Just quit my job and got dumped, now what do I do with my life...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids (I assume so because your on DCUM)?

Kids are a requirement for posting?

There are a number of women on here who think that if you don't have kids, you can't have a valid opinion on ANYTHING. They completely ignore the words "Off-Topic" and assume everything ties back to being a mom.

It's not that you can't have an opinion, it's that the name of the website is "DC urban mom". So if you aren't either DC, urban, or a mom there are posters like me who don't get how you surfed the web to get here and why you bothered to post.

When I have spent time as a user on sports websites, wedding planning websites, or professional websites in the past and have also found unaffiliated people I just think it's weird. But whatever.

I don't understand the issue for someone who is this young and encumbered. So what, u quit your job, move along. We have no insight on your life with so little info.

You left out the word "dad's" in the website title.

Secondly, did you read the thread that is on the off topic a few days ago about how people found this site. If so, you would learn that people google things and this site comes up on the first page. Jeff has posted stats before on how many hits he gets so clearly this is popular site.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sure it feels really scary OP - but wow the what a great opportunity. You literally can pick up and start over where-ever you want. Not many chances in life to do that (says middle aged federal worker with kids who feels stuck). Best of luck!

Plus 1- travel abroad

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Anonymous wrote:Why did you quit your job?

I can't believe I got to the bottom of page one before someone asked this!

You didn't answer

Op back here. Didn't write that.but to answer, I quit my job because I was miserable. Woke up so unhappy and hated every minute of the job. Not learning anything valuable. Horrible management that treated me very poorly. I have worked for other places and other bosses who weren't great but not like this

Gonna miss that paycheck though ..

op, i was sort of in your shoes at 25. now im 41. looking back, my jobs only got worse. so, just know theres very, very few jobs that help others, with friendly bosses, that pay the bills. I would start looking seriously now so you dont get down to your last $100 and take any job. im sorry life sucks so bad. hugs to you, enjoy your weekend trip, forget loser guy, and start planning you will be fine. this entire situation will be forgotten down the road.

[Anonymous]

OP, traveling can be a blast. And it's summer time

My personal favorite if you like to rough it is backpacking in Alaska

or you could join the rainbow family and live in the woods with a bunch of hippies, travelers, and many others of all walks. Spend the days hanging out and contributing to the community. At night, trip by the fire, get to know people, have a good time. It's pretty great.

[Anonymous]

You give yourself 2 weeks to relax. 2 weeks and no more , and take that vacation.

Then you have a deadline, say by September you have a full time job you can support yourself with.

Realize that in the real world that while coworkers and supervisors shouldn't be abusive, they aren't there to be your best friend, hold your hand and tell you you are a shining star.

Once you have found a full time job commit yourself to a hobby you've always wanted.
Maybe that's twice a week you start going salsa dancing or cupcake making, or Japanese lessons whatever it is your fancy.

The other step is volunteer every weekend or a few weekends a month, read stories to kids at the shelter, use what skills you have to help someone less fortunate better themselves.

Whatever you do don't wander the world to find yourself. You are 25 not 19. Though you are not old, you are not a little girl the way DCUM tries to paint 20 somethings. What you do in you do in your mid 20s matters.

Wallow for 2 weeks and then get your butt in gear.

Good luck, You're awesome and you can do this!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are 25, you have time to sit back and look at what went wrong in your relationship so you will be in better state of mind for the next one.

I think someone asked if you got a college degree.

I also hope your friends are standing by you through all of this.

How long did the relationship last?

He and I talked over and over about what went wrong. I love him, he doesn't love me anymore. He moved on before we were even done.

My friends are, thank god. They've been really supportive. I still feel like I'm missing a whole half of me though

Over 2 years

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Volunteer for a few weeks to help abused elephants in Thailand.

Op here. Oh my god I would LOVE to do that I love elephants always been one of my favorite animals. where do i sign up!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You give yourself 2 weeks to relax. 2 weeks and no more , and take that vacation.

Then you have a deadline, say by September you have a full time job you can support yourself with.

Realize that in the real world that while coworkers and supervisors shouldn't be abusive, they aren't there to be your best friend, hold your hand and tell you you are a shining star.

Once you have found a full time job commit yourself to a hobby you've always wanted.
Maybe that's twice a week you start going salsa dancing or cupcake making, or Japanese lessons whatever it is your fancy.

The other step is volunteer every weekend or a few weekends a month, read stories to kids at the shelter, use what skills you have to help someone less fortunate better themselves.

Whatever you do don't wander the world to find yourself. You are 25 not 19. Though you are not old, you are not a little girl the way DCUM tries to paint 20 somethings. What you do in you do in your mid 20s matters.

Wallow for 2 weeks and then get your butt in gear.


OP here. Thank you so much for this!!!!
Good luck, You're awesome and you can do this!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You give yourself 2 weeks to relax. 2 weeks and no more , and take that vacation.

Then you have a deadline, say by September you have a full time job you can support yourself with.

Realize that in the real world that while coworkers and supervisors shouldn't be abusive, they aren't there to be your best friend, hold your hand and tell you you are a shining star.

Once you have found a full time job commit yourself to a hobby you've always wanted.
Maybe that's twice a week you start going salsa dancing or cupcake making, or Japanese lessons whatever it is your fancy.

