Typical SAHM with school aged kids day

[Anonymous]

I wish someone would explain why it is so horrible that a parent chooses to be a hands on *gasp* parent. Especially if that parent is a woman.

I mean it couldn't possibly be because she wants to be present in a way differently than you do. It must be that shes a lazy gold digger right who is raising her daughter(s) to be pathetic and unfulfilled.

As a SAHM I don't care why you are a WAHM/WOHM your choices are as valid as mine and you love your children the same. Why can't SAHMs get the same consideration? It is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:With all the exercising and volunteering, DC must be a veritable paradise with very fit ladies!

I do wonder why the SAHMs I know aren't fitter.

Have you ever been to the gym at 9:30 on a weekday? It's filled with very fit women. Maybe you know a different SES of SAHM than I do.

+1 - Yep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:After the kids leave, I go to yoga and/or the gym. Come home, get myself off, shower. Have a snack. Watch something or read. Then I'll go shopping or have a mani pedi. Have a light lunch out. Arrive home to meet the kids. Nanny will help with homework. Housekeeper has dinner prepped, so I'll just shove it in the oven. Have a glass of wine and wait for DH to come home around 9.

Hot. More details please.

[Anonymous]

I dropped the kids at school then worked out. I was extremely bored so I went back to work. I don't know how other women do it. They must have found better women to befriend.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:With all the exercising and volunteering, DC must be a veritable paradise with very fit ladies!

I do wonder why the SAHMs I know aren't fitter.

Do they still have babies/preschoolers?

Who knows? I have a toddler and a preschooler, work full time, and am fitter than I've ever been in my life. Multitasking isn't for the weak.

Wow. Amazing that you can do all of that without childcare.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, these aren't lives.

Begone, troll

Not a troll. Think it's pathetic that women go to the gym, "do paperwork" (whatever), and get pedicures and call it a day. Hope they have more ami iron for their daughters.

I have a husband who travels frequently when not working from home. Our life would be chaos and I would be a resentful mess if I was back at my 60 hour a week career in finance which also included frequent travel. I had a tremendously successful career which I'm happy to talk to my children about. I'm also happy to teach them about being adaptable and that I could make the choice to do what was best for an entire family of people because I loved them. Our house is peaceful and their lives are better because of the choice my husband and I made. You may find that pathetic but I'm quite proud of all of the choices I've made as well as the home life we've created for our kids. Luckily your judgment doesn't affect me in any way. You may not think you are a troll but you certainly aren't the sort of woman I would hope my daughter turns out to be.

I'm not paying for college to see my daughter stay home.

Please go take this argument to the "why did you go to college/grad school if you just SAH anyway?" thread.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Get up at 6am cook breakfast for everyone and go for a run. I finish my run at 7am when everyone else is just getting up, have a shower, get the kids ready and take them to school. Get back, put in the laundry and clean the house, put in 3-4 hours work (from home), cook various dinners for the evening, pick up the kids, help them with homework and music practice, go for a bike ride (weather depending). Read books and play board games or talk with the kids, get lunches made for the following morning, have dinner with husband (kids dinner is early), go to bed.

If you're working 20 hours a week I'd call that a part time WAHM, not SAHM.

You. Do. Not. Get. To. Define. Me.

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Anonymous wrote:Get up at 6am cook breakfast for everyone and go for a run. I finish my run at 7am when everyone else is just getting up, have a shower, get the kids ready and take them to school. Get back, put in the laundry and clean the house, put in 3-4 hours work (from home), cook various dinners for the evening, pick up the kids, help them with homework and music practice, go for a bike ride (weather depending). Read books and play board games or talk with the kids, get lunches made for the following morning, have dinner with husband (kids dinner is early), go to bed.

If you're working 20 hours a week I'd call that a part time WAHM, not SAHM.

You. Do. Not. Get. To. Define. Me.

Ok, sure, call yourself whatever you want. I didn't mean it as an insult. I work 30 hours a week myself, mostly from home, and when asked, I tell people that I work part-time, not that I stay at home. (And that I love the job situation I've worked out!) You should define yourself however you want, but I do wonder why you took my comment as an insult?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Get up at 6am cook breakfast for everyone and go for a run. I finish my run at 7am when everyone else is just getting up, have a shower, get the kids ready and take them to school. Get back, put in the laundry and clean the house, put in 3-4 hours work (from home), cook various dinners for the evening, pick up the kids, help them with homework and music practice, go for a bike ride (weather depending). Read books and play board games or talk with the kids, get lunches made for the following morning, have dinner with husband (kids dinner is early), go to bed.

If you're working 20 hours a week I'd call that a part time WAHM, not SAHM.

You. Do. Not. Get. To. Define. Me.

Ok, sure, call yourself whatever you want. I didn't mean it as an insult. I work 30 hours a week myself, mostly from home, and when asked, I tell people that I work part-time, not that I stay at home. (And that I love the job situation I've worked out!) You should define yourself however you want, but I do wonder why you took my comment as an insult?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Get up at 6am cook breakfast for everyone and go for a run. I finish my run at 7am when everyone else is just getting up, have a shower, get the kids ready and take them to school. Get back, put in the laundry and clean the house, put in 3-4 hours work (from home), cook various dinners for the evening, pick up the kids, help them with homework and music practice, go for a bike ride (weather depending). Read books and play board games or talk with the kids, get lunches made for the following morning, have dinner with husband (kids dinner is early), go to bed.

If you're working 20 hours a week I'd call that a part time WAHM, not SAHM.

