Lunch and Movie Theater for Daughter's 8th Birthday- Invite Help!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, just be prepared that some parents are not going to be comfortable with a drop off at a movie theatre with that many kids and few adults. Who would take the kids to the bathroom? I would not want my child to go knowing you'd probably send them in the bathroom alone. I'd have no problem paying for myself (no siblings so its a non-issue) but not a chance I'd send my 8 year old alone.

What? My 8 yr old can go to a movie theatre bathroom with one friend, and they'll come out fine. Is your child special needs?

[Anonymous]

OP, I think you should word it as others have advised, and then I would also set your invite response to only allow for a maximum of 1 guest. It sounds like a fun party that you have organized well.

For the PP who would like to intrude on the party - it sounds like the OP has it well covered. If your child is ever invited to an event like that, you should really decline or else find something else to do while your child is at a party. Sticking around to monitor a big kids' party because you aren't sure they would do it like you would do it if you were in charge is unnecessary. I bet that wherever there's a movie theater, there are plenty of other options.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What 8yr old has 18 close friends. Please OP. Get real

We have had the same group of friends since mommy and me and 6 of the 18 are cousins that were all born within 7 months of each other.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, just be prepared that some parents are not going to be comfortable with a drop off at a movie theatre with that many kids and few adults. Who would take the kids to the bathroom? I would not want my child to go knowing you'd probably send them in the bathroom alone. I'd have no problem paying for myself (no siblings so its a non-issue) but not a chance I'd send my 8 year old alone.

What? My 8 yr old can go to a movie theatre bathroom with one friend, and they'll come out fine. Is your child special needs?

This is why I would not let my child go with you. Its not the kids I am worry about but who else is there. If you are not willing to supervise the kids properly and 8 is still very young, you need to have more adults or let the parents come.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, just be prepared that some parents are not going to be comfortable with a drop off at a movie theatre with that many kids and few adults. Who would take the kids to the bathroom? I would not want my child to go knowing you'd probably send them in the bathroom alone. I'd have no problem paying for myself (no siblings so its a non-issue) but not a chance I'd send my 8 year old alone.

You don't let your 8 year old go in the bathroom alone? What if you have a kid of the opposite gender? I have a boy and he's very big for his age (7). It would be wildly inappropriate to go to the men's room with him or bring him to the women's room. He's been going in the bathroom alone since he was probably 5. I can't even remember honestly.

Yes, my 7 year old still goes into the women's bathroom with me. If you don't like it, too bad.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, just be prepared that some parents are not going to be comfortable with a drop off at a movie theatre with that many kids and few adults. Who would take the kids to the bathroom? I would not want my child to go knowing you'd probably send them in the bathroom alone. I'd have no problem paying for myself (no siblings so its a non-issue) but not a chance I'd send my 8 year old alone.

I continually get surprised at the level of hovering other parents do. I also have an 8 year old daughter and she rides public transportation alone.

How sad you are too lazy to take your child where she needs to be. 8 is way to young.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, just be prepared that some parents are not going to be comfortable with a drop off at a movie theatre with that many kids and few adults. Who would take the kids to the bathroom? I would not want my child to go knowing you'd probably send them in the bathroom alone. I'd have no problem paying for myself (no siblings so its a non-issue) but not a chance I'd send my 8 year old alone.

You don't let your 8 year old go in the bathroom alone? What if you have a kid of the opposite gender? I have a boy and he's very big for his age (7). It would be wildly inappropriate to go to the men's room with him or bring him to the women's room. He's been going in the bathroom alone since he was probably 5. I can't even remember honestly.

Yes, my 7 year old still goes into the women's bathroom with me. If you don't like it, too bad.

This is sincerely mind blowing to me. I also believe you are way in the minority because not once in my life have I seen a 7 year old boy using a public women's restroom. I'm curious how long you plan to do this? What's the cut off?

[Anonymous]

We got a similar invite.

It simply said "movie and lunch at XYZ Theater. This is a drop off event".

Simple.

By 8 yrs old, people know it's a drop off event.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, just be prepared that some parents are not going to be comfortable with a drop off at a movie theatre with that many kids and few adults. Who would take the kids to the bathroom? I would not want my child to go knowing you'd probably send them in the bathroom alone. I'd have no problem paying for myself (no siblings so its a non-issue) but not a chance I'd send my 8 year old alone.

What? My 8 yr old can go to a movie theatre bathroom with one friend, and they'll come out fine. Is your child special needs?

This is why I would not let my child go with you. Its not the kids I am worry about but who else is there. If you are not willing to supervise the kids properly and 8 is still very young, you need to have more adults or let the parents come.

Oh my gosh, do you even have a 8 yr old child??? If you do, then you would realize that they are completly self sufficient and are able to use the bathroom without "mommy's help". Gimme a break.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, just be prepared that some parents are not going to be comfortable with a drop off at a movie theatre with that many kids and few adults. Who would take the kids to the bathroom? I would not want my child to go knowing you'd probably send them in the bathroom alone. I'd have no problem paying for myself (no siblings so its a non-issue) but not a chance I'd send my 8 year old alone.

You don't let your 8 year old go in the bathroom alone? What if you have a kid of the opposite gender? I have a boy and he's very big for his age (7). It would be wildly inappropriate to go to the men's room with him or bring him to the women's room. He's been going in the bathroom alone since he was probably 5. I can't even remember honestly.

Yes, my 7 year old still goes into the women's bathroom with me. If you don't like it, too bad.

I'm guessing your logic is that he could be approached by an unknown male in an unwanted way.

