DWs: how did you get back that loving feeling?

[Anonymous]

Get your wives to read cheesy romance novels. Super horny inducing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This sounds similar to my situation. Married 5yrs have a 3 and 2 year old. Kids are only 15 months apart, we didn't have sex for over a yr after I found out I was pregnant with my second and my first was still an infant. I was exhausted, staying at home with the kids, feeling alone and isolated and felt like my DH never really listened or cared. Last yr for Christmas he surprised me with a trip to Grand Cayman he is not the surprise or grand gesture type at all, so I was completely shocked. He planned the entire thing booked the hotel, the flights, made sure our passports were up to date, made dinner reservations etc. the trip was incredible. We stayed at the Ritz, when to expensive restaurants, let me order all the expensive wine and get massages and facials and just relax. Honestly though he could of taken me anywhere. It was the fact that he planned the entire trip himself that made me get that lovin feeling back. I didn't have to lift a finger and Im usually the one who plans all trips and family activities too. It turns out he was actually listening when I was saying can I just get away for a few days and be free and relax and he realized how much I just needed a break from being just mom in the suburbs watching Mickey Mouse and driving to the Starbucks drive through as my weekly highlight. It was nice to feel like I was a woman who deserved to be pampered. We only went for 4 days but it really changed everything.

Seriously? No sex for a year? Doesn't sound to me like a woman who deserves to be pampered. I can't believe he stayed, let alone booked an elaborate trip.

[Anonymous]

Well I probably should have explained high risk pregnancy, followed by c-section and then 2 under 2 just left us exhausted and out of touch with each other as a couple and just going about the motions to get through life with small kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well I probably should have explained high risk pregnancy, followed by c-section and then 2 under 2 just left us exhausted and out of touch with each other as a couple and just going about the motions to get through life with small kids

No man (ever!) has been "too tired" for a whole year. Admit it: you avoided sex with him. Why then do you deserve pampering? I'd say HE does.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This sounds similar to my situation. Married 5yrs have a 3 and 2 year old. Kids are only 15 months apart, we didn't have sex for over a yr after I found out I was pregnant with my second and my first was still an infant. I was exhausted, staying at home with the kids, feeling alone and isolated and felt like my DH never really listened or cared. Last yr for Christmas he surprised me with a trip to Grand Cayman he is not the surprise or grand gesture type at all, so I was completely shocked. He planned the entire thing booked the hotel, the flights, made sure our passports were up to date, made dinner reservations etc. the trip was incredible. We stayed at the Ritz, when to expensive restaurants, let me order all the expensive wine and get massages and facials and just relax. Honestly though he could of taken me anywhere. It was the fact that he planned the entire trip himself that made me get that lovin feeling back. I didn't have to lift a finger and Im usually the one who plans all trips and family activities too. It turns out he was actually listening when I was saying can I just get away for a few days and be free and relax and he realized how much I just needed a break from being just mom in the suburbs watching Mickey Mouse and driving to the Starbucks drive through as my weekly highlight. It was nice to feel like I was a woman who deserved to be pampered. We only went for 4 days but it really changed everything.

Another idea is to avoid being a mom in the burbs without a job or life outside of kids. I wouldn't want to sleep with my husband either.