You. Do. Not. Get. To. Define. Me.

Ok, sure, call yourself whatever you want. I didn't mean it as an insult. I work 30 hours a week myself, mostly from home, and when asked, I tell people that I work part-time, not that I stay at home. (And that I love the job situation I've worked out!) You should define yourself however you want, but I do wonder why you took my comment as an insult?

Oops, sorry about the double post.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:After the kids leave, I go to yoga and/or the gym. Come home, get myself off, shower. Have a snack. Watch something or read. Then I'll go shopping or have a mani pedi. Have a light lunch out. Arrive home to meet the kids. Nanny will help with homework. Housekeeper has dinner prepped, so I'll just shove it in the oven. Have a glass of wine and wait for DH to come home around 9.

The title of the post says "TYPICAL". This is not a "TYPICAL" sahm day.

Sign me up!

Oh, good grief. Don't you people recognize a troll when you see one? And not even a very good one, at that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, these aren't lives.

Begone, troll

Not a troll. Think it's pathetic that women go to the gym, "do paperwork" (whatever), and get pedicures and call it a day. Hope they have more ami iron for their daughters.

I have a husband who travels frequently when not working from home. Our life would be chaos and I would be a resentful mess if I was back at my 60 hour a week career in finance which also included frequent travel. I had a tremendously successful career which I'm happy to talk to my children about. I'm also happy to teach them about being adaptable and that I could make the choice to do what was best for an entire family of people because I loved them. Our house is peaceful and their lives are better because of the choice my husband and I made. You may find that pathetic but I'm quite proud of all of the choices I've made as well as the home life we've created for our kids. Luckily your judgment doesn't affect me in any way. You may not think you are a troll but you certainly aren't the sort of woman I would hope my daughter turns out to be.

Ditto, my dear.

+1000
The lives described on this thread (minus the juvenile and amateurish trolls, of course) are lives full of interest and joy. Far more meaningful than waking up on the same treadmill that you were on just a few hours before.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, these aren't lives.

Begone, troll

Not a troll. Think it's pathetic that women go to the gym, "do paperwork" (whatever), and get pedicures and call it a day. Hope they have more ami iron for their daughters.

If you represent DC's working women no wonder women make 78% on the dollar. You can't spell or write to save your life. Meanwhile the SAHM's posts seem quite lucid. Perhaps that is why they had more options available to them whereas you had to keep working and seem bitter and revolting. Maybe you should stick to the WOH Mom threads as these seem to upset you.

If she makes 78 cents out of every dollar, it's due to those who opt out - not those who stick it out.

That's a bit simplistic even for DCUM, don't you think?

That's the thing about the bitter harpies - their thinking is extremely simplistic. Life is either black or white to them, with no shades of gray. You're either a WOHM, fighting the "good fight," or you're a sell-out who stays home with your kids. In their extremely narrow world view, women can't possibly do both things over the course of their lives. So glad I don't know anyone like the revolting WOHMs represented so often on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, these aren't lives.

Begone, troll

Not a troll. Think it's pathetic that women go to the gym, "do paperwork" (whatever), and get pedicures and call it a day. Hope they have more ami iron for their daughters.

I have a husband who travels frequently when not working from home. Our life would be chaos and I would be a resentful mess if I was back at my 60 hour a week career in finance which also included frequent travel. I had a tremendously successful career which I'm happy to talk to my children about. I'm also happy to teach them about being adaptable and that I could make the choice to do what was best for an entire family of people because I loved them. Our house is peaceful and their lives are better because of the choice my husband and I made. You may find that pathetic but I'm quite proud of all of the choices I've made as well as the home life we've created for our kids. Luckily your judgment doesn't affect me in any way. You may not think you are a troll but you certainly aren't the sort of woman I would hope my daughter turns out to be.

I'm not paying for college to see my daughter stay home.

Hopefully your daughter is smarter than her mom and will pay her own way through college. That way, she won't have any restrictions on the way in which she chooses to live her life. Or raise her children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, these aren't lives.

Begone, troll

Not a troll. Think it's pathetic that women go to the gym, "do paperwork" (whatever), and get pedicures and call it a day. Hope they have more ami iron for their daughters.

I have a husband who travels frequently when not working from home. Our life would be chaos and I would be a resentful mess if I was back at my 60 hour a week career in finance which also included frequent travel. I had a tremendously successful career which I'm happy to talk to my children about. I'm also happy to teach them about being adaptable and that I could make the choice to do what was best for an entire family of people because I loved them. Our house is peaceful and their lives are better because of the choice my husband and I made. You may find that pathetic but I'm quite proud of all of the choices I've made as well as the home life we've created for our kids. Luckily your judgment doesn't affect me in any way. You may not think you are a troll but you certainly aren't the sort of woman I would hope my daughter turns out to be.

Ditto, my dear.

+1000
The lives described on this thread (minus the juvenile and amateurish trolls, of course) are lives full of interest and joy. Far more meaningful than waking up on the same treadmill that you were on just a few hours before.

I agree. I don't really understand why people put working moms on a pedestal over sah. I have friends who work full time, hate their job, spend a lot of their time on Facebook and Amazon.com and not actually working...but because they get a paycheck, their lives are more "worthy" than the moms who are home during the day so have the ability to help run the school's book fair, can have dinner on the table by 6pm without a huge stress on the family.

I work 20 hours a week, so I'm part time, but I've stayed at home full time and worked full time as well. There's no one path toward the "best human" award---just do your own thing people. Stop giving a crap what other people think about you and maybe these mommy wars will die away.