Seeking attorney to help us with bullying problem at FCPS

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Use the attorney to send a cease and desist letter to the parents just to get their attention.

You mean a letter threatening legal action against the other parents for damages? A private attorney has no authority to issue a cease and desist order.

An attorney can certainly send a cease and desist letter.

I wouldn't bother though. I would head straight to the commonwealths attorney's office and press charges on the little prick doing this. A few weeks in juvie will teach a lesson.

[Anonymous]

My nephew was bullied for years. The bully's parents bullied the school and were "important" in the community. The school did nothing. Unfortunately, my sister did not pull him out of the school. When she finally did - it was too late -- his self esteem was in the basement and he had major anxiety and depression, and he gained a ton of weight. He FINALLY moved to a new school (private) and was surprised that people were nice to him. However, his personality had changed a bit- to make him susceptible to bullying, and the bullying started again, but not nearly as bad. The new school IS MUCH better and working on the situation. Bullying causes life-long problems. My advice is to get him out as soon as you can.

[Anonymous]

An attorney can certainly send a cease and desist letter.

I wouldn't bother though. I would head straight to the commonwealths attorney's office and press charges on the little prick doing this. A few weeks in juvie will teach a lesson.

I may have missed something. Did OP ever tell us specifically what happened? You cannot press charges unless you have some kind of evidence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Use the attorney to send a cease and desist letter to the parents just to get their attention.

You mean a letter threatening legal action against the other parents for damages? A private attorney has no authority to issue a cease and desist order.

An attorney can certainly send a cease and desist letter.

I wouldn't bother though. I would head straight to the commonwealths attorney's office and press charges on the little prick doing this. A few weeks in juvie will teach a lesson.

I think of a cease and desist order as something that is actually enforceable. A private attorney can always send a letter that says she'll file a lawsuit if the bully doesn't stop misbehaving, but it's essentially just a threat. If it goes ignored you are in the same position you are in today.

And what makes you think the commonwealth's attorney will necessarily press charges? You'll need proof and witnesses at a minimum.

[Anonymous]

I think you owe it to your kid to switch schools, OP.

[Anonymous]

OP NEVER CAME BACK. Let this thread die already.

[Anonymous]

The SR&R is a joke.

I'd put the money you'd spend on a lawyer toward moving your son to a new school.

When my neighbor's son was being bullied, the principal told her he'd done all he could without hindering the bully's right to an education. The bully had been suspended, gotten in-school restriction, banned from the school bus, banned from certain after school events, etc. and nothing worked. He was still verbally, emotionally, and physically abusive.

[Anonymous]

Ugh, I was bullied by the same asshole from the first day of 7th grade. He actually lived across the street from my grandparents. I never really told my parents b/c I was embarrassed that I was probably just a p**sy and my sister was friends with his brother.

I google him from time to time, he's a COO and GC of a private equity firm and total compensation is $2.5 million.

I was gratified to hear at my reunion recently how many other people hated him.

I hate him. Life sucks sometimes.

[Anonymous]

What should teachers and the school do? If the kid is making mean comments or teasing a child, what do parents hope that the school will do. Expulsion is not a thing anymore in public schools. Moving a mean kid is just displacing the problem. What can a school really do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What should teachers and the school do? If the kid is making mean comments or teasing a child, what do parents hope that the school will do. Expulsion is not a thing anymore in public schools. Moving a mean kid is just displacing the problem. What can a school really do?

I can't believe in this day and age that we think bullying is just something to be tolerated. What would you do if it were your kid? Why can't we expect the schools to do the same thing. Call them out for it and teach them better behavior.

[Anonymous]

I can't believe in this day and age that we think bullying is just something to be tolerated. What would you do if it were your kid? Why can't we expect the schools to do the same thing. Call them out for it and teach them better behavior.

Pretty sure they do that. I think the question is what do you do if it doesn't work?

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately they don't always do that. Make bullying uncool and it will stop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately they don't always do that. Make bullying uncool and it will stop.

And, how do you do that?

[Anonymous]

It would help if the bullied were allowed to clean the bully's clock once and for all.

Enough of guidance counselor lessons about how we all need to accept one another regardless. Time to advocate for self-defense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately they don't always do that. Make bullying uncool and it will stop.

And, how do you do that?

Activities that involve education. Activities that involve reflecting on how people are working to be a better friend. There are whole research centers and programs on this.