The other step is volunteer every weekend or a few weekends a month, read stories to kids at the shelter, use what skills you have to help someone less fortunate better themselves.

Whatever you do don't wander the world to find yourself. You are 25 not 19. Though you are not old, you are not a little girl the way DCUM tries to paint 20 somethings. What you do in you do in your mid 20s matters.

Wallow for 2 weeks and then get your butt in gear.


OP here. Thank you so much for this!!!!
Good luck, You're awesome and you can do this!

Oops .
OP here. Thank you so much for this!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why did you quit your job?

I can't believe I got to the bottom of page one before someone asked this!

You didn't answer

Op back here. Didn't write that.but to answer, I quit my job because I was miserable. Woke up so unhappy and hated every minute of the job. Not learning anything valuable. Horrible management that treated me very poorly. I have worked for other places and other bosses who weren't great but not like this

Gonna miss that paycheck though ..

OP, I did something similar at 22. I bought a one way ticket and traveled for a few months (until I could no longer afford to work odd jobs overseas). It was the best decision I ever made. If you remotely have the desire for backpacking travel, this is a great time to do it. You can bartend, babysit, wait tables, etc overseas while you enjoy your life and figure out what's next. Good luck!

Op here. thank you!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely not!!

Start looking for a brand-new job + forget about the idiot who let you go.

Anyone who cannot & does not appreciate the good person that you are is definitely a blessing to get rid of!

Two new doors have just been opened in your favor.

Op here. agreed....just kinda hard to accept. Thank you!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids (I assume so because your on DCUM)?

You mean "you're."


Kids are a requirement for posting?

There are a number of women on here who think that if you don't have kids, you can't have a valid opinion on ANYTHING. They completely ignore the words "Off-Topic" and assume everything ties back to being a mom.

It's not that you can't have an opinion, it's that the name of the website is "DC urban mom." So if you aren't either DC, urban, or a mom there are posters like me who don't get how you surfed the web to get here and why you bothered to post.

When I have spent time as a user on sports websites, wedding planning websites, or professional websites in the past and have also found unaffiliated people I just think it's weird. But whatever.

I don't understand the issue for someone who is this young and encumbered. So what, [you] quit your job, move along. We have no insight on your life with so little info.

You left out the word "dad's" in the website title. That might be because "dads" is plural, not "dad's", which is possessive. You're welcome.

Secondly, did you read the thread that is on the off topic a few days ago about how people found this site (?) If so, you would learn that people google things and this site comes up on the first page. Jeff has posted stats before on how many hits he gets so clearly this is[a popular site.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids (I assume so because your on DCUM)?

You mean "you're."


Kids are a requirement for posting?

There are a number of women on here who think that if you don't have kids, you can't have a valid opinion on ANYTHING. They completely ignore the words "Off-Topic" and assume everything ties back to being a mom.

It's not that you can't have an opinion, it's that the name of the website is "DC urban mom." So if you aren't either DC, urban, or a mom there are posters like me who don't get how you surfed the web to get here and why you bothered to post.

When I have spent time as a user on sports websites, wedding planning websites, or professional websites in the past and have also found unaffiliated people I just think it's weird. But whatever.

I don't understand the issue for someone who is this young and encumbered. So what, [you] quit your job, move along. We have no insight on your life with so little info.

You left out the word "dad's" in the website title. That might be because "dads" is plural, not "dad's", which is possessive. You're welcome.

Secondly, did you read the thread that is on the off topic a few days ago about how people found this site (?) If so, you would learn that people google things and this site comes up on the first page. Jeff has posted stats before on how many hits he gets so clearly this is[a popular site.

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/566040.page (that is what I was referring to)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You are 25, you have time to sit back and look at what went wrong in your relationship so you will be in better state of mind for the next one.

I think someone asked if you got a college degree.

I also hope your friends are standing by you through all of this.

How long did the relationship last?

He and I talked over and over about what went wrong. I love him, he doesn't love me anymore. He moved on before we were even done.

My friends are, thank god. They've been really supportive. I still feel like I'm missing a whole half of me though.

Over 2 years.

It's a sad fact that people do fall out of love, for a variety of reasons. At least it did it between the 2 and 3 year mark, instead of stringing you along. I also suspected you have some personality traits that changed in the course of that time and he didn't like those. I do think it is immature that he moved on before the breakup happened, because it shows he didn't digest what he had with you, what went wrong, and what he is really looking for. His "rebound" won't last more than six months.

That is good about your friends. I think people find out who their friends really are when a situation such as this occurs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are 25, you have time to sit back and look at what went wrong in your relationship so you will be in better state of mind for the next one.

I think someone asked if you got a college degree.

I also hope your friends are standing by you through all of this.

How long did the relationship last?

He and I talked over and over about what went wrong. I love him, he doesn't love me anymore. He moved on before we were even done.

My friends are, thank god. They've been really supportive. I still feel like I'm missing a whole half of me though.

Over 2 years.

It's a sad fact that people do fall out of love, for a variety of reasons. At least it did it between the 2 and 3 year mark, instead of stringing you along. I also suspected you have some personality traits that changed in the course of that time and he didn't like those. I do think it is immature that he moved on before the breakup happened, because it shows he didn't digest what he had with you, what went wrong, and what he is really looking for. His "rebound" won't last more than six months.

That is good about your friends. I think people find out who their friends really are when a situation such as this occurs.

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