Don't love my engagement ring

[Anonymous]

The pave setting in the 1st picture allows the light to refract and there isn't as much width holding the diamonds together in the setting. It looks like a cut shard of diamond. The second looks like it is bordered on a more traditional pave setting. Anything that is added around a ring will impact its brilliance.

FYI, I have a ring like this, 3+ct center and the diamonds around have come loose on two occasions over the years. It is indeed delicate and if you work, have a child, or use your hands it isn't always the better investment. Logic could have factored into his financial investment too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This whole thread is another argument for "engagement rings are stupid"

Well, ugly & trendy engagement rings are stupid, that's for sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The new picture is worse than the first. They look almost identical.

New poster. Look you can think the OP is being picky and ridiculous all you want. Maybe she is, I don't know. I haven't read the thread that closely. But these two rings do NOT look identical. Even I can see that and I'm not that into jewelry. The first ring is much prettier though I don't know the technical terms to tell you why that is.

[Anonymous]

If this thread is full of people saying the two rings are identical, would it be a bad idea for OP to trade the ring in for a ring she wants (and maybe pay the difference on her own) and not tell her fiance? Then both are happy.

Do you think the finance would notice a difference?

[Anonymous]

Question. . .how do you wear the wedding band with this? Pictures please?

[Anonymous]

This entire thread is yet another reason for men to never get married.

[Anonymous]

Seems like for the one you don't like, the diamonds are lower in the setting. You want them prong set instead, I think.

Honestly, if you hate it that much, try (gently!) talking to him about it. If the two of you can't have a frank conversation about something this expensive that you will wear for the rest of your life, that's an issue. His feelings may be hurt at first, but most reasonable men would get over it pretty quickly.

I don't agree that you are being materialistic about the settling. The size of the stone, maybe, but you're not saying that part to his face...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If this thread is full of people saying the two rings are identical, would it be a bad idea for OP to trade the ring in for a ring she wants (and maybe pay the difference on her own) and not tell her fiance? Then both are happy.

Do you think the finance would notice a difference?

Maybe. If she wants to exchange rings, she needs the receipt, and chances are the fiance has that. If it was a custom ring, it likely isn't returnable. If she pays for it herself, she can keep both rings, but if he notices the different ring, that may not go over very well. At worst he may even think there's another man. And how much money does OP want to spend in her pursuit of the perfect ring?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The pave setting in the 1st picture allows the light to refract and there isn't as much width holding the diamonds together in the setting. It looks like a cut shard of diamond. The second looks like it is bordered on a more traditional pave setting. Anything that is added around a ring will impact its brilliance.

FYI, I have a ring like this, 3+ct center and the diamonds around have come loose on two occasions over the years. It is indeed delicate and if you work, have a child, or use your hands it isn't always the better investment. Logic could have factored into his financial investment too.

Well you have a 3+ ring surely you can afford some micro pave work. And was it really necessary to mention carat size? Really??

[Anonymous]

I am not too much of a girly girl. But I have always loved jewelry. And wanting a specific look doesn't make you a bad partner, or particularly materialistic. Who's to say the one you want is more expensive? It's just a style thing right? I absolutely sympathize that you aren't thrilled with your ring based on small differences. But I agree that he probably made an honest effort. Can't speak to your relationship problems, but it seems he tried on the ring. Just exchange it/upgrade it later.

[Anonymous]

OP can't even explain to us, using words, the difference in rings to us, so I can see why her fiance missed the mark. She said she wanted a halo ring, and showed one to him that she liked. But he obviously didn't quite get that what she really wanted was a French set micro pavé halo ring more than a pavé set halo ring. Saying you want a delicate ring is also subject to interpretation too. Google and take a look at Pippa Middleton's pavé set halo ring and you'll see that OP's is more delicate looking. And I wouldn't describe any of the rings as "cheap."

[Anonymous]

Its hilarious to me.... That you have this stupid concern in life lol...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Its hilarious to me.... That you have this stupid concern in life lol...

Not the OP but really, **hilarious**? Because people care about and talk about stupid shit all the time. You got some other issue tied to women and e-rings you're worked up about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The new picture is worse than the first. They look almost identical.

New poster. Look you can think the OP is being picky and ridiculous all you want. Maybe she is, I don't know. I haven't read the thread that closely. But these two rings do NOT look identical. Even I can see that and I'm not that into jewelry. The first ring is much prettier though I don't know the technical terms to tell you why that is.

Look, you can say it all you want. To many of us they look identical.

[Anonymous]

The fake diamond thread in Off Topic reminded me of this one from last year. OP, if you're still around, what did you end up doing -- did you talk to your fiance or did you just keep the ring he gave you?