Do you know your spouses fantasies?

[Anonymous]

I'm pretty sure my husband's fantasy is women who aren't me. He isn't interested in pursuing mine and shares nothing with me.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes and sometimes. I try to fulfill them. He doesn't know mine. He thinks he does and would probably say I'm fulfilled, but he cares so little about what I want, I won't make myself vulnerable by telling him more than he already knows.

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Good sounds like a rock solid relationship.

Why are people coming down negatively on spouses who aren't comfortable sharing (but fulfill their partner's fantasy), but not on spouses who say they have no interest in what their partner wants? This place is bizarre.

No it's bizarre that one can not share fantasies with your spouse because you are so vulnerable. Talk about having one foot in and foot out of a relationship.

[Anonymous]

No, I don't know. I'd like to know, but am not sure how to ask.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, I don't know. I'd like to know, but am not sure how to ask.

After sex, say "tell me a fantasy of yours". Pretty simple.

[Anonymous]

Nope. I asked. She wouldn't tell.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes and sometimes. I try to fulfill them. He doesn't know mine. He thinks he does and would probably say I'm fulfilled, but he cares so little about what I want, I won't make myself vulnerable by telling him more than he already knows.

+1

Good sounds like a rock solid relationship.

Why are people coming down negatively on spouses who aren't comfortable sharing (but fulfill their partner's fantasy), but not on spouses who say they have no interest in what their partner wants? This place is bizarre.

No it's bizarre that one can not share fantasies with your spouse because you are so vulnerable. Talk about having one foot in and foot out of a relationship.

And saying you don't care or want to know what your partner's fantasies are is being committed and caring. Got it.

I like freaky stuff. DH likes it vanilla. Sharing doesn't serve me well. I just keep it in my head and use my fantasies to help myself out. No big deal. I'm totally into pleasing him when he shares his fantasies (simple as they are) though. Well, that is, when I'm not halfway out the door.

[Anonymous]

My fantasies involve other people, not spouse. Do not want to share that.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes and sometimes. I try to fulfill them. He doesn't know mine. He thinks he does and would probably say I'm fulfilled, but he cares so little about what I want, I won't make myself vulnerable by telling him more than he already knows.

+1

Good sounds like a rock solid relationship.

Why are people coming down negatively on spouses who aren't comfortable sharing (but fulfill their partner's fantasy), but not on spouses who say they have no interest in what their partner wants? This place is bizarre.

No it's bizarre that one can not share fantasies with your spouse because you are so vulnerable. Talk about having one foot in and foot out of a relationship.

And saying you don't care or want to know what your partner's fantasies are is being committed and caring. Got it.

I like freaky stuff. DH likes it vanilla. Sharing doesn't serve me well. I just keep it in my head and use my fantasies to help myself out. No big deal. I'm totally into pleasing him when he shares his fantasies (simple as they are) though. Well, that is, when I'm not halfway out the door.

Can't imagine having a vanilla spouse, DW both are very open about our freak side. Our one rule that we agreed upon early on is that our sex life is private between us and we will not bring others into the mix.

Can you share any of your fantasies in a non-explicit manner?