Ex is trying to black mail me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you give him pictures, then he can threaten to send them to your family.

Contact the police.

Also maybe look at why you let the men in your life exert so much control over you. Never speaking to you over who you dated is some seriously controlling shit and is messed up. I get it's a cultural thing but it's really not okay for a father to try to control his adult daughters body. If my dad did that, I'd tell him to fuck off (and then be totally fine with not speaking to him).

OP was raised to respect her parents and traditions. not to be an easy white girl who was blowing dudes in the high school parking lot at age 14.

[Anonymous]

Sure, send the pics. Then he'll start with the real demands. Within weeks you'll be getting pimped out on the net.

Girl, call the police. If not for yourself, then do it for the next woman this cretin "befriends".

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you give him pictures, then he can threaten to send them to your family.

Contact the police.

Also maybe look at why you let the men in your life exert so much control over you. Never speaking to you over who you dated is some seriously controlling shit and is messed up. I get it's a cultural thing but it's really not okay for a father to try to control his adult daughters body. If my dad did that, I'd tell him to fuck off (and then be totally fine with not speaking to him).

OP was raised to respect her parents and traditions. not to be an easy white girl who was blowing dudes in the high school parking lot at age 14.

Jealous those girls weren't blowing you? Maybe I'm an easy white girl but I'm happy, no one is controlling me, and I sure as hell don't have anyone blackmailing me for nude pics.

There's a difference between respecting parents and letting parents control their adult child's life. Not speaking to someone IS abuse. When a spouse uses the silent treatment against their partner it's abuse. No different for parents. When a parent uses it against a child it's abuse.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you give him pictures, then he can threaten to send them to your family.

Contact the police.

Also maybe look at why you let the men in your life exert so much control over you. Never speaking to you over who you dated is some seriously controlling shit and is messed up. I get it's a cultural thing but it's really not okay for a father to try to control his adult daughters body. If my dad did that, I'd tell him to fuck off (and then be totally fine with not speaking to him).

OP was raised to respect her parents and traditions. not to be an easy white girl who was blowing dudes in the high school parking lot at age 14.

Oh and obviously she's not following traditions if she's dating a guy who her parents disapprove of.

Nothing wrong with that. Some traditions suck. It's okay to break free of it.

OP I hope everything turns out okay. You deserve a life where you can make your own decisions and not be punished for them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What is he going to contact your family about?

i'm gonna guess op is an asian or arab chic and her ex is a white or black guy. and she's shit scared that her parents will find out she was getting f-ed by said ex.

Yes I'm Arab. My dad would probably never speak to me again.

The best thing to do is 1) call the cops, give them the text and let them take it to the DA to prosecute. 2) Disarm him by telling your parents yourself. If your father is going to disown you for this then guess what, he will find something else to disown you about anyway so mind as well be done with it. Plus you never know he might not have the reaction you think according to how you present him with it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What is he going to contact your family about?

i'm gonna guess op is an asian or arab chic and her ex is a white or black guy. and she's shit scared that her parents will find out she was getting f-ed by said ex.

Yes I'm Arab. My dad would probably never speak to me again.

probably should've thought about that before dating someone who would pump-and-dump you.

You seem a bit dim. Given the ex's behavior, it's much more likely that she dumped him.

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Anonymous wrote:What is he going to contact your family about?

i'm gonna guess op is an asian or arab chic and her ex is a white or black guy. and she's shit scared that her parents will find out she was getting f-ed by said ex.

Yes I'm Arab. My dad would probably never speak to me again.

The best thing to do is 1) call the cops, give them the text and let them take it to the DA to prosecute. 2) Disarm him by telling your parents yourself. If your father is going to disown you for this then guess what, he will find something else to disown you about anyway so mind as well be done with it. Plus you never know he might not have the reaction you think according to how you present him with it.

I would call the cops too, BUT depending on what the text says they may not be able to do anything. If he is not threatening a crime then he is not committing a crime. It is not illegal to tell someones parents that they have been in a relationship with their child. So while an Officer may be nice and just call him and tell him to back off, not sure if much can be done legally.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What is he going to contact your family about?

i'm gonna guess op is an asian or arab chic and her ex is a white or black guy. and she's shit scared that her parents will find out she was getting f-ed by said ex.

