Don't love my engagement ring

[Anonymous]

I can't tell the difference between those two rings. Why not just have it reset? I stopped wearing my e-ring regularly after my kids were born. Too easy to scratch them. Now, I just wear it for special occasions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When my husband and I were engaged, I told him that I hate engagement rings, that I don't see the point of wearing one, and that I did not want one. I asked for a stainless steel wedding band. That's all I wanted. The bracelets I wear are made of leather, bone, and beads. The only necklace I wear is a bone ankh on a cord. I wouldn't know if other people had huge engagement rings, because I don't notice them.

Do you bathe?

[Anonymous]

When I asked my wife to marry me I gave her a ring that wasn't an engagement ring to wear until we picked out a set. At the time it was all I could afford as it left me with $50 in my account. But, I had some money coming in over the months ahead and didn't want to wait. She loved the ring I gave her that night and still wears it to this day, just not on the finger that holds her wedding set.

BTW, even though I knew what she wanted in a ring I wasn't about to buy it without her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't tell the difference between those two rings. Why not just have it reset? I stopped wearing my e-ring regularly after my kids were born. Too easy to scratch them. Now, I just wear it for special occasions.

+1
Ladies, you stress and moan and carry on about a ring that I swear, you will not give a damn about in 10 years.... If you make it 10 years. If you have kids, they are a hazard and then, bam, you get used to not having them on. It's Just. A. Ring.
Signed, 9+years married, sitting here without my engagement or wedding ring on because I don't wear them every day.

[Anonymous]

BF and I have decided to get married. We've been together 25 years and have 4 kids. The marriage is really just a formality. We were discussing my engagement ring last night. We have 2 in college, 1 SN, and 1 in aftercare. I looked at him and said how about a Ring Pop.

[Anonymous]

When I see a big gaudy ring (over 1.5 c), I assume it's a second marriage or a later in life marriage, also known as settling.

[Anonymous]

My guess is OP is venting online but understands this is a total first world problem she shouldn't focus on.

I do get it, though, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:sitting here without my engagement or wedding ring on because I don't wear them every day.

Keep the wedding band on all the time, cheater.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband spent nearly $30K on a 1.9k flawless... and now all my friends have 2k+ VS that were a lot less expensive. he's a moron.

Wlewww no offense but why do you even know this.. ??!!! Ugh, gross!!! I think it sucks that you even know what he spent, but your friends rings' tooo???!!! Yuck

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You could just save up and buy yourself an engagement ring that is acceptable in your social circle.

No joke here. I have a smaller ring and do see people checking it out with puzzled looks... bc it doesn't "fit" what they would expect me to wear. Others do talk down to me bc of it.

I like to think of it as a 'sorting hat' to tell me who is real and who is a social climbing loser bent on spending themselves into oblivion.

For what it's worth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly OP, I can see that your DH could probably barely tell the difference between the two pictures. There are minor differences. One the plus side, the ring he bought for you will probably hold up better. If you really hate it, can't you just the diamond reset in a few years?

This. If you aren't a jewelry lover, they look basically the same. Think about something you don't care about the aesthetics of all that much -- cars? dogs? sweaters? houses? One in a similar style is likely to look so close to you that you'd think someone blowing up because it wasn't exactly like the picture would be crazy.

[Anonymous]

I have no idea what the difference is between those two halo rings. Can you explain?

Re: op - the unsympathetic perspective here is obvious.

The more sympathetic perspective is that this ring is probably a good metaphor for life together, as is your response here. How do you react when your partner's good faith, great faith, effort leaves you feeling disappointed?

If you can figure out how to manage your own disappointment, and your communication, in ways that don't blow the whole thing up - well, that's promising.

[Anonymous]

Or you could just stop wearing it. My 10th anniversary is coming up, and I can't remember the last time I wore mine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a little embarrassed by my engagement ring. It's a little over a carat and seems to be a good quality stone (ideal cut round brilliant colorless) but I dislike the halo setting my fiancé picked. It's a little dull and not pretty enough. Also I'm the only one with the smallest diamomd in my circle. I love my fiancé and will wear this forever. Sometimes I look down and get annoyed.

The diamond may be forever, but your datability certainly isn't.

[Anonymous]

1. I can't tell the difference between those 2 rings

2. i would be honored if you and your ridiculous friends looked down on me or felt sad for me because I am wearing a simple diamond band. My 3 carat is at home because I'm in medicine and obviously can't work with a ring like that. But go ahead and cast judgment and form some opinion about me based on what's on my ring finger??