Would you tell the parent?
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Anonymous
| Why not tell the school counselor you heard this from an anonymous concerned student (maybe even tell them it is a rumor?) and let them deal with the situation? |
Anonymous
I don't think you have should have closed the conversation with the child you do know (Child B) without informing her that this was indeed a very serious situation and that you had to either tell Child B's mother so she could get the information to Child A's mother or ensuring that Child B would tell her own mother who in theory knows Child A and could help. You could have asked Child B that if none of this was acceptable to her, could she tell you another trusted adult that you could speak with to make sure Child A's parents were notified. |
Anonymous
Because that is not a school counselor's job. To hunt down who is having unprotected sex based on a rumor? Um, no. |
Anonymous
OP it sounds like you are so far down the gossip food chain that pretty much everyone in the girl's school and your son's school probably already knows about it. The question being what do you think you can accomplish by spreading more gossip? If you are going to do anything contact Child Protective Services anonymous hotline, report what you know, and let them take it from there. |
Anonymous
Not to hunt them down, to inform parent that there is a rumor in school and that they should know. Who else will tell the parent? |
Anonymous
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Let's see if I get this right. You, OP, don't know the girl or boy who are apparently having sex, or their families. Or maybe not. You don't know. You do know the alleged girl's good friend who told you because she is a friend of your son's and they went to the same school and you're the mom kids confide in.
Is that it? Oh, and you have some sort of friend of a friend connection to the girl, or maybe it's the girl's friend who told you? Sounds like you are over involved in the lives of your kid's friends. But, if you really believe the friend of the girl, who you don't know, may or may not be having sex with a boy you also don't know, and you are moved to do something about it...contact the girl's parents and relate exactly what you heard and how you heard it. Let them handle it from there. |
Anonymous
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School counselor stat. Let them verify.
That's what they are trained to handle. |
Anonymous
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Honestly, it's not going to do any good telling the mom, though I do think there is benefit in telling the counselor. At the very least, the counselor could reinforce that the child could get pregnant and/or get a disease. The counselor could also give the girl advice on how to say no to sex, perhaps even talking to the boy, too.
I had sex when I was 13. Word spread like wildfire throughout the school and even got to a teacher who, of course, questioned me and then dropped the matter after I denied it, saying it was a bad rumor. If they had told my mom, I would have denied it. I snuck around, so there was no way my parents would have even known unless they had eyes on me 100% of my day. I probably would have welcomed an impartial party (the counselor) talking around the issue, but giving me good advice at the same time - I needed someone to give me the courage and permission to say no. |
Anonymous
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Talk to the school counselor.
At 13, my DD got involved in an abusive relationship with a classmate. Her counselor alerted us to the possibility of danger, and was an invaluable support to my DD as she tried to recover from the experience. As other posters have mentioned, kids who have sex at this age are often dealing with other issues--depression, abuse in the home, or something else. A counselor may well be more aware of these issues than the parents of the boy and girl. |