Sex with spouse (non explicit)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your question was do MOST married couples have sex such as you describe (rushing to have sex the minute you arrive home from work), and the answer is a resounding NO. Most couples married for more than 5 years are having very little sex (read this forum) and when they do its not the passion fueled hot sex you're talking about.

First of all, DCUM is not representative of most couples. Also, it's a relationship forum so people aren't coming on here to discuss how great their marriage is. I feel sorry for you if you think an anonymous online forum is representative of most people.

Statistically, the average married couple has sex 6 times a month. Younger married couples in 20s and 30s are slightly higher than that, 40s and 50s are lower. So basically slightly more than once a week.

Depending on where your sex life stands, that may seem like a lot or a little.

I feel sorry for myself, too, sexually speaking. The rest of my marriage works well so I try to be thankful for that.

[Anonymous]

Ugh, my husband and I have so little sex, its depressing. I love him and he is my best friend, but the physical aspect of our relationship has really fizzled out. We have been married for 4 and a half years and we have a 2 year old, and I'm pregnant with our second. I think being pregnant and having a small child is some of it, since we both work full time and have so little time to dedicate to our relationship, but our chemistry was fizzling out even before I got pregnant with our first. It never really bothered me that much, but I just read the 50 Shades of Grey trilogy and it made me really miss having passion and intense chemistry with someone. We had really good sex before we were married but for some reason it just died out after getting married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh, my husband and I have so little sex, its depressing. I love him and he is my best friend, but the physical aspect of our relationship has really fizzled out. We have been married for 4 and a half years and we have a 2 year old, and I'm pregnant with our second. I think being pregnant and having a small child is some of it, since we both work full time and have so little time to dedicate to our relationship, but our chemistry was fizzling out even before I got pregnant with our first. It never really bothered me that much, but I just read the 50 Shades of Grey trilogy and it made me really miss having passion and intense chemistry with someone. We had really good sex before we were married but for some reason it just died out after getting married.

My advice is to make it a priority, especially as the new baby gets a little older. It's a use it or lose it for some couples.

We only have maintenance sex, and its somewhat depressing. But it gives us a shot at staying married. Without the maintenance sex we would be done. There are libraries full of books on how to keep passion going in a long-term relationship, because for most folks, it doesn't come natural. Hence all the affairs.

[Anonymous]

Which, sir, is the big secret? Looking "ten years younger than her age." Ugh.