MIL as DH's confidante - how would you feel about this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it is none of your business who your husband confides in, unless that person doesn't keep the information to themselves. It is a total double standard. Women confide everything to their mothers, but god forbid if a man wants to be close to his mother. OP I hope you have only son's and their wives treat you similarly. How insecure are people that they worry about stuff like this??

I am a woman. I tell my mom nearly nothing, and even less about my relationship with my husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It seems like MIL is the only one DH ever confides in about his problems. How would you feel about this, particularly when it's about me? It makes me uncomfortable and I don't think I will ever have any kind of warm relationship with MIL because of it.

Some day would you like your son to have that sort of relationship with you?

No, I would not want my son to have a relationship with me that made it harder for him to have a close relationship with his spouse.

a) it isn't about me.
b) I love him, and that means I want what's best for him.
c) The separation and loss of closeness that comes with his aging is breaking my heart even now (he's a teen). But that's the way life is. Again, it isn't about me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DIL put an end to my son calling me 3 years ago. She thinks she whipped him good but what she doesn't know is he calls me from his work. I think he's afraid of her because she's jealous of everyone and she threatens to leave when she doesn't get her way and pitches a fit.

I recently told him he shouldn't call me anymore. His mother wife would be angry.

I feel sorry for him but he chose the witch so now he has to do as she says.

I'm sorry. I hope he divorces and finds himself (and you) again.