NYC Wedding gift amount

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am floored by this discussion. I'm a New Yorker who got married there 15 years ago and most gifts that we registered for and received were in the $100 range (I registered at Bloomingdales, Williams Sonoma and Scully and Scully). We received very few monetary gifts, no cash, only checks and I found it really weird to receive money. I don't think any of the checks were for more than $100-$125. Who are you people?

You're not from NYC if you are "floored" by this discussion.

In fact , I am.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Millennial here, no one I know prefers gifts over cash. Most of us can't afford down payments and have lived on our own or with a significant other so we don't need things, we need cash. This is the first I've heard of cash as tacky and would never view it that way.

You don't need cash, you want cash. Here's an idea - need a downpayment, start saving. Many of us had nothing out of college and saved... no fancy iPhones, gadgets or any of that good stuff. Old cars, etc.... If you can't afford to buy a house, you wait, save and then buy when you can afford it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Millennial here, no one I know prefers gifts over cash. Most of us can't afford down payments and have lived on our own or with a significant other so we don't need things, we need cash. This is the first I've heard of cash as tacky and would never view it that way.

You don't need cash, you want cash. Here's an idea - need a downpayment, start saving. Many of us had nothing out of college and saved... no fancy iPhones, gadgets or any of that good stuff. Old cars, etc.... If you can't afford to buy a house, you wait, save and then buy when you can afford it.

Did you have 100K in college loans? Then go to grad school?

Thanks for the savings tips grandpa, but these days most people start out in the world with a negative net worth and less than 50K per year job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Millennial here, no one I know prefers gifts over cash. Most of us can't afford down payments and have lived on our own or with a significant other so we don't need things, we need cash. This is the first I've heard of cash as tacky and would never view it that way.

You don't need cash, you want cash. Here's an idea - need a downpayment, start saving. Many of us had nothing out of college and saved... no fancy iPhones, gadgets or any of that good stuff. Old cars, etc.... If you can't afford to buy a house, you wait, save and then buy when you can afford it.

Did you have 100K in college loans? Then go to grad school?

Thanks for the savings tips grandpa, but these days most people start out in the world with a negative net worth and less than 50K per year job.

But it's not your guests' responsibility to pay for your rent or cover the cost of their dinner plate. That is one of the tackiest things I hear every time this discussion comes up. They are guests. They are not paying admission. NP from NYC, by the way.

[Anonymous]

When I got married, I was happy with EVERY SINGLE GIFT i got. i was amazed that we got so many gifts. If any one criticizes the gift they received, they are not worthy of it. OP, give the most you can comfortably do! They will add it to the pile and do something great with it (hopefully).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Millennial here, no one I know prefers gifts over cash. Most of us can't afford down payments and have lived on our own or with a significant other so we don't need things, we need cash. This is the first I've heard of cash as tacky and would never view it that way.

You don't need cash, you want cash. Here's an idea - need a downpayment, start saving. Many of us had nothing out of college and saved... no fancy iPhones, gadgets or any of that good stuff. Old cars, etc.... If you can't afford to buy a house, you wait, save and then buy when you can afford it.

Did you have 100K in college loans? Then go to grad school?

Thanks for the savings tips grandpa, but these days most people start out in the world with a negative net worth and less than 50K per year job.

NP: Your debt is no one's fault but your own. It's no secret that college costs money and that first jobs usually pay low. Nor is it anyone's fault but your own that you decided to have a wedding instead of eloping or having a budget wedding. No one owes you anything. If you invite someone to a party or wedding, they are your guest, therefore you pay their way. If you can't afford to invite them, do something you can afford.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Millennial here, no one I know prefers gifts over cash. Most of us can't afford down payments and have lived on our own or with a significant other so we don't need things, we need cash. This is the first I've heard of cash as tacky and would never view it that way.

You don't need cash, you want cash. Here's an idea - need a downpayment, start saving. Many of us had nothing out of college and saved... no fancy iPhones, gadgets or any of that good stuff. Old cars, etc.... If you can't afford to buy a house, you wait, save and then buy when you can afford it.

Did you have 100K in college loans? Then go to grad school?

Thanks for the savings tips grandpa, but these days most people start out in the world with a negative net worth and less than 50K per year job.