Yes I'm Arab. My dad would probably never speak to me again.

probably should've thought about that before dating someone who would pump-and-dump you.

You seem a bit dim. Given the ex's behavior, it's much more likely that she dumped him.

Yes. I broke up with him and said some pretty mean stuff to him. He deserved it though and I don't regret what I said. He's angry at me and says there are consequences for my words . I made fun of his penis size. I know it was mean but he didn't treat me well.

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Anonymous wrote:What is he going to contact your family about?

i'm gonna guess op is an asian or arab chic and her ex is a white or black guy. and she's shit scared that her parents will find out she was getting f-ed by said ex.

Yes I'm Arab. My dad would probably never speak to me again.

The best thing to do is 1) call the cops, give them the text and let them take it to the DA to prosecute. 2) Disarm him by telling your parents yourself. If your father is going to disown you for this then guess what, he will find something else to disown you about anyway so mind as well be done with it. Plus you never know he might not have the reaction you think according to how you present him with it.

I would call the cops too, BUT depending on what the text says they may not be able to do anything. If he is not threatening a crime then he is not committing a crime. It is not illegal to tell someones parents that they have been in a relationship with their child. So while an Officer may be nice and just call him and tell him to back off, not sure if much can be done legally.

He threatened me to do this if I don't send naked pictures.

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Anonymous wrote:What is he going to contact your family about?

i'm gonna guess op is an asian or arab chic and her ex is a white or black guy. and she's shit scared that her parents will find out she was getting f-ed by said ex.

Yes I'm Arab. My dad would probably never speak to me again.

The best thing to do is 1) call the cops, give them the text and let them take it to the DA to prosecute. 2) Disarm him by telling your parents yourself. If your father is going to disown you for this then guess what, he will find something else to disown you about anyway so mind as well be done with it. Plus you never know he might not have the reaction you think according to how you present him with it.

I would call the cops too, BUT depending on what the text says they may not be able to do anything. If he is not threatening a crime then he is not committing a crime. It is not illegal to tell someones parents that they have been in a relationship with their child. So while an Officer may be nice and just call him and tell him to back off, not sure if much can be done legally.

He threatened me to do this if I don't send naked pictures.

Im the PP, A threat though has to be a threat of bodily harm. Threatening to be a dick is not illegal.

[Anonymous]

I would tell him to stop contacting you. Make that the only words you say to him. When he refuses, and continues to contact you against your wished, that is harassment. That is your legal angle, not extortion or blackmail.

Then, when/if he goes to your parents, you have a much better case that it's just a guy obsessed with you. But I don't think he's really going to your parents. He just said that to rile you up. And it's working.

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Anonymous wrote:What is he going to contact your family about?

i'm gonna guess op is an asian or arab chic and her ex is a white or black guy. and she's shit scared that her parents will find out she was getting f-ed by said ex.

Yes I'm Arab. My dad would probably never speak to me again.

The best thing to do is 1) call the cops, give them the text and let them take it to the DA to prosecute. 2) Disarm him by telling your parents yourself. If your father is going to disown you for this then guess what, he will find something else to disown you about anyway so mind as well be done with it. Plus you never know he might not have the reaction you think according to how you present him with it.

I would call the cops too, BUT depending on what the text says they may not be able to do anything. If he is not threatening a crime then he is not committing a crime. It is not illegal to tell someones parents that they have been in a relationship with their child. So while an Officer may be nice and just call him and tell him to back off, not sure if much can be done legally.

Are you sure ? I think it's sexual harassment.

He threatened me to do this if I don't send naked pictures.

Im the PP, A threat though has to be a threat of bodily harm. Threatening to be a dick is not illegal.

[Anonymous]

But he's requesting naked pictures and is threatening to do something obviously detrimental to OP if she doesn't comply. I think it's worth a call to the police.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Call the police. It's the only way to stop him from blackmailing/bothering you in the future.

If you don't do it, he will not stop.

This. Now.

[Anonymous]

Ignore him. Block him. Move on with your life.

Don't let this guy have power over your feelings for one more minute.