Would you let him be friends with your DS

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Anonymous wrote:When my DS was 9, he hit a girl. She had some serious issues and would poke and prod him in the lunch line. She did this to others. He asked her to stop and told a teacher. When she didn't stop, he whacked her. She has since left the school to be homeschooled. Good for him.

That's awful. I would not want my DS to be friends with your DS.

Eh - I believe in hitting no one, but I also believe that ALL people need to know there are consequences for your actions AND I do not believe you should allow someone to poke, prod, or otherwise touch your body if you don't want them to.

I emphasize the three strikes rule with my kids: first you ask them to stop, second you tell a teacher, and the third time - you handle it. I bet she didn't touch him again.

You realize that the entire premise behind not hitting girls is that they are weaker and not as able to physically defend themselves, right? No matter what is said it is completely wrong to hit a girl. You're teaching your child horrible behavior. Two wrongs do not make a right.

A boy has much right to defend his body as a girl does. She had that punch coming. If you touch someone else without their permission and you get hit, you had it coming.

"poking and prodding" does not justify hitting. I hate these parents who teach their kids to 'defend' themselves against minor physical irritations (yes, the poking is wrong and he should tell the teacher so it stops) or words. You don't need to be 'defended' against that. You are not in danger. If an adult pokes your arm in line, even if they are trying to annoy you, you don't get to 'defend' yourself with a punch. She did NOT have a punch coming. Teach your kid that the response should be in proportion to the original harm.

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OP, if the genders were reversed and a boy told a girl "go ahead and hit me" and she did, would you be questioning if your kid should be allowed to be friends with her?

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I have three sons and they have told me often that girls LOVE to use the "You can't hit me, I'm a girl" card. My sons have come home with bruises on their shins from girls kicking them, on their arms from girls grabbing them. They've seen girls throw balls at boys' faces and smack them in their faces. We're talking about upper elementary school.

There are girls who go way overboard provoking boys verbally and physically to tempt them to retaliate. Mine never have, but it's some bullshit.

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^^^I'm going to start a new thread about this.

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Anonymous wrote:I have three sons and they have told me often that girls LOVE to use the "You can't hit me, I'm a girl" card. My sons have come home with bruises on their shins from girls kicking them, on their arms from girls grabbing them. They've seen girls throw balls at boys' faces and smack them in their faces. We're talking about upper elementary school.

There are girls who go way overboard provoking boys verbally and physically to tempt them to retaliate. Mine never have, but it's some bullshit.

+1, parent of 5th grade boy and I've seen this behavior from girls too.

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I teach my boys to stay away from people like that, to not engage. I teach them that they are responsible for their own behavior. I would never teach my kids to hit someone who SAID something obnoxious. If you must retaliate, use obnoxious WORDS.

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Anonymous wrote:Where is this? No way for my DS but I doubt he would be around a kid like that (burbs).

What the hell does that mean? You think geographical location dictates anger management failures?

Give me a break. We live in Bethesda. I was being polite when I used the word "doubt." Actually I am 100% sure my kids are not around that kind of behavior. Sorry if that's not PC enough for you, PP.

Right, because there's no domestic violence anywhere in Bethesda...

Your kid is going to run circles around you because you're the kind of parent who thinks they know everything, and yet has not a clue, not a single clue.