Registered child sexual offender lives next door

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP here, for the person who said that you are better of knowing he is next door because anyone could be a molester, that is just silly. People who molest children WILL, if given the opportunity, do so again. So this is a very serious situation. Would you drive your kid in a car that is known to have bad brakes because any car can be involved in an accident?

Your analogy is not correct.

I would not drive in a car that was known to have bad breaks, since I KNOW the car has bad breaks, I KNOW to never drive it. I would not let my children interact with a KNOWN child molester. Yes, they molest again, but they only molest when they have an opportunity. Since we would know this guy is dangerous, my children would be kept out of his reach and be given explicit instructions to NEVER EVER under any circumstances talk to him. If this guy had never been caught and we did not know he was a creep, he could have the opportunity to use his tricks of the trade to ingratiate himself to our kids and family and become a true danger.

There is no point in moving, we live in a densely populated area. Chances are that many of us have molesters living close to us and even in our families, some caught some not. The only strategy one could employ to escape danger is to dig bunkers and never emerge. The other option is to give your children skills to identify perverts which will safeguard them against all members of society. Starting with Gavin De Becker's books is a good place to begin.

Sorry, I have to disagree with you. Child molesters tend to become obsessed with and fixate on certain children that they come into contact with somehow. I would not want my children to be eyeballed day in day out by my pervy neighbor and risk that he become obsessed with my daughter or son. Often these kids are close neighbors or relatives. They have ample time to watch you and your family, learn your routines and take their time figuring out how to get past your defenses. If you think giving your kids explicit instructions never to talk to someone is protection enough, that is your perogative but we all know that kids as well as adults slip up. Plus how do you ensure the guy doesn't approach your child with a weapon? What if he breaks into your house at night and takes your child at gunpoint? What if he follows you and your child until he figures out when your child is not under your guard and THEN takes him or her? Like I said, MOST kids are not just snatched by random strangers--these guys tend to learn about their victims and are very very crafty.

I can't protect my kids against the dangers I don't know about but would not knowingly allow them to be in that situation. Even if there are bad people everywhere, the statistical likelihood that I live next door to a child molestor is far lower than the statistical likelihood that the OP lives next door to one (which in her case is 100%).

Anyway, I recognize that we all have different tolerances for risk so there is room for disagreement on this issue. However, with the utmost respect (seriously, not trying to pick a fight) you might want to educate yourself a little more about how these guys work.

[Anonymous]

OP I just want to say how badly I feel for you. I cannot imagine how anxious and stressed you must be right now. I have a loony neighbor myself who rumor has it molested his daughter. He's a crazy old f*ck right now, so I dont fear that particular aspect of him, but I know it is HORRID to live near someone who makes you fear for your family. I'm so sorry for you. I have no idea what you should do--if I were you I probably would just gold out hope that since we was renting he would be gone soon. I, like you, would feel that, even though it is not required for me to do so, that I would want to disclose this to potential buyers. I feel your dilemma, because I would feel awful for not. I understand the onus is on the buyer--I know when we bought our house we had to sign something saying we basically bought at our own risk in terms of sex offenders, and that it was up to us to do the research--but I know you are torn, because you are a good person. I am praying for you. Is renting your house possible until this disgusting piece of garbage moves for good an option? I agree with another poster: why are these slimy f-ing pigs allowed to live near children? His family that owns the house obviously has no morality to let him rent next to a family with two small girls. They are total garbage, too.

[Anonymous]

Incest abusers rarely abuse outside of the family. And they are also usually not pedophiles. Just fwiw.

[Anonymous]

Oh, for the love of Christ. Again, he is going to be way more avoidant of you than you are of him. Clearly, don't send your children over to see if he needs help watering his plants, but other than that go about your business. If he was convicted in Virginia and just finished a sentence of incarceration last year, he is on sex offender probation. He sees his probation officer regularly. His probation officer knows where he lives and works. He is likely undergoing ongoing treatment and must submit to polygraph examinations, urine screens, and a host of other time consuming and intrusive obligations. If he doesn't comply with probation, he will be incarcerated again. What on earth do you think will be accomplished by going over to his house to confront him? That you will put him on notice that you know he is a sex offender? Newsflash. He assumes you know this. He has not come next door to borrow a cup of sugar or see if you want to watch Oprah because he assumes he will be shunned at best and persecuted at worst. If you do go next door to confront him in your nicest voice be prepared that he will view the conversation far differently and if he does believe that you are threatening or harassing him as a result of his status as a sex offender, he has every right to call the police or truck on down to the local magistrate and swear out a warrant against you, OP. Take this free legal advice being offered by a bona fide criminal defense attorney who represents sex offenders and all other offenders, drop it. Arm yourself with knowledge and avoid contact. And in answer to your question, no, you are not entitled to his statement if it is not present in the court file. His statement would be a part of the police report on the case and police reports are not subject to FOIA requests and they are not subject to discovery rules in Virginia. You are also not entitled to see the pre-sentence report as it is a confidential document only viewable by the parties.

