Baby registry only has expensive things on it

[Anonymous]

I bet the mom chose cheaper items but those were bought first.

Why not just get a big basket of books? Those are always popular. And honestly, she might want the $50 onesies. I bet they're organic and she actually wanted them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^ maybe you are my friend PP. ? I have given some of these things to other friends when they have had babies and no registry/nothing left when the baby is born and I want to give a gift.

Are you in DC? The friend who gave that particular gift to me lives in CA. But seriously it was identical and I now have a very similar go to baby gift too because that is the stuff moms don't know they need! Those A&A blankets especially.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I posted yesterday about finding out that I was only invited to the "C List" shower. I checked out the registry and all the gifts are above $50. Most are around $100. And there is a $400 breast pump. We are on our way to Target now to buy a more budget friendly gift.

I didn't see your post, but if you know you're C list, why go? I'd just get a little gift when the baby is born.

I RSVP'd before learning that it was the third shower and all the other family went to a different one. This one will be me and a bunch of random people she must think have money to burn.

I didnt read your post but isnt' it possible that you are a good friend but fit in best with this group (vs. hanging out with her in-laws, or whatever)

I'm the dad's cousin. I was the only relative at the "C list" shower. Every other relative went to a shower on New Year's Day. I thought I was left out because I was sick around that time. I didn't mind that. I learned about that there was a second shower the following Saturday for the new mom's girlfriends from college and work. Yesterday's shower was mostly women over age 60 from her church, a few neighbors, her long-time hair stylist, and me. I was an after thought. It's not the end of the world, but I did feel like I was invited to provide a pricey gift. As we were leaving, we were each given a Save the Date postcard to address for the Sip'N'See. I thought a Sip'N'See was in lieu of a shower.

I am not a super-duper stickler for etiquette, but all of this just sounds gross and gift-grubby.

[Anonymous]

My mother in law did not stick to our registry and purchased something like this for us: http://www.toysrus.com/product/index.jsp?productId=3394661&camp=PLAPPCG-_-PID5470106:TRUS&cagpspn=plat_5470106&eESource=CAPLA_DF:3394661:TRUS

Only ours had rocking chair legs... Yes it was a rocking, wooden potty chair. WTF was she thinking? You could go with something this ridiculous but include a gift receipt if you want to be nice.

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Anonymous wrote:^^ maybe you are my friend PP. ? I have given some of these things to other friends when they have had babies and no registry/nothing left when the baby is born and I want to give a gift.

Are you in DC? The friend who gave that particular gift to me lives in CA. But seriously it was identical and I now have a very similar go to baby gift too because that is the stuff moms don't know they need! Those A&A blankets especially.

I live here! But good to know that my gift twin is out there!

[Anonymous]

Bag it. Come up with something like you got the date wrong and will not be able to attend. Make it real vague. They will not miss you and do not send a gift.

[Anonymous]

I think the gift basket thing you put together sounds really nice and generous, OP. It's better than I would have done in a similar situation. I'm glad you didn't spend your whole baby shower budget on some onesies from her registry. And to those people saying that she probably had cheaper stuff on the registry that just got bought already, that's no excuse. I checked my baby registry every once in awhile and if all the less expensive items had been bought, I'd replace them with more items in the same price range to give guests who hadn't gotten anything yet more options. I didn't want anyone to look at my registry and only see a stroller, car seat, etc. It's up to the parents to be to keep the registry updated and remain considerate of their family/friends who may use the registry to get a gift.