, there will still be 5 adults to supervise the other 17 kids who are sitting watching a movie.

But, is one adult willing to miss the movie and take a child to the bathroom especially if it happens a few times. Usually no.

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My daughter went on a Field trip today. 1 teacher and 1 volunteer for 26 kids. Do your forbid your 8yr old to go on field trips?

What school is this?

When my kids went on field trips when they were 8, the teacher would have taken about four or five volunteers for that number of kids.
This was at public schools in Virginia and California.

MCPS school. The location could only take 1 volunteer per class. So 103 kids and 4 teachers and 4 volunteers total.

No, my kids would not go on that kind of field trip. Either we go, or our child does not go. We've been on enough field trips to see kids get separated with parents not paying attention or on their phones, especially working. My kid in MCPS doesn't like most of the field trips so when we ask, he's glad to opt out and do something fun with us instead. We had a teachers only field trip, no volunteers and we declined and kept her home.

Is your kid a he or a she? Also, in the history of field trips at MCPS, has any child ever been lost? Kind of doubt it.

Your anxiety seems like it might be overpowering you and smothering your child.

In Baltimore, a kid got lost: http://baltimorewatchdog.com/2016/12/08/mom-helps-create-survival-guide-for-school-field-trip-chaperones/

Younger child at a day care: http://wjla.com/news/local/three-year-old-boy-on-a-daycare-field-trip-left-behind-at-chuck-e-cheese-87067

Teen died on field trip: http://www.nbcwashington.com/news/local/Teen-Student-Becomes-Ill-Dies-During-School-Field-Trip-299445861.html

10 year old molested at Fairfax recreation center: http://wtop.com/fairfax-county/2015/12/man-charged-with-assaulting-10-year-old-at-fairfax-co-recreation-center/

Here's one at a local movie theater: http://wjla.com/news/crime/dc-mom-files-lawsuit-after-son-alleges-to-being-molested-at-local-movie-theater

Just a few if you google in our area.

You need mental help -truly you do. You don't see the tens of millions of kids able to navigate the world just fine. You find a few stories online and the world is falling apart.

Do you home school, not drive, don't fly, etc.... You love your work by "what ifs" and your poor kids are going to anxious depressed teens with zero confidence And will end up fearful of the entire world just like you.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, just be prepared that some parents are not going to be comfortable with a drop off at a movie theatre with that many kids and few adults. Who would take the kids to the bathroom? I would not want my child to go knowing you'd probably send them in the bathroom alone. I'd have no problem paying for myself (no siblings so its a non-issue) but not a chance I'd send my 8 year old alone.

What? My 8 yr old can go to a movie theatre bathroom with one friend, and they'll come out fine. Is your child special needs?

This is why I would not let my child go with you. Its not the kids I am worry about but who else is there. If you are not willing to supervise the kids properly and 8 is still very young, you need to have more adults or let the parents come.

I think the PP was ridiculous, but 6 adults really can supervise 18 kids. Especially when those 18 kids are watching a movie.

Parents go out in public with 3 or 4 kids all the time, either because they have 3 or 4 kids, or because their kids bring friends. Even if 1 adult gets pulled off to take 1 kid to the bathroom, there will still be 5 adults to supervise the other 17 kids who are sitting watching a movie.

But, is one adult willing to miss the movie and take a child to the bathroom especially if it happens a few times. Usually no.

Because adults get so engrossed in children's movies. We all know the plot line of Beauty and the Beast. Let's be realistic here. I think the parents understand their responsibility in this situation. The movie is for the kids in this instance.