Absent Father- Now wants to take me to court for visitation

[Anonymous]

Update: He did show up to her dance recital. He watched her performance. After the show he snapped 2 pictures then said he had to go. With me being stuck to explain why he didn't stay longer, I haven't seen my dad in so long, he just took pictures and left, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this a step toward 50/50 custody so he doesn't have to pay child support?

I don't think so. But I'm not sure.

Based on the information you've provided, my gut reaction is also that he wants to establish partial custody to reduce child support payments.

In your shoes I would see a lawyer, but in general, I would be very open to increased visits, but I would try to hold off on overnight visits as long as possible. It doesn't seem like a healthy environment for your child. A kid with asthma should never be in a home with a smoker. That would be my line in the sand so to speak.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:New girlfriend? He'll forget about this. Mine gives me a little run around every Year or two but never follows through on what he says (heh)

OP here. Who ever made this comment was absolutely correct. He didn't have a new girlfriend but a wife. 2 years later and his visitation or lack thereof is non existent. He saw my daughter only once last year. And so far twice this year earlier in the year. Made no attempts to see her for her birthday either. He hasn't made any mention of wanting to see her or taking me to court.

[Anonymous]

Op I'd email him and say you are thrilled! To start visitation. Offer some day time meetings with you, then some day time meetings where you leave them together, with a goal to work up to overnights *IF* he has an adequate place for her to sleep. It is in your child's interest to have a relationship with her dad unless he is a danger to her.

No need to go to court.

[Anonymous]

PS make sure you document everything. Keep a diary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I do have several concerns. He has battled alcoholism, depression, mental health issues, and suicidal thoughts for years. He's also a smoker and my child is severely asthmatic.

Our child, OP. Our child. You should get used to sharing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I do have several concerns. He has battled alcoholism, depression, mental health issues, and suicidal thoughts for years. He's also a smoker and my child is severely asthmatic.

Our child, OP. Our child. You should get used to sharing.

This is an old thread OP pulled up for attention. She said Dad has no contact so its a non-issue.

[Anonymous]

I doubt OP was looking for attention. She probably was looking through old posts and noticed hers. I've done that before and commented. It's not that deep. Relax people.

[Anonymous]

Most of the absent fathers who suddenly want more visitation are going for overnights in a bid to reduce CS.

[Anonymous]

Maybe supervised visitation is a good option.

[Anonymous]

He will petition and he’ll get visitstion as he should.

SMH at some of y’all trifling mothers on here. Want that check and that’s it.

If the court see he does have those problems, they’ll grant supervised visitation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He will petition and he’ll get visitstion as he should.

SMH at some of y’all trifling mothers on here. Want that check and that’s it.

If the court see he does have those problems, they’ll grant supervised visitation.

If anyone is "trifling" here, it is you. Go back and read the entire thread before posting.

OP, thanks for the update!