Would you tell the parent?

[Anonymous]

Not at all. He is from a different elementary school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:yes... tell someone who can do something even if that isn't the mom of the girl.

It is never in a 13 year old child's best interest to be having sex. It just isn't. Concern for the child has to come before concern for yourself or your embarrasment.

+ a million.

You can handle a mommy not like you, you're grown.

Theses 13 year olds aren't prepared to hands STIs or STDS , or a pregnancy and all the topics that come with an ill-timed pregnancy.

Tell the mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The girls best girl friend told me.

Are you positive it's not the girl herself?

Sometimes kids say friend when they mean they are talking about themselves.

[Anonymous]

When you say you don't know her, do you mean never laid eyes on her? Or is she a mom of a kid that was in your son's second grade class but you've never had more than a passing hello?

If the latter, I think I would call her direct. If the former, I would tell the mom you know that is friend's with the girl's mom. You're really just saying "I heard this and I'm concerned." Your friend can then tell her the same thing.

[Anonymous]

Send an anonymous email. http://www.sendanonymousemail.net/

Include enough details but not enough that the person could come to you and know its you. If ever asked about it DENY it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When you say you don't know her, do you mean never laid eyes on her? Or is she a mom of a kid that was in your son's second grade class but you've never had more than a passing hello?

If the latter, I think I would call her direct. If the former, I would tell the mom you know that is friend's with the girl's mom. You're really just saying "I heard this and I'm concerned." Your friend can then tell her the same thing.

+1; Even if the story isn't true (as it may well not be) the girl's mother needs to know. The boy's mother as well, but if you don't know him at all, maybe you can ask the girl's mother to talk with her.

[Anonymous]

The fact that these children are having sex -- protected, unprotected, polka dot, green peppered -- any kind of sex -- needs to be brought to the attention of their parents. Hell yeah.

[Anonymous]

You must tell. You have to.

[Anonymous]

You have to tell someone. Imagine how you would feel if it's true and the girl gets pregnant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you know the girl's mom at all?
If you do, then call her, and tell her what you heard.

Here's my story:
An acquaintance (a fellow mom at the same elementary of our younger kids) once called me because of something risky and dangerous that she heard about my oldest kid from her kid's girlfriend. I was shocked, heart palpitating, sweating, can't breath kind of shock.
She said "listen, if it's true, I would want to know and it sounds like it's true".
It was all true and we dealt with the issue straight on.
Next time I saw her, I gave her a big hug and thanked her a million times.
Total respect for her honesty and no hesitation in doing what was right for my kid.

This story makes me feel good for her and you. I'm glad that there are people out there who are and can act like adults who care about kids more than themselves.

To OP: you should tell. These kids are THIRTEEN. If you can't bring yourself to tell the mom, tell the school counselor.

[Anonymous]

The School Counselor route may be the best route to follow because if a youngster is having sex that early, there could be family dynamics at play that are driving her to see comfort or companionship with another. It could also be as simple as having an older sibling who is sexually active. No matter the reason for both of these teens emotional and physical health, share what you have heard straight out and ease your mind. You are doing what a responsible person would do.

[Anonymous]

If you are friends with this girl's mom why don't you say something to HER? If this were your daughter would you want another parent (a *friend*) telling the school guidance counselor about this?

Unless you think there might be some troubling family dynamics that require professional intervention I would say something to your friend ASAP. And I would try my best to keep the identity of who told you about this a secret - this is hard because you certainly don't want there to be any backlash on this young friend for speaking up and telling you about it. I think so much has to do with how you think your friend might react to all of this....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know the girls family, at all. This is my hesitation.

Maybe I'm the exception here but I don't think you should be getting involved in such an intimate issue if you don't know this girl's family at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:yes... tell someone who can do something even if that isn't the mom of the girl.

It is never in a 13 year old child's best interest to be having sex. It just isn't. Concern for the child has to come before concern for yourself or your embarrasment.

Exactly. It's terribly young.

[Anonymous]

What kind of parent would think it is all right for their 13 yr old DD to be engaging in sex, protected or not?