[Anonymous]

OP here. In response to why I want to see the written statements is I want to see if he really confessed. In the back of my mind (and after watching one too many Lifetime movies) I'm holding out hope this accusation was somehow tied to a custody dispute and he plead guilty to save his daughter the pain of a trial. In my mind if he confessed, then this isn't even a possibility and I'm out of here.

[Anonymous]

It's comforting to know that even the scum of the earth have rights. Happy 4th!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh, for the love of Christ. Again, he is going to be way more avoidant of you than you are of him. Clearly, don't send your children over to see if he needs help watering his plants, but other than that go about your business. If he was convicted in Virginia and just finished a sentence of incarceration last year, he is on sex offender probation. He sees his probation officer regularly. His probation officer knows where he lives and works. He is likely undergoing ongoing treatment and must submit to polygraph examinations, urine screens, and a host of other time consuming and intrusive obligations. If he doesn't comply with probation, he will be incarcerated again.

This isn't a very helpful tone to take with a mom who is concerned that something permanently damaging could happen to one of her totally innocent young children. I would not assume that a pedophile living next to me would be going out of his way to avoid my daughters just because he'd gotten in trouble before. Obviously OP already knows not to let her daughters help him do his gardening. She wrote a thoughtful question, wondering if she had any obligation to tell someone who purchased her home. She has questions, and she is worried about her daughter's safety. She does not need to be put down for that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. In response to why I want to see the written statements is I want to see if he really confessed. In the back of my mind (and after watching one too many Lifetime movies) I'm holding out hope this accusation was somehow tied to a custody dispute and he plead guilty to save his daughter the pain of a trial. In my mind if he confessed, then this isn't even a possibility and I'm out of here.

You are a better person than I to have even thought of this and I applaud you. Find out as best you can. That said, pedophiles really are all around us. Its disgusting and horrible but true. I prefer the devil-I-know to the devil-I-don't as an earlier poster said. As to the PP who gives the explanation about how pedophiles pick and obsess over their victims, that can be true, but is more of an exception. This type of rather rare and sensational type of case does't seem to apply to this guy who's victim was his own child. It usually takes a relationship and "grooming" for most pedophiles to catch a vitim.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh, for the love of Christ. Again, he is going to be way more avoidant of you than you are of him. Clearly, don't send your children over to see if he needs help watering his plants, but other than that go about your business. If he was convicted in Virginia and just finished a sentence of incarceration last year, he is on sex offender probation. He sees his probation officer regularly. His probation officer knows where he lives and works. He is likely undergoing ongoing treatment and must submit to polygraph examinations, urine screens, and a host of other time consuming and intrusive obligations. If he doesn't comply with probation, he will be incarcerated again. What on earth do you think will be accomplished by going over to his house to confront him? That you will put him on notice that you know he is a sex offender? Newsflash. He assumes you know this. He has not come next door to borrow a cup of sugar or see if you want to watch Oprah because he assumes he will be shunned at best and persecuted at worst. If you do go next door to confront him in your nicest voice be prepared that he will view the conversation far differently and if he does believe that you are threatening or harassing him as a result of his status as a sex offender, he has every right to call the police or truck on down to the local magistrate and swear out a warrant against you, OP. Take this free legal advice being offered by a bona fide criminal defense attorney who represents sex offenders and all other offenders, drop it. Arm yourself with knowledge and avoid contact. And in answer to your question, no, you are not entitled to his statement if it is not present in the court file. His statement would be a part of the police report on the case and police reports are not subject to FOIA requests and they are not subject to discovery rules in Virginia. You are also not entitled to see the pre-sentence report as it is a confidential document only viewable by the parties.

A sane person has entered the room (and I think there are 2 others as well).

Why would it come as a shock to anyone that they live in close proximity to a child molester, particularly in an urban area surrounded by swarms of humanity? Convicted or no? I know scores of people who were abused as children ALL by people they know, no one in jail or convicted, one of which is my vile grandfather. I'm sure the OP has some irrational fear that this guy is going to break into her home in the middle of the night molest her children, which of course I can understand, but realize since it is NOT me in her situation that this is highly unlikely. Doesn't EVERYONE with an ounce of education and common sense protect their children from being in situations with adults who could compromise them?

To a poster who is asking why these people walk the streets? Ask the liberal dumb-f*cks that you all elect and the bleeding heart judges who are appointed. There are people who believe these scumbags should spend hard core jail time and in some cases deserve death. Look up Supreme Court's June 25th, 2008 ruling in favor of 300 lb Patrick Kennedy who brutally raped his 8yr old stepdaughter. The ruling mostly along ideological lines and thanks to liberal judges and a public filled with lemmings, these monsters won’t ever fry. All I hope is that Patrick Kennedy got put in General Population and became someone’s bitch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. In response to why I want to see the written statements is I want to see if he really confessed. In the back of my mind (and after watching one too many Lifetime movies) I'm holding out hope this accusation was somehow tied to a custody dispute and he plead guilty to save his daughter the pain of a trial. In my mind if he confessed, then this isn't even a possibility and I'm out of here.

