Whats the most hurtful thing a sibling ever did to do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Told me that the rest of my surviving family didn't care about me. This was not when we were kids, but a few years ago as adults. Of course it's not true, and that one sibling is a manipulative asshole.

Similar to this , but called me a bitch too, this sibling is mentally ill so I know not to take what she says to seriously, but it still hurt.

PP - they too called me a bitch. Has your sibling been diagnosed with a particular mental illness? I have my suspicions about my sibling, but still choose not to have contact. I'm just too tired of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Told me that the rest of my surviving family didn't care about me. This was not when we were kids, but a few years ago as adults. Of course it's not true, and that one sibling is a manipulative asshole.

Similar to this , but called me a bitch too, this sibling is mentally ill so I know not to take what she says to seriously, but it still hurt.

PP - they too called me a bitch. Has your sibling been diagnosed with a particular mental illness? I have my suspicions about my sibling, but still choose not to have contact. I'm just too tired of it.

Bipolar is a horrible mental illness if left untreated. It affects everyone closest to the sufferer, and causes major emotional damage. Only people who have loved ones with the illness will know this.

[Anonymous]

I stopped his suicide attempt, and he was mad at me for it for years. We were kids, and we were a mess. We love each other dearly, but it hurt a lot.

[Anonymous]

Told me he had no good memories of our mom as we were going through her things after she passed and he was trying to throw everything away without looking at it. Despite my mother going broke and pretty much killing herself trying to help him all his useless life. Well, now she's gone and he is on his own cause I am not doing what she did. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Told me he had no good memories of our mom as we were going through her things after she passed and he was trying to throw everything away without looking at it. Despite my mother going broke and pretty much killing herself trying to help him all his useless life. Well, now she's gone and he is on his own cause I am not doing what she did. Good luck.

Is this really something he did to you, or something that offended you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Told me he had no good memories of our mom as we were going through her things after she passed and he was trying to throw everything away without looking at it. Despite my mother going broke and pretty much killing herself trying to help him all his useless life. Well, now she's gone and he is on his own cause I am not doing what she did. Good luck.

Is this really something he did to you, or something that offended you?

Huh? He apparently did this in front of his grieving sibling which was really uncalled for. It's a shame that they had this falling out right after their mom's death though. I'll bet that's the last thing that Mom would have wanted for her kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Told me he had no good memories of our mom as we were going through her things after she passed and he was trying to throw everything away without looking at it. Despite my mother going broke and pretty much killing herself trying to help him all his useless life. Well, now she's gone and he is on his own cause I am not doing what she did. Good luck.

Is this really something he did to you, or something that offended you?

Huh? He apparently did this in front of his grieving sibling which was really uncalled for. It's a shame that they had this falling out right after their mom's death though. I'll bet that's the last thing that Mom would have wanted for her kids.

People are allowed to express negative feelings. It's not something that is "done" to you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My DD suffers from anxiety. It's pretty severe. My sister concocted a plan for DD to move in with her a few thousand miles away, thinking that she'd be a better role model and provide a more stable environment. She wanted DD to live with her throughout high school. I'm happily married to my children's father, DD is in therapy and on medication, and we're seeing progress. Not exactly an unstable environment.
My sister continues making bad choices with men, has been in an abusive relationship, has bipolar disorder and a dui. It's not her fault that she has bipolar disorder or that her ex bf was a dick, but I would never dream of putting anxiety ridden DD in that kind of environment. When I told her no thanks, she flipped out and called DD disturbed and said that no one takes her opinions seriously as the aunt. Wtf. We've barely spoken since then.

This episode sounds like a symptom of your sister's mental illness. I don't think she deliberately set out to hurt you. While I'm sure it was upsetting to you and possibly frightening to your daughter, I don't know why you would personalize it rather than look at it as a bipolar episode. People with bipolar often think they have a godlike ability to "save" others.

For the first 20 years of that, I sucked it up and said that's just how she is. Then for the next 10, I sucked it up and said she's probably bipolar. Then for another 4 years I knew she was bipolar and felt like even though she'd seek treatment sporadically, she couldn't help herself. The last year has been too much. I can't deal with it anymore. It sucks, but that's where I am. And it's ok for me to feel that way. I have a limit for how many mental disorders I can help people with at one time, and right now DD and her anxiety are my concern. Especially since my sister has chosen to stop treatment and self medicate with alcohol, and endanger herself and everyone else on the road.

[Anonymous]

Turned on his own family and started acting like a pompous ass when he started dating his now wife.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When my nanny quit with no notice, leaving me with an infant and a toddler while DH was deployed, AND I was just starting a surgical Fellowship. She told me that I'd better not ask our Dad to come stay and help me while I found a new nanny, because that would screw up her childcare. When I pointed out that she had her own business and could set her own hours and was lecturing my from the pool, she said "Well, when you pick up one end of the stick, you pick up the other".

Now that she has no retirement savings, no money to send her kids to college and is deeply in debt, I can't wait to tell her from my vacation homes in Florida and Colorado, when I retire at 55, "I guess I picked up the correct stick, bitch!"

You both seem incredibly selfish and immature. I feel sorry for your dad.

I didn't get that from the story at all. The sister's first thought wasn't how she could help, but how it better not mess with what she's got set up with the dad. Likely the sister was jealous (surgical fellowship) and I'm all for PP poking her sister with the golden stick she picked up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Told me my special needs child just needed better discipline and that I was a horrible mother; made it clear that we were no longer welcome in their home. Thanks for that.

I had to tell my brother his child was no longer welcome in our home. It broke my heart and I probably waited longer than I should. But this child disrupts every conversation (including interrupting herself when she's telling people something), tries to hurt our sweet dog, hurt our kids numerous times, won't (can't?) follow directions, destroys household items. Part of this is on my brother and his wife for not being on top of her, but DH and I just couldn't stand it any more. Our kids were AFRAID of her. In their own home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Told me he had no good memories of our mom as we were going through her things after she passed and he was trying to throw everything away without looking at it. Despite my mother going broke and pretty much killing herself trying to help him all his useless life. Well, now she's gone and he is on his own cause I am not doing what she did. Good luck.

Is this really something he did to you, or something that offended you?

Huh? He apparently did this in front of his grieving sibling which was really uncalled for. It's a shame that they had this falling out right after their mom's death though. I'll bet that's the last thing that Mom would have wanted for her kids.

People are allowed to express negative feelings. It's not something that is "done" to you.

Yep you never really know...I had friends who were a few years older or the wrong sex and were treated horribly by their parents. The favor child is still oblivious to it. So maybe you have a great memories.

[Anonymous]

Conned my parents of their retirement, disowned the entire family when we refused to sell home to give him more money and used niece to emotionally manipulate my mother. Good riddance to him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Conned my parents of their retirement, disowned the entire family when we refused to sell home to give him more money and used niece to emotionally manipulate my mother. Good riddance to him.

I have you beat. Killed parent after taking all parents' money and possessions. Good times.

[Anonymous]

On the day I had a chemical pregnancy after having two miscarriages, my sister called and I told to her about it. Her response was something to the effect of "take a hint, the world is trying to tell you something (now let's get back to talking about me)."