Don't love my engagement ring

[Anonymous]

Size isn't everything.

[Anonymous]

I don't think this is a troll. I can relate - I too secretly hated my ring for years until the stone fell out on a bike ride and I never replaced it (used insurance money to pay for a new roof). How sad is that? I will inherit my mothers ring one day. It is beautiful and I just did not have the nerve to ask for more than I already had. Mine was less than a CT but he was so proud of it (we married while still in law school). As awful as I must sound for this confession I love him now and always for being the pragmatic and down to earth man that he is - I could never have traded it in although I am happy to know l will have a replacement one day.

[Anonymous]

I have a half-carat diamond ring I still wear proudly, 32 years later.

Pssst! Marriage is not about the size of the engagement ring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I picked out my ring. Maybe you can have the diamond re-set? I think that is reasonable. It's shitty and selfish of a guy not to consult a woman on purchase like that. Can you imagine the male uproar if women picked out their cars??!

But wtf is your social circle that one carat is the smallest? I would assume HHI of 300+.

Huh? Seriously? Its a gift.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I picked out my ring. Maybe you can have the diamond re-set? I think that is reasonable. It's shitty and selfish of a guy not to consult a woman on purchase like that. Can you imagine the male uproar if women picked out their cars??!

But wtf is your social circle that one carat is the smallest? I would assume HHI of 300+.

Huh? Seriously? Its a gift.

yeah i don't get this- you don't deserve a ring- its a GIFT.

My husband was in law school- and i (jokingly0 said i didn't want an engagement ring b/c i knew he was broke and umm he took it seriously b/c i am usually very forthright. H bought me a gorgeous ring after we got married- he's still the best person in the word and always will be.

I remember all these old waspy women i worked with shaking their heads ominously saying- he's not serious if there's no ring- its ten years into our marriage. SMH

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Anonymous wrote:Why would you let him pick the ring??? What did you think would happen?

We went to look at rings together. I told him I wanted a delicate halo like this below:




But he got me something like this:



The halo has a gap around the diamond. It's a beautiful stone and I love it but I dislike the setting. I'm irked because I specificslly showed him the kind of halo I wanted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I assure you that he is well aware that yours is the smallest ring in your circle. Please don't embarrass or hurt him by pointing it out.

Tell him it's too small. Just like his salary and his manhood.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would you let him pick the ring??? What did you think would happen?

We went to look at rings together. I told him I wanted a delicate halo like this below:




But he got me something like this:



The halo has a gap around the diamond. It's a beautiful stone and I love it but I dislike the setting. I'm irked because I specificslly showed him the kind of halo I wanted.

This is on you. Not your fiance. You hate your ring because you have tacky style.

[Anonymous]

Just get it reset. What's the big deal?

[Anonymous]

There are also studies that show the bigger the ring, the more likely you are to divorce.

http://bigthink.com/ideafeed/expensive-engage...higher-divorce-rates

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Anonymous wrote:Just get it reset. What's the big deal?

I don't want to hurt his feelings. He is so proud of it. He did a great job with the diamond. Although slightly smaller than I expected (I wanted a 1.5 carat diamond) it is besutiful and so colorless and sparkly. It's the setting that I dislike.

[Anonymous]

I don't really see the difference between those two rings, besides that one has pave diamonds on the band.

[Anonymous]

Honestly OP, I can see that your DH could probably barely tell the difference between the two pictures. There are minor differences. One the plus side, the ring he bought for you will probably hold up better. If you really hate it, can't you just the diamond reset in a few years?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would you let him pick the ring??? What did you think would happen?

We went to look at rings together. I told him I wanted a delicate halo like this below:




But he got me something like this:



The halo has a gap around the diamond. It's a beautiful stone and I love it but I dislike the setting. I'm irked because I specificslly showed him the kind of halo I wanted.

Um, I can see why he thought he was getting you what you wanted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't really see the difference between those two rings, besides that one has pave diamonds on the band.

Same. And I'm a woman so these things aren't really lost on me. My fiancé had a general idea of what I liked but I WANTED a little bit of a surprise element. A diamond is a diamond and it'll sparkle no matter what. For me, it was important that I had something that represented him mostly choosing it himself and thinking it through, going through the process and injecting his own ideas into it. Not just, here's the diamond you wanted now I guess we'll get married.