Ex is trying to black mail me

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What is he going to contact your family about?

i'm gonna guess op is an asian or arab chic and her ex is a white or black guy. and she's shit scared that her parents will find out she was getting f-ed by said ex.

Yes I'm Arab. My dad would probably never speak to me again.

probably should've thought about that before dating someone who would pump-and-dump you.

You seem a bit dim. Given the ex's behavior, it's much more likely that she dumped him.

Yes. I broke up with him and said some pretty mean stuff to him. He deserved it though and I don't regret what I said. He's angry at me and says there are consequences for my words . I made fun of his penis size. I know it was mean but he didn't treat me well.

Yeah, you're a gem.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What is he going to contact your family about?

i'm gonna guess op is an asian or arab chic and her ex is a white or black guy. and she's shit scared that her parents will find out she was getting f-ed by said ex.

Yes I'm Arab. My dad would probably never speak to me again.

Imagine how he would feel if your ex posted naked pictures of you online. Do not give in to your ex.

Call the cops and get a restraining order. If he contacts you or your family he can get arrested. That's usually very effective deterrent for most people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe you're underestimating your dad. My Turkish sister in law started dating a Jamaican black man 7 years ago. When her dad first found out, he didn't speak to her for a few weeks. Now, that Jamaican man is her husband (dad walked her down the aisle), a full time employee in the family business, and they have a lovely baby together.
If you're scared your family will disown you, just lie and say the guy's obsessed with you. Does he have proof you were together? Your family is much more likely to believe you than some stranger. Turn on the tears.

This.

Tell your family that he is a crazy stalker.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you give him pictures, then he can threaten to send them to your family.

Contact the police.

Also maybe look at why you let the men in your life exert so much control over you. Never speaking to you over who you dated is some seriously controlling shit and is messed up. I get it's a cultural thing but it's really not okay for a father to try to control his adult daughters body. If my dad did that, I'd tell him to fuck off (and then be totally fine with not speaking to him).

OP was raised to respect her parents and traditions. not to be an easy white girl who was blowing dudes in the high school parking lot at age 14.

You say that like it's a bad thing.

If OP were empowered to take control and responsibility for her own sexuality, she wouldn't be in this fix.

[Anonymous]

OP, please ignore the people who are saying the police won't do anything - they most certainly will.

In college I had a boyfriend who would not leave me alone. He did not threaten me with violence or try to extort me for naked pictures. He just wouldn't take no for an answer. After I lost my patience I called the police - they talked to him and said one more unwanted contact would result in a restraining order. That was enough to deter my ex.

Your ex is harassing you at the least and exporting you at the worst. Please get the police involved. They can help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, please ignore the people who are saying the police won't do anything - they most certainly will.

In college I had a boyfriend who would not leave me alone. He did not threaten me with violence or try to extort me for naked pictures. He just wouldn't take no for an answer. After I lost my patience I called the police - they talked to him and said one more unwanted contact would result in a restraining order. That was enough to deter my ex.

Your ex is harassing you at the least and exporting you at the worst. Please get the police involved. They can help.

Are you in DC, MD or VA? Restraining order in DC is pretty easy to get. You file, you have good reason, judge looks at it, you get temporary order till hearing, he gets served (scares the shit out of him) and has to show up at court. If he calls during that time before the hearing he has just violated the order, turn him in. Then they will put out a bench warrant for him or possibly even just go pick him up on the spot. All the things involved with a RO will motivate him to cut it out. My sister is divorcing and her husband got real crazy and was stalking her like crazy. When you get served papers to show up in court, it is like a come to jesus meeting.

[Anonymous]

OP go out and buy The Gift of Fear by Gavin DeBecker. He has specific step by step instructions to help in situations like this.

http://www.nytimes.com/1998/08/25/science/personal-health-do-s-and-don-ts-for-thwarting-stalker.html

"He said that when an unwanted pursuer starts making persistent phone calls, sending messages, showing up uninvited at a woman's job, school or home, following her or trying to get her friends or family to help his cause, ''it is very important that no further detectable response be given.''

Mr. de Becker added: ''He views any response as progress. If you call the pursuer back, or agree to meet, or send him a note or have somebody warn him off, you buy another six weeks of his unwanted pursuit.''"

[Anonymous]

If he does tell your parents, tell them he is lying or crazy or a stalker or something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If he does tell your parents, tell them he is lying or crazy or a stalker or something.

I agree. That's why you need to call the police and report this. You can tell your parents that he used to be a friend who became obsessed with you and won't take no for an answer. The restraining order will help get him out of your life faster and will give you credibility with your family if he does contact them.

[Anonymous]

"Dad this guy is saying awful things about me. What should I do?"

[Anonymous]

OP - could it be that he demanding naked pix b/c he doesn't have any other solid proof that you were together (i.e., anything that he could show to your parents that you had an intimate relationship).

DO NOT send these to him.

[jsteele]

This OP is a troll who has started a number of dramatic threads, frequently involving boyfriends though occasionally veering off into underwear.