What are the little things a husband should do for his wife to make her feel appreciated?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Even just once a month, when the kids wake up on Saturday morning, take them downstairs without saying a word and let me stay in bed for another half hour.

If you want to hit it out of the park, bring me the newspaper and a cup of coffee, take them out for breakfast.

I swear, this would make me a new woman.

I'm a DH and donthis every weekend

Uh. Congrats?

[Anonymous]

I make sure I febreeze the shitter every time I take a dump

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cuddle her to sleep, without trying to get sex. Give her a kiss goodbye and say you love her when you leave. If she has a messy car clean it out for her. Fix something around the house you've put off without her asking. Pinch her butt. Tell her she looks nice. Being her flowers. Tell her her food is good. Tell her she is a good mom. Babysit the kids and encourage her to go out when you see she is spent.

You sound amazing! Wish my dh were more like this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Asking for a friend

I posted at 15:15 on the other thread yesterday (I'm the DH) and here is a small sample of what I do for my beloved DW:

- I make her tea every morning
- I tell her how beautiful she looks (I add a bit more flavor when she wear specific outfits or colors that drive me wild)
- I pat her on the but when I walk by her in the kitchen
- I take the dog out on the weekends and when the kids don't have any early events (sports, music), we leave the house so she does get that extra hour (+/-) of extra sleep
- I see things that need to be done around the house and I just do them before DW asks
- I hug her just because
- I hold her hand whenever we are out - I open the doors for her (and teaching our boys that they need to the same for any woman, not just mom or their sister), I order the wine, I happily share my plate even when I really don't like what she ordered
- I plan our date night every 2 weeks
- when I suggest we eat out, I know where we are going (i.e., I've already made a reservation)
- I recognize when I just need to the decision and I just do it
- I always have a blanket for her when we snuggle on the couch because I know she will always get cold at some point
- I do the grocery shopping, take out the garbage, wash her car, fill up her gas tank and/or oil, take care of the car servicing (b/c she never remembers how long the service light has been on) - I just do these things and tell her afterwards
- I take care of the bills when they come in (in the mail or via email)
- I take care of taxes, insurance, home service calls, etc.
- I show up to all of our 3 kids' events during the week even if that means moving meetings on my calendar or doing extra work late at night to make up for lost time in the office
- I don't use electronics during family time - so I am 100% present at dinner and in doing family stuff, homework in the evenings
- I talk to her at the dinner table and engage in conversation with the kids so she doesn't have be on 100% of the time
- I rub her feet and her shoulders when I know she's had a rough day (she's a teacher and is always on the go)
- I tell her I love her every morning and evening and send her at least one text during the day saying that
- I follow through on what I said I was going to do
- I let her vent, I listen, I don't judge her
- I am honest, open with her and emotionally available to her
- I tell her when I'm upset or miffed and we can talk with each other (and make up )
- I make her laugh all the time - sometimes even when I didn't intend it
- when she's feeling anxious, I tell her, sincerely, that everything will be just fine

You sir are the reason why women folk are pampered.

Omg why didn't I marry you ?!?!?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just notice how much she's doing..

+1

That's it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I give my wife random hugs, hold her tight while typically she is working in the kitchen and then disappear before she understands why I am doing it. Also send her random smiley texts. Childish things like that.

Why aren't you also working in the kitchen?

and there it is...a simple, honest, loving gesture is just not sufficient, it has to be all about you doesn't it?

NP ... the original answer of a random hug and smiley texts would definitely me feel loved. No additional work in the kitchen needed to make it perfect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I give my wife random hugs, hold her tight while typically she is working in the kitchen and then disappear before she understands why I am doing it. Also send her random smiley texts. Childish things like that.

Why aren't you also working in the kitchen?

and there it is...a simple, honest, loving gesture is just not sufficient, it has to be all about you doesn't it?

NP ... the original answer of a random hug and smiley texts would definitely me feel loved. No additional work in the kitchen needed to make it perfect.

A Loving gesture actually IS all about the other person. The question was what makes a wife feel appreciated.

I personally wouldn't feel appreciated if someone walked into where I was working and then "disappeared." I'd feel far more appreciated as if the person also said "hey honey. Do you need a hand?" If he made a habit of that, is often decline. Particularly if the sincere offer was accompanied by a sweet hug. I just don't know in what universe having someone disappear and leave you working would make one feel appreciated. Even hanging out in the kitchen and keeping me company while I cook would be preferable to kissing and disappearing.