Weird or normal? Young child's aunts and uncles come to birthday, but don't give a gift...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In our family, we give gifts to nieces and nephews for their birthdays as well as for special accomplishments.

I think aunts and uncles are special people in a kid's life. They are supposed to spoil them a bit. As an aunt, I want to be their favorite person, who is fun and cool. The parents can do the parenting!

This is how I feel too! But maybe I am the only one in my large family to feel that way. Which I will need to just get over, I guess. I was just hoping to understand the reasoning behind it, which would help me get over it, because I think like you do and can't understand it at all. But I know my perspective is not universal, and would like to understand theirs.

Well, these aunts and uncles have kids, too. And one of them did have their daughter make a card for your son. Who doesn't even know what a birthday is, anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would be weird in my family. We give gifts to nieces and nephews, even if there's no party.

Would come across very weird in my family too. At least a card and a little gift, doesn't need to be expensive at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't take gifts to children who haven't sent thank-you cards (or said thank you in person) for previous gifts. Maybe it's something like that?

because it is all about you in the end, i see.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, it's weird. Even if there isnt disposable income, something small--a book or a token. I am surprised how few people responding seem to think so. We are pretty broke ourselves, but it is abolutely standard practice that when we visit the nieces, particularly on birthdays, we always give a gift.

Of course you bring a gift for a 3 year old's party. What if everyone did something stupid like that, can you imagine that poor child. Those people are idiots imo.

[Anonymous]

What's weird is that all 3 did it and according to OP presents are the norm.

Something happened OP. Maybe you are blind to it but either you or your husband pissed them I off over gifts someway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, it's weird. Even if there isnt disposable income, something small--a book or a token. I am surprised how few people responding seem to think so. We are pretty broke ourselves, but it is abolutely standard practice that when we visit the nieces, particularly on birthdays, we always give a gift.

Of course you bring a gift for a 3 year old's party. What if everyone did something stupid like that, can you imagine that poor child. Those people are idiots imo.

Tell me you are being sarcastic, right??
You do mean that a 3 yr old would have no clue if he did not get gifts because kids are not born feeling entitled to gifts, right??
If he/she gets gifts he does not get mad because 3 other people did NOT get him/her a gift.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, it's weird. Even if there isnt disposable income, something small--a book or a token. I am surprised how few people responding seem to think so. We are pretty broke ourselves, but it is abolutely standard practice that when we visit the nieces, particularly on birthdays, we always give a gift.

Of course you bring a gift for a 3 year old's party. What if everyone did something stupid like that, can you imagine that poor child. Those people are idiots imo.

Tell me you are being sarcastic, right??
You do mean that a 3 yr old would have no clue if he did not get gifts because kids are not born feeling entitled to gifts, right??
If he/she gets gifts he does not get mad because 3 other people did NOT get him/her a gift.

White privilege

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's weird is that all 3 did it and according to OP presents are the norm.

Something happened OP. Maybe you are blind to it but either you or your husband pissed them I off over gifts someway.

+1

If it's normal for everyone to give gifts to nieces and nephews, and none of them did it this time...something is going on.

[Anonymous]

Maybe they went in on a group gift and it didn't arrive or something?? In any case this wouldn't be weird in my family.

[Anonymous]

I don't have kids, but the thing I notice about my friends who are parents is that they're already drowning in stuff for the kids and generally don't want any more.

Maybe, since you're in a large family, they might think you don't want any more kid stuff?

[Anonymous]

This would be weird in my family, but on the other hand, all of my aunts are STILL sending me $25-50 birthday and Xmas checks the same as they did when I was a kid, and I'm almost 30. So we are probably just as weird.

[Anonymous]

Let it go. Trust me...in a few years you will be cursing anyone who brings more crap into your house.