What does "Fit" Mean Anyway?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I doubt these guys online care about a woman who is truly fit or athletic. They just don't want someone to be fat or on their way there. All that talk about triathlons and what not is designed to scare off fat women while simultaneously making him look good and interesting.

+1. I have one friend who is skinny and naturally petite and fine boned and rarely works out and is often sick. Another is average size and works out but is naturally larger boned. They both do online dating and the skinny unfit one has tons more luck even with guys claiming to be looking for fit ladies

This is because they're not looking for "fit" in the health sense of the word, they're looking for fit in the looks sense ie thin, slim, not fat or approaching it, etc. it's just code.

Agree--it's totally code. I wish they'd own their bias.

I've been an athlete/avid exerciser for 25+ years, and one of the things I love about my husband is that he's *not* exercise-obsessed. Someone super into their fitness to the point of exercising for hours a day, never shutting up about it, being neurotic about diet, etc., is a huge turn-off.