Minority Women at Work

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I get along fine (and am friends) with other women of color and foreign born white women in my office, but get a real cold shoulder from American white women. Now that I think about it I get along well with American white women in our regional offices so maybe it's a DC thing.

I'm white and could have written this. What industry?

It is a D.C. Thing. I'm a white women and I can't get along with D.C. white womenswear.

Yes, one need not look any further than dcum to observe what a beatch fest DC is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think a lot of white people assume that non whites don't want to be their friend so they don't try.

This is a pertinent point

AA and I can become friends with anyone at work except for a white person. They are the snobbiest and least friendly in my experience. I can get along with them, but I'm not eating lunch with them. Anyone on here who's thinking this isn't about race is in denial or is white.

[Anonymous]

I'm South Asian, but born here. I definitely feel this way. Everyone he their own group and there isn't really one for me in my government office. Everyone is nice and I've found a group now, but it's taken a lot longer than a lot of people and I do think some of it is that people just don't have much experience with Asian-Americans.

[Anonymous]

I'm south Asian and do not feel this way. I've always had work friends of all backgrounds, and I have maintained many friendships even after changing jobs. I haven't always felt comfortable with senior leadership, but friendship is not an issue.

[Anonymous]

I know someone who is south Asian and he's told me that it's a lot easier for him than say an African American to fit into lots of different groups. Says African Americans love him because he's brown and white people love him because he's not black. South Asian love him too as long as they were raised here. He doesn't get along with newer Indian/paki immigrants because they don't consider him "Indian" enough. Says it's easier to date too because girls of any race/ethnicity are into him. I always thought south Asian people had it made in that regard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know someone who is south Asian and he's told me that it's a lot easier for him than say an African American to fit into lots of different groups. Says African Americans love him because he's brown and white people love him because he's not black. South Asian love him too as long as they were raised here. He doesn't get along with newer Indian/paki immigrants because they don't consider him "Indian" enough. Says it's easier to date too because girls of any race/ethnicity are into him. I always thought south Asian people had it made in that regard.

South Asian guys also tend to have good careers which helps.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think a lot of white people assume that non whites don't want to be their friend so they don't try.

This is a pertinent point

AA and I can become friends with anyone at work except for a white person. They are the snobbiest and least friendly in my experience. I can get along with them, but I'm not eating lunch with them. Anyone on here who's thinking this isn't about race is in denial or is white.

I agree that they are the snobbiest and least friendly (for the most part) but how do you explain that they treat me (and American white woman) the same way. I've tried in my office to find a group to have lunch with, socialize with, everything with everyone and honestly the white women are the least accepting and least friendliest. When I even suggest a lunch or happy hour, they just look at me like I asked for their first born. I don't think it's a race thing in my office - more of a snobby-bitch thing. I'm now finding my own set of friends that are of various backgrounds, color, and ethnicities - but I still sort of feel like we're the little "outcast" group. DC is harsh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think a lot of white people assume that non whites don't want to be their friend so they don't try.

This is a pertinent point

AA and I can become friends with anyone at work except for a white person. They are the snobbiest and least friendly in my experience. I can get along with them, but I'm not eating lunch with them. Anyone on here who's thinking this isn't about race is in denial or is white.

I agree that they are the snobbiest and least friendly (for the most part) but how do you explain that they treat me (and American white woman) the same way. I've tried in my office to find a group to have lunch with, socialize with, everything with everyone and honestly the white women are the least accepting and least friendliest. When I even suggest a lunch or happy hour, they just look at me like I asked for their first born. I don't think it's a race thing in my office - more of a snobby-bitch thing. I'm now finding my own set of friends that are of various backgrounds, color, and ethnicities - but I still sort of feel like we're the little "outcast" group. DC is harsh.

White women do not go out of their way to befriend minorities. They automatically click with other white women and start their own clique. If you're a minority you have to work very hard to get in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know someone who is south Asian and he's told me that it's a lot easier for him than say an African American to fit into lots of different groups. Says African Americans love him because he's brown and white people love him because he's not black. South Asian love him too as long as they were raised here. He doesn't get along with newer Indian/paki immigrants because they don't consider him "Indian" enough. Says it's easier to date too because girls of any race/ethnicity are into him. I always thought south Asian people had it made in that regard.