By the time he hits puberty (not terribly far off for an 8 year old), you really can't be doing what you're doing anymore and he could still be approached by an unknown male. The better path might be to talk to him about what to do if this happens and how to handle it. If you really can't deal, stand outside the door after he goes in and call out to him and ask him if he's alone or not. If he's not alone, the other male in the restroom will hear your voice and know you are outside. I've seen moms do this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, just be prepared that some parents are not going to be comfortable with a drop off at a movie theatre with that many kids and few adults. Who would take the kids to the bathroom? I would not want my child to go knowing you'd probably send them in the bathroom alone. I'd have no problem paying for myself (no siblings so its a non-issue) but not a chance I'd send my 8 year old alone.

You don't let your 8 year old go in the bathroom alone? What if you have a kid of the opposite gender? I have a boy and he's very big for his age (7). It would be wildly inappropriate to go to the men's room with him or bring him to the women's room. He's been going in the bathroom alone since he was probably 5. I can't even remember honestly.

Yes, my 7 year old still goes into the women's bathroom with me. If you don't like it, too bad.

This is sincerely mind blowing to me. I also believe you are way in the minority because not once in my life have I seen a 7 year old boy using a public women's restroom. I'm curious how long you plan to do this? What's the cut off?

I'm curious too. I'll take your "too bad" and raise you one - once they can independently use the bathroom, they are all set to use the men's room. Your caution does not match the likely danger level of the scenario.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, just be prepared that some parents are not going to be comfortable with a drop off at a movie theatre with that many kids and few adults. Who would take the kids to the bathroom? I would not want my child to go knowing you'd probably send them in the bathroom alone. I'd have no problem paying for myself (no siblings so its a non-issue) but not a chance I'd send my 8 year old alone.

You don't let your 8 year old go in the bathroom alone? What if you have a kid of the opposite gender? I have a boy and he's very big for his age (7). It would be wildly inappropriate to go to the men's room with him or bring him to the women's room. He's been going in the bathroom alone since he was probably 5. I can't even remember honestly.

Yes, my 7 year old still goes into the women's bathroom with me. If you don't like it, too bad.

This is sincerely mind blowing to me. I also believe you are way in the minority because not once in my life have I seen a 7 year old boy using a public women's restroom. I'm curious how long you plan to do this? What's the cut off?

I'm curious too. I'll take your "too bad" and raise you one - once they can independently use the bathroom, they are all set to use the men's room. Your caution does not match the likely danger level of the scenario.

No they aren't and things happen in bathrooms. I take my 7 year old in and am not at all concerned about what others think.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, just be prepared that some parents are not going to be comfortable with a drop off at a movie theatre with that many kids and few adults. Who would take the kids to the bathroom? I would not want my child to go knowing you'd probably send them in the bathroom alone. I'd have no problem paying for myself (no siblings so its a non-issue) but not a chance I'd send my 8 year old alone.

I continually get surprised at the level of hovering other parents do. I also have an 8 year old daughter and she rides public transportation alone.

How sad you are too lazy to take your child where she needs to be. 8 is way to young.

My daughter bikes up to the playground about 1/4 mile away with her friends. They are all 7 and 8.

Most 8 year olds ride public transportation alone in cities when they have to go to school.

The reason you think your 8yr old is too young is because you have coddled her all her life and have not taught her to think and do things for herself in small increments until she is comfortable.

My daughter went on a Field trip today. 1 teacher and 1 volunteer for 26 kids. Do your forbid your 8yr old to go on field trips?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, just be prepared that some parents are not going to be comfortable with a drop off at a movie theatre with that many kids and few adults. Who would take the kids to the bathroom? I would not want my child to go knowing you'd probably send them in the bathroom alone. I'd have no problem paying for myself (no siblings so its a non-issue) but not a chance I'd send my 8 year old alone.

You don't let your 8 year old go in the bathroom alone? What if you have a kid of the opposite gender? I have a boy and he's very big for his age (7). It would be wildly inappropriate to go to the men's room with him or bring him to the women's room. He's been going in the bathroom alone since he was probably 5. I can't even remember honestly.

Yes, my 7 year old still goes into the women's bathroom with me. If you don't like it, too bad.

Sorry, that is gross. Poor kid needs a urinal and some respect

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, just be prepared that some parents are not going to be comfortable with a drop off at a movie theatre with that many kids and few adults. Who would take the kids to the bathroom? I would not want my child to go knowing you'd probably send them in the bathroom alone. I'd have no problem paying for myself (no siblings so its a non-issue) but not a chance I'd send my 8 year old alone.

You don't let your 8 year old go in the bathroom alone? What if you have a kid of the opposite gender? I have a boy and he's very big for his age (7). It would be wildly inappropriate to go to the men's room with him or bring him to the women's room. He's been going in the bathroom alone since he was probably 5. I can't even remember honestly.

Yes, my 7 year old still goes into the women's bathroom with me. If you don't like it, too bad.

This is sincerely mind blowing to me. I also believe you are way in the minority because not once in my life have I seen a 7 year old boy using a public women's restroom. I'm curious how long you plan to do this? What's the cut off?

I'm curious too. I'll take your "too bad" and raise you one - once they can independently use the bathroom, they are all set to use the men's room. Your caution does not match the likely danger level of the scenario.

No they aren't and things happen in bathrooms. I take my 7 year old in and am not at all concerned about what others think.

Please enlighten us with what happens in the men's bathroom at movie theater during a matinee. I am honestly curious.