Can a woman text a man first?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How did the number exchange come about? Did you ask him, or did he ask you?

He asked me. We spent the night flirting. Kind of pisses me off.

If you had been more patient, he might have texted you. You made yourself less appealing by being too eager. Sorry, I don't make the rules. These are just the dynamics of the mating dance. Rail against them at your own peril.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How did the number exchange come about? Did you ask him, or did he ask you?

He asked me. We spent the night flirting. Kind of pisses me off.

If you had been more patient, he might have texted you. You made yourself less appealing by being too eager. Sorry, I don't make the rules. These are just the dynamics of the mating dance. Rail against them at your own peril.

Cool.

[Anonymous]

"If he'd rather watch porn than shower and take you out for a drink, you don't want him!!"

Excellent dating advice!

But seriously OP, don't get pissed. Being disappointed that someone you're into doesn't want to pursue you is normal, but on the other hand, he has every right to flirt even if he's not 100% sure he's going to pursue. Just as you do. So just think of it as practice and move on to the next one.

-45 y.o. woman who still gets "pursued" plenty often

[Anonymous]

Some poor guy just got home from his call center job, where he isn't permitted to surf the net. He was saving that up all day, apparently.

[Anonymous]

Personally I need a man who can handle a woman who makes the first move. If he's not interested in me because I asked him out, leaned it for the first kiss, texted first, it never would have worked out in the long run anyway. Better to figure it out first. I don't have any trouble finding people who want to date me and pursue relationships. I'm 46 and divorced. Not looking for a husband just a good partner for fun, sex, and emotional support when I need it. If I like you I am going to let you know

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Personally I need a man who can handle a woman who makes the first move. If he's not interested in me because I asked him out, leaned it for the first kiss, texted first, it never would have worked out in the long run anyway. Better to figure it out first. I don't have any trouble finding people who want to date me and pursue relationships. I'm 46 and divorced. Not looking for a husband just a good partner for fun, sex, and emotional support when I need it. If I like you I am going to let you know

+1

I am a man, and I think this is cool.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I'm not actively looking to date. This man just happen to cross my path. Like I said before, I spent over 10 years trying to decipher the wants/needs of my ex-husband. I just won't play these games. If this guy was so turned off by me texting him first, he's not the guy for me.
He's missing out...I'm a great catch. I'm good-looking, kind and fantastic in the sack. Fuck that noise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm not actively looking to date. This man just happen to cross my path. Like I said before, I spent over 10 years trying to decipher the wants/needs of my ex-husband. I just won't play these games. If this guy was so turned off by me texting him first, he's not the guy for me.
He's missing out...I'm a great catch. I'm good-looking, kind and fantastic in the sack. Fuck that noise.

That's the right attitude! Fuck the stupid games. If they're into that dynamic, they're not worth it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm not actively looking to date. This man just happen to cross my path. Like I said before, I spent over 10 years trying to decipher the wants/needs of my ex-husband. I just won't play these games. If this guy was so turned off by me texting him first, he's not the guy for me.
He's missing out...I'm a great catch. I'm good-looking, kind and fantastic in the sack. Fuck that noise.

Waiting for a man to initiate and then being very receptive when he does isn't playing games.

Playing games is pretending you don't want to date when you obviously really do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Personally I need a man who can handle a woman who makes the first move. If he's not interested in me because I asked him out, leaned it for the first kiss, texted first, it never would have worked out in the long run anyway. Better to figure it out first. I don't have any trouble finding people who want to date me and pursue relationships. I'm 46 and divorced. Not looking for a husband just a good partner for fun, sex, and emotional support when I need it. If I like you I am going to let you know

OP may not be looking just to have fun. Which requires different approach.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm not actively looking to date. This man just happen to cross my path. Like I said before, I spent over 10 years trying to decipher the wants/needs of my ex-husband. I just won't play these games. If this guy was so turned off by me texting him first, he's not the guy for me.
He's missing out...I'm a great catch. I'm good-looking, kind and fantastic in the sack. Fuck that noise.

I don't think it's him being so turned off by you texting first, it's him not caring enough about you to text you in the first place, despite flirting and asking for your number. That's no reflection on you, just how some people are. That's why so many peoole advise against pursuing. I have no doubt someone will come along and appreciate all of your good qualities soon enough!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm not actively looking to date. This man just happen to cross my path. Like I said before, I spent over 10 years trying to decipher the wants/needs of my ex-husband. I just won't play these games. If this guy was so turned off by me texting him first, he's not the guy for me.
He's missing out...I'm a great catch. I'm good-looking, kind and fantastic in the sack. Fuck that noise.

If you are going ask, just know you will get rejected sometimes. I am sure you have reject men before.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm not actively looking to date. This man just happen to cross my path. Like I said before, I spent over 10 years trying to decipher the wants/needs of my ex-husband. I just won't play these games. If this guy was so turned off by me texting him first, he's not the guy for me.
He's missing out...I'm a great catch. I'm good-looking, kind and fantastic in the sack. Fuck that noise.

If you are going ask, just know you will get rejected sometimes. I am sure you have reject men before.

+1

I suspect that this is the main reason why "feminist" women suddenly get traditional when it comes to "who makes the first move." It's a bit of a privilege that women dont want to give up. But women try to frame it as "oppression" that men make the first move, but they are all too willing to be "oppressed" when it suits them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm not actively looking to date. This man just happen to cross my path. Like I said before, I spent over 10 years trying to decipher the wants/needs of my ex-husband. I just won't play these games. If this guy was so turned off by me texting him first, he's not the guy for me.
He's missing out...I'm a great catch. I'm good-looking, kind and fantastic in the sack. Fuck that noise.

If you are going ask, just know you will get rejected sometimes. I am sure you have reject men before.

+1

I suspect that this is the main reason why "feminist" women suddenly get traditional when it comes to "who makes the first move." It's a bit of a privilege that women dont want to give up. But women try to frame it as "oppression" that men make the first move, but they are all too willing to be "oppressed" when it suits them.

whatevs

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm not actively looking to date. This man just happen to cross my path. Like I said before, I spent over 10 years trying to decipher the wants/needs of my ex-husband. I just won't play these games. If this guy was so turned off by me texting him first, he's not the guy for me.
He's missing out...I'm a great catch. I'm good-looking, kind and fantastic in the sack. Fuck that noise.

If you are going ask, just know you will get rejected sometimes. I am sure you have reject men before.

+1

I suspect that this is the main reason why "feminist" women suddenly get traditional when it comes to "who makes the first move." It's a bit of a privilege that women dont want to give up. But women try to frame it as "oppression" that men make the first move, but they are all too willing to be "oppressed" when it suits them.

OP here. You are out of your mind. Also...I'm not a feminist.