Baby registry only has expensive things on it

[Anonymous]

Can you give a group gift?

Ask your cousins or someone to but the stroller with you.

[Anonymous]

I'd just give her a gift card with the amount I could afford.

[Anonymous]

Amazon Gift card. I loved the monthly diaper and wipe deliveries with subscribe and save - I almost never went to Walmart or Target or anything.

Buy this $50 free one-day shipping if you have Prime all done she can use it for onesies or bottles or whatever: http://amzn.to/1Q5E009

OR print $50 baby shower gift card at home: http://amzn.to/1PxX7x1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you give a group gift?

Ask your cousins or someone to but the stroller with you.

I only know a few of the others attending (this is my husband's relative and the shower is mostly her friends). My MIL already bought an umbrella stroller (that they didn't register for but she doesn't care ?). A gift card is a good idea. I think I will do that with a couple board books.

[Anonymous]

I would totally buy your own thing. The basket idea sounds great. Put a note on the tag indicated these are your "must-haves" or something like that. A wonderful gift.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I posted yesterday about finding out that I was only invited to the "C List" shower. I checked out the registry and all the gifts are above $50. Most are around $100. And there is a $400 breast pump. We are on our way to Target now to buy a more budget friendly gift.

I didn't see your post, but if you know you're C list, why go? I'd just get a little gift when the baby is born.

I RSVP'd before learning that it was the third shower and all the other family went to a different one. This one will be me and a bunch of random people she must think have money to burn.

I remember your post. The A listers probably bought all the cheap items and only the expensive stuff is left. I usually am in the camp of "stick to the registry" because you never know what they already have (most of the people who went off list for me were the ones who ended up giving me 3rd Boppy, 4th changing pad cover, etc etc etc) but in this case, just pick up whatever the hell you want because this whole scenario is super tacky anyway. There are certain things I found you can't have too many of - Miracle Blanket, pacifier clip, breastmilk storage bags, bibs, baby socks, etc. Pick up some of your favorite brands and let that be it.

[Anonymous]

Who cares, OP? If you don't like what the parents register for/need, then chip in with someone else to buy what the parents need. It's not about you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I posted yesterday about finding out that I was only invited to the "C List" shower. I checked out the registry and all the gifts are above $50. Most are around $100. And there is a $400 breast pump. We are on our way to Target now to buy a more budget friendly gift.

I didn't see your post, but if you know you're C list, why go? I'd just get a little gift when the baby is born.

I RSVP'd before learning that it was the third shower and all the other family went to a different one. This one will be me and a bunch of random people she must think have money to burn.

I remember your post. The A listers probably bought all the cheap items and only the expensive stuff is left. I usually am in the camp of "stick to the registry" because you never know what they already have (most of the people who went off list for me were the ones who ended up giving me 3rd Boppy, 4th changing pad cover, etc etc etc) but in this case, just pick up whatever the hell you want because this whole scenario is super tacky anyway. There are certain things I found you can't have too many of - Miracle Blanket, pacifier clip, breastmilk storage bags, bibs, baby socks, etc. Pick up some of your favorite brands and let that be it.

No no no. You're suddenly going out of town on a work trip. Your friend from, uh, England is going to be that day only! Oh no, you're sick, wouldn't want to get the pregnant lady sick!

I almost never cancel on people. But I'd cancel for this.

[Anonymous]

Fine, I'll be the honest one. I was pushed to have a baby shower, and pushed to make a registry for it. So I picked out things I liked. And some people looked at that and said "Oh, she has a $30 dress on her list. I'll just get her three dresses from Target instead. Because three is better than one." Then I had to go to Target and return three dresses. Because what they did not know was that I picked the $30 dress for the baby to wear at the wedding she'd be attending at seven months old.

Three people decided to buy me a Nose Frieda. My oldest is four and I've never wanted to suck her snot from her nose with a tube. Four people bought me Disney stuff. Because they said "You can't escape Disney when you have kids so you might as well embrace it!" Um, no. I returned all that stuff too.

Basically after the baby shower, I spent an entire day running around town returning stuff people bought that hadn't been on the registry. I know they meant well, but it was still a huge pain. If your inlaw wants a $50 onesie, OP, and you're willing to spend $50, just buy the damn onesie she wants.

[Anonymous]

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Who cares, OP? If you don't like what the parents register for/need, then chip in with someone else to buy what the parents need. It's not about you.

Who cares about what? I am not buying a bugaboo stroller and on principle I don't think I can buy $80 white overalls for a baby and that is it. No one needs what she has chosen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Fine, I'll be the honest one. I was pushed to have a baby shower, and pushed to make a registry for it. So I picked out things I liked. And some people looked at that and said "Oh, she has a $30 dress on her list. I'll just get her three dresses from Target instead. Because three is better than one." Then I had to go to Target and return three dresses. Because what they did not know was that I picked the $30 dress for the baby to wear at the wedding she'd be attending at seven months old.

Three people decided to buy me a Nose Frieda. My oldest is four and I've never wanted to suck her snot from her nose with a tube. Four people bought me Disney stuff. Because they said "You can't escape Disney when you have kids so you might as well embrace it!" Um, no. I returned all that stuff too.

Basically after the baby shower, I spent an entire day running around town returning stuff people bought that hadn't been on the registry. I know they meant well, but it was still a huge pain. If your inlaw wants a $50 onesie, OP, and you're willing to spend $50, just buy the damn onesie she wants.

No one is forcing her to have a shower. She is having it for herself. A $30 dress seems reasonable to me. I would happily buy that plus a few other small things. But buying one onesie for $50 is ridiculous. She should have registered for some more normal things.

[Anonymous]

Get some diapers or a cute Tea Collection outfit in a larger size and call it good. I also like your idea of must haves-- safety items like outlet covers and cabinet locks, thermometer, baby tub, wash cloths, towel, soap etc aren't sexy but they're likely to get used and be appreciated

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Geez, the gift grabbing gets more and more disgusting.

I'd wrap up a copy of "Goodnight Moon" (paperback version) and be done with it.

I usually equally gift "go th f*ck to sleep" for people I love, and people I loathe. The ones I love get it, the ones I loathe are so offended that my message comes in loud and clear

+1 I give it along with "Make Way for the Ducklings." The people I like get it, the ones I don't like are perplexed.

[Anonymous]

Get her a case of Huggies diapers and wipes from Costco. Everyone needs those. This person (the pregnant one) sounds like an entitled idiot!

[Anonymous]

Go off registry. It is crappy to have a registry with all pricey items. I get that some people put the larger items on there for family to know what they want, but expecting the average guest to spend $60 is ridiculous.

FWIW, I go off registry all the time but it's to specifically get the muslin swaddling blankets. Big enough to use as a cover for nursing, will cover the entire infant carseat, lightweight, large enough for swaddling. People always forget about them and everyone I've given them to absolutely loves them. http://www.target.com/p/aden-by-aden-anais-swaddleplus-4-pack/-/A-17460760#prodSlot=_1_1 There is a 2 pack also.