But it's not your guests' responsibility to pay for your rent or cover the cost of their dinner plate. That is one of the tackiest things I hear every time this discussion comes up. They are guests. They are not paying admission. NP from NYC, by the way.

What does it matter if the cash is for the honeymoon, downpayment, wedding, couch? It's all to help the couple on their feet which is the point of wedding gifts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Millennial here, no one I know prefers gifts over cash. Most of us can't afford down payments and have lived on our own or with a significant other so we don't need things, we need cash. This is the first I've heard of cash as tacky and would never view it that way.

You don't need cash, you want cash. Here's an idea - need a downpayment, start saving. Many of us had nothing out of college and saved... no fancy iPhones, gadgets or any of that good stuff. Old cars, etc.... If you can't afford to buy a house, you wait, save and then buy when you can afford it.

Did you have 100K in college loans? Then go to grad school?

Thanks for the savings tips grandpa, but these days most people start out in the world with a negative net worth and less than 50K per year job.

NP: Your debt is no one's fault but your own. It's no secret that college costs money and that first jobs usually pay low. Nor is it anyone's fault but your own that you decided to have a wedding instead of eloping or having a budget wedding. No one owes you anything. If you invite someone to a party or wedding, they are your guest, therefore you pay their way. If you can't afford to invite them, do something you can afford.

So you would rather buy a dinner plate or gravy boat that the couple may never use than give cash? Ok

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Same as you would give for anyone else. Geography is not a factor.

Truly spoken like someone who either has never been to a NY wedding and has no clue how money works.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Millennial here, no one I know prefers gifts over cash. Most of us can't afford down payments and have lived on our own or with a significant other so we don't need things, we need cash. This is the first I've heard of cash as tacky and would never view it that way.

You don't need cash, you want cash. Here's an idea - need a downpayment, start saving. Many of us had nothing out of college and saved... no fancy iPhones, gadgets or any of that good stuff. Old cars, etc.... If you can't afford to buy a house, you wait, save and then buy when you can afford it.

Did you have 100K in college loans? Then go to grad school?

Thanks for the savings tips grandpa, but these days most people start out in the world with a negative net worth and less than 50K per year job.

But it's not your guests' responsibility to pay for your rent or cover the cost of their dinner plate. That is one of the tackiest things I hear every time this discussion comes up. They are guests. They are not paying admission. NP from NYC, by the way.

ITA with you. So tacky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am floored by this discussion. I'm a New Yorker who got married there 15 years ago and most gifts that we registered for and received were in the $100 range (I registered at Bloomingdales, Williams Sonoma and Scully and Scully). We received very few monetary gifts, no cash, only checks and I found it really weird to receive money. I don't think any of the checks were for more than $100-$125. Who are you people?

You're not from NYC if you are "floored" by this discussion.

People from true class would understand why people are floored.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I got married, I was happy with EVERY SINGLE GIFT i got. i was amazed that we got so many gifts. If any one criticizes the gift they received, they are not worthy of it. OP, give the most you can comfortably do! They will add it to the pile and do something great with it (hopefully).

+1!! Graciousness, manners, and gratefulness are taught in some homes from an early age.

[Anonymous]

Cash/checks =money. It is the same thing. And it's fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Millennial here, no one I know prefers gifts over cash. Most of us can't afford down payments and have lived on our own or with a significant other so we don't need things, we need cash. This is the first I've heard of cash as tacky and would never view it that way.

You don't need cash, you want cash. Here's an idea - need a downpayment, start saving. Many of us had nothing out of college and saved... no fancy iPhones, gadgets or any of that good stuff. Old cars, etc.... If you can't afford to buy a house, you wait, save and then buy when you can afford it.

Did you have 100K in college loans? Then go to grad school?

Thanks for the savings tips grandpa, but these days most people start out in the world with a negative net worth and less than 50K per year job.

But it's not your guests' responsibility to pay for your rent or cover the cost of their dinner plate. That is one of the tackiest things I hear every time this discussion comes up. They are guests. They are not paying admission. NP from NYC, by the way.

What does it matter if the cash is for the honeymoon, downpayment, wedding, couch? It's all to help the couple on their feet which is the point of wedding gifts.

I don't have a problem with people giving/receiving cash or checks; it's the rude idea that it has to be a certain amount (or more) that's rude beyond belief.