this is key...I would not tolerate that a second time |
Right after college, my dream job called me for an interview. I wasn't home, and my brother answered the phone and told them they had the wrong number.
He admitted to it 10 years later. |
Brother abused me when were growing up, and one the worst was when he choked me until I passed out. I've been in therapy for years trying to sort out all the damage it did.
He seems to be pretty normal now, and if we didn't have the baggage of ten years of abuse behind us, I could probably be friendly with him. But I have panic attacks when I see him. |
Cut me off/out after I didn't "just pump some milk in a bottle" to go to our grandfather's funeral because I was four days postpartum and healing from a c-section.
Apparently "[my] priorities were out of line and [I] needed to put family first." Um. NB, as grandfather was dying, he asked me not to travel to his funeral. |
WTF? Airlines won't even accept a newborn under 7 days old. |
My brother asked my husband one morning while at our parents house for a holiday, Why do you let her talk to you that way?, not know the issues we were having nor counseling. Basically my husband went AWOL at the office and dumped everything on me (house, 2 kids, my job, food, taxes, etc and I was pissed) My husband used that 2 min conversation for his ammo for over a year, See even your brother thinks you're mean. |
I am aghast reading this thread. So much hatred.
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I was still in the hospital four days after my c-section. |
After our mom passed (our father died long before), all I heard as my sister and I went around mom's house was "I'm taking that". No consultation, nothing. Some of the items were things I had given mom. Not that I had bought them for mom in the expectation that they would one day return to me, but they were purchased with thought, meaning and sometimes history (e.g. a silver animal from my trip to S Africa; an expensive purse to go with a special occasion dress). To my sister, they were desirable items of value. To me, they held meaning, not monetary value. I hadn't the will nor the energy to argue and potentially escalate what was already an emotional time. But her thoughtless avarice drove a wedge between us that has never since been bridged. |