Sister wants my DH to get nephew a job

[Anonymous]

He's 28, which is a pivot point in a man's life. Make the call. He sounds lost and confused. Time the get a job, his own place, and get on with life.

[Anonymous]

Your nephew is an idiot, and is a perfect example of what is wrong with this country. Entitled young people.

Your DH got him a job. He's done. I wouldn't put my reputation on the line for that kid again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope. Your husband put himself out there once and the young man did not capitalize on it, which probably made a bad impression on the company. New graduates need to hustle and this guy's two-year hiatus proves it.

The young man has done nothing to earn your husband's recommendation. On the contrary, he blew a chance to prove himself. Now he's got to do it himself.

No, I don't think your husband should get him another interview. Your husband took a hit to his credibility when his nephew flaked. I would not suggest him again.

The nephew may need to expand his job search to other areas and move away from his mother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH works for a large company with offices in many cities.
When my nephew finished his business degree, his mom ( my sister) asked me if DH can help get him a job. DH talked to some people and got him an interview. It's a great company with great benefits. Nephew had the interview. They offered him a part time job that was 45 minutes away. It would have been a great way to get into a company and then move up. Nephew didn't want to travel that far for a PT job. So they told him to call someone specific in his local city and they can find him something closer. Nephew be ever followed up.
He lives with his parents and has use of their extra car.

Fast forward, he was unemployed for two years after this. Sister said he didn't follow up because he assumed he would easily get another job quickly that would be exactly what he wanted. He managed to get a job that pays $13/ hr full time in his city. He has worked there a few years but it is dead end.

Now, my sister hints that she wants dh to get nephew a job again and this time he won't he as picky.
If he actually took the first job, he would likely be making 60k by now.

I sort of feel he had his shot and blew it. I told my sister if he wants to discuss it he can talk to DH instead of having him mom ask me.
Am I right in thinking nephew was a brat?
He is otherwise a really wonderful sweet guy.

why does it matter what you think? you are not the one who can get him a job. i agree that you were right to tell her to have her son contact your husband directly. you seem to be wanting to make access to your husband a power status for you. that's kind of pathetic. the decision is your husband's. if he asks you whether the kid is worth him pulling strings for, then you can give him your opinion. but the ultimate decision lies with him. you should not be playing your husband's gatekeeper, its beneath you, and will only cause problems for you in the long run.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I told my sister if he wants to discuss it he can talk to DH instead of having him mom ask me.

Very wise of you. Leave it between your nephew and your DH.

[Anonymous]

Millennials. Don't do it. Next thing you know your sister will be calling to say he is overworked or that he is sick today.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your nephew is an idiot, and is a perfect example of what is wrong with this country. Entitled young people.

Your DH got him a job. He's done. I wouldn't put my reputation on the line for that kid again.

+1

No kidding. If anything, family has an even bigger responsibility to be decent human beings in the workplace. He blew it.