He must be fun and good looking. My south asian DH is like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know someone who is south Asian and he's told me that it's a lot easier for him than say an African American to fit into lots of different groups. Says African Americans love him because he's brown and white people love him because he's not black. South Asian love him too as long as they were raised here. He doesn't get along with newer Indian/paki immigrants because they don't consider him "Indian" enough. Says it's easier to date too because girls of any race/ethnicity are into him. I always thought south Asian people had it made in that regard.

South Asian guys also tend to have good careers which helps.

??

They don't necessarily have good careers because they are south asian. My DH works his ass off. Stays at the office later than anyone else. Works on weekends, etc. and he's very senior and steadily climbing.

[Anonymous]

South Asian American here. I'm an extrovert so I can talk to a wall. I get along with everybody at work but we aren't friends outside of the office due to different interests. I am the only south Asian in my entire office btw.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think a lot of white people assume that non whites don't want to be their friend so they don't try.

This is a pertinent point

AA and I can become friends with anyone at work except for a white person. They are the snobbiest and least friendly in my experience. I can get along with them, but I'm not eating lunch with them. Anyone on here who's thinking this isn't about race is in denial or is white.

I agree that they are the snobbiest and least friendly (for the most part) but how do you explain that they treat me (and American white woman) the same way. I've tried in my office to find a group to have lunch with, socialize with, everything with everyone and honestly the white women are the least accepting and least friendliest. When I even suggest a lunch or happy hour, they just look at me like I asked for their first born. I don't think it's a race thing in my office - more of a snobby-bitch thing. I'm now finding my own set of friends that are of various backgrounds, color, and ethnicities - but I still sort of feel like we're the little "outcast" group. DC is harsh.

White women do not go out of their way to befriend minorities. They automatically click with other white women and start their own clique. If you're a minority you have to work very hard to get in.

what I'm saying (i'm the pp you're quoting) is that I'm not a minority - I'm white. I'm a white woman and they treat me the same way - not friendly, don't include me, have their own clique and look at me like I'm 3-headed if I try to "get in"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think a lot of white people assume that non whites don't want to be their friend so they don't try.

This is a pertinent point

AA and I can become friends with anyone at work except for a white person. They are the snobbiest and least friendly in my experience. I can get along with them, but I'm not eating lunch with them. Anyone on here who's thinking this isn't about race is in denial or is white.

I agree that they are the snobbiest and least friendly (for the most part) but how do you explain that they treat me (and American white woman) the same way. I've tried in my office to find a group to have lunch with, socialize with, everything with everyone and honestly the white women are the least accepting and least friendliest. When I even suggest a lunch or happy hour, they just look at me like I asked for their first born. I don't think it's a race thing in my office - more of a snobby-bitch thing. I'm now finding my own set of friends that are of various backgrounds, color, and ethnicities - but I still sort of feel like we're the little "outcast" group. DC is harsh.

White women do not go out of their way to befriend minorities. They automatically click with other white women and start their own clique. If you're a minority you have to work very hard to get in.

what I'm saying (i'm the pp you're quoting) is that I'm not a minority - I'm white. I'm a white woman and they treat me the same way - not friendly, don't include me, have their own clique and look at me like I'm 3-headed if I try to "get in"

This is OP. This is how i feel. There's a group of blonde late twenties/early thirties clique at my job. When I tried to talk to them they acted like I was Shrek or something. So weird!!

Why do they do that to you? I assumed it was because I was "different."

[Anonymous]

Anecdotal I know, but as an AA female, every time I interviewed with a white female I did not get the job. Any female of any other race than White interviewing me, I was hired. White males, 50/50. Any other male, same 100% hiring rate.

Just saying, the job market regardless of industry (I am talking retail, restaurant, and office jobs over the past 15 years I have worked for) are VERY clique-ish.

[Anonymous]

I'm a white woman and pretty much only get along with the minority women at work. Maybe it is because they're more willing to reach out, whereas the other white women seem cliquey.