You are a better person than I to have even thought of this and I applaud you. Find out as best you can. That said, pedophiles really are all around us. Its disgusting and horrible but true. I prefer the devil-I-know to the devil-I-don't as an earlier poster said. As to the PP who gives the explanation about how pedophiles pick and obsess over their victims, that can be true, but is more of an exception. This type of rather rare and sensational type of case does't seem to apply to this guy who's victim was his own child. It usually takes a relationship and "grooming" for most pedophiles to catch a vitim.

I think that poster probably followed the Elizabeth Smart case too much and thinks this is the norm. 90% of children are molested by someone CLOSE to the family. I'm sure many of us women who would prefer not to bring up old wounds can attest to this. Molesters operate right in the open.

[Anonymous]

Actually no, that poster (me) has a best friend who works prosecutes child sex crimes. But whatever.

[Anonymous]

I have several friends that were abused by their fathers, uncles, etc. and they were never reported to the police. I would not be at all surprised if this was the most common scenario. Registry or not, I brace myself for every neighborhood having at least one pedophile and watch my child accordingly.

I was the victim of the predator type. My mother supervised when we played outside and we were not allowed to speak to anyone we did not know. One night, he broke into our house and attacked me while everyone else was asleep. My mother did everything right, and yet he still found access. I supervise as my own mother did, but I also have two large dogs and an alarm system. My attacker was not and is not on any offender registry. Actually, he was never formally charged.

[Anonymous]

They are everywhere, even at the library. http://www3.whdh.com/news/articles/local/BO72231/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh, for the love of Christ. Again, he is going to be way more avoidant of you than you are of him. Clearly, don't send your children over to see if he needs help watering his plants, but other than that go about your business. If he was convicted in Virginia and just finished a sentence of incarceration last year, he is on sex offender probation. He sees his probation officer regularly. His probation officer knows where he lives and works. He is likely undergoing ongoing treatment and must submit to polygraph examinations, urine screens, and a host of other time consuming and intrusive obligations. If he doesn't comply with probation, he will be incarcerated again. What on earth do you think will be accomplished by going over to his house to confront him? That you will put him on notice that you know he is a sex offender? Newsflash. He assumes you know this. He has not come next door to borrow a cup of sugar or see if you want to watch Oprah because he assumes he will be shunned at best and persecuted at worst. If you do go next door to confront him in your nicest voice be prepared that he will view the conversation far differently and if he does believe that you are threatening or harassing him as a result of his status as a sex offender, he has every right to call the police or truck on down to the local magistrate and swear out a warrant against you, OP. Take this free legal advice being offered by a bona fide criminal defense attorney who represents sex offenders and all other offenders, drop it. Arm yourself with knowledge and avoid contact. And in answer to your question, no, you are not entitled to his statement if it is not present in the court file. His statement would be a part of the police report on the case and police reports are not subject to FOIA requests and they are not subject to discovery rules in Virginia. You are also not entitled to see the pre-sentence report as it is a confidential document only viewable by the parties.

A sane person has entered the room (and I think there are 2 others as well).

Why would it come as a shock to anyone that they live in close proximity to a child molester, particularly in an urban area surrounded by swarms of humanity? Convicted or no? I know scores of people who were abused as children ALL by people they know, no one in jail or convicted, one of which is my vile grandfather. I'm sure the OP has some irrational fear that this guy is going to break into her home in the middle of the night molest her children, which of course I can understand, but realize since it is NOT me in her situation that this is highly unlikely. Doesn't EVERYONE with an ounce of education and common sense protect their children from being in situations with adults who could compromise them?

To a poster who is asking why these people walk the streets? Ask the liberal dumb-f*cks that you all elect and the bleeding heart judges who are appointed. There are people who believe these scumbags should spend hard core jail time and in some cases deserve death. Look up Supreme Court's June 25th, 2008 ruling in favor of 300 lb Patrick Kennedy who brutally raped his 8yr old stepdaughter. The ruling mostly along ideological lines and thanks to liberal judges and a public filled with lemmings, these monsters won’t ever fry. All I hope is that Patrick Kennedy got put in General Population and became someone’s bitch.

Sorry, but the "sane person" sounded a little too exasperated that this dick-fuck's life was being slightly inconvenienced by having neighbors that found out he raped his 8 year old daughter. And you call me a liberal? Hardly. If someone did this to my daughter, I would have no problem taking the law into my own hands.

[Anonymous]

Only in D.C. would someone consider fighting crazy with crazy - LOL!