No judgment in law thread

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Chirp, chirp, chirp...the "need" to talk is CONSTANT. EVERY bit of peace and quiet must be filled with CHATTER.

"Well, I've already told you this, but..."
"I know you've heard this story, but..."

I haven't heard an original opinion, story or anecdote from these people in seven years. It's THE SAME CONVERSATION. I'm living in the movie "Groundhog Day."

It's the same with my ILs, except the stories are brags. The same brags for 18 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How is it that my FIL can sit on his ass and watch almost everyone else do all the work. He doesn't so much as carry a glass to the sink. And he sits for hours in the middle of the kitchen at my island watching all the work. WTF? He is physically able. Though why should I expect anything else -- it's been like this the whole time I've known him.

Depressed maybe? When I watch my friend's DH sit on his ass while she runs around getting shit done, I think that he must be weak or depressed.

[Anonymous]

DH has one male relative that can't get through a meal without food shaming or body shaming the women at the table.

[Anonymous]

My FIL never calls, sends a card or presents to my kids, which are his only grandkids. He is addicted to Facebook, so if my kids mke a good photo op, he posts it, but otherwise he is completely uninvolved in their lives. He is divorced from my MIL, she's lovely, and because they all live overseas with the time difference she was face timing with them and asked to watch them open their presents. She mailed presents and sent me money to buy them other things. But according to my fils FB account, he was at the beach with his second wife and their kids, eating fabulous food, walking along the shore, etc. we tried calling him several times, he never answers. My kids are old enough to notice and say something but I try to cover for him.

[Anonymous]

What is it with old people and Facebook? I woke up to about 30 pics of my kid on my FILs Facebook account. This after we've mentioned several times that we only share on Facebook on a very limited basis and with a select few people (we have a secret group of family and friends we are close to in real life and share pictures maybe once a month max).

Every time I post a pic there, he shares it with his friends (I have it set to no one else can see it but he hasn't figured that out yet). He must be on FB constantly because he "likes" everything within 2 minutes of anything I post.

My ILs also print and frame those pics from Facebook. Why not just ask me for the files or even for prints?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is it with old people and Facebook? I woke up to about 30 pics of my kid on my FILs Facebook account. This after we've mentioned several times that we only share on Facebook on a very limited basis and with a select few people (we have a secret group of family and friends we are close to in real life and share pictures maybe once a month max).

Every time I post a pic there, he shares it with his friends (I have it set to no one else can see it but he hasn't figured that out yet). He must be on FB constantly because he "likes" everything within 2 minutes of anything I post.

My ILs also print and frame those pics from Facebook. Why not just ask me for the files or even for prints?

LOL! Mine, too. They even print the pics with my family/random friends of ours they don't know. So my ILs have all these printed/framed photos of, like, my sister and her husband holding my daughter. Um, OK...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What is it with old people and Facebook? I woke up to about 30 pics of my kid on my FILs Facebook account. This after we've mentioned several times that we only share on Facebook on a very limited basis and with a select few people (we have a secret group of family and friends we are close to in real life and share pictures maybe once a month max).

Every time I post a pic there, he shares it with his friends (I have it set to no one else can see it but he hasn't figured that out yet). He must be on FB constantly because he "likes" everything within 2 minutes of anything I post.

My ILs also print and frame those pics from Facebook. Why not just ask me for the files or even for prints?

LOL! Mine, too. They even print the pics with my family/random friends of ours they don't know. So my ILs have all these printed/framed photos of, like, my sister and her husband holding my daughter. Um, OK...

Seriously, it is insane the number of photos of my family in their home. Bordering on weird. Who needs 5-6 photos of the grand kid in every. Single. Room. .?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is it with old people and Facebook? I woke up to about 30 pics of my kid on my FILs Facebook account. This after we've mentioned several times that we only share on Facebook on a very limited basis and with a select few people (we have a secret group of family and friends we are close to in real life and share pictures maybe once a month max).

Every time I post a pic there, he shares it with his friends (I have it set to no one else can see it but he hasn't figured that out yet). He must be on FB constantly because he "likes" everything within 2 minutes of anything I post.

My ILs also print and frame those pics from Facebook. Why not just ask me for the files or even for prints?

LOL! Mine, too. They even print the pics with my family/random friends of ours they don't know. So my ILs have all these printed/framed photos of, like, my sister and her husband holding my daughter. Um, OK...

Seriously, it is insane the number of photos of my family in their home. Bordering on weird. Who needs 5-6 photos of the grand kid in every. Single. Room. .?

I honestly think some members of this generation of grandparents are really just showing off how devoted/obsessed they are with their grandkids. It's the me-me-me Boomer generation making it all about them and how GRANDPARENT-Y they are. My grandparents certainly had photos of us and were proud of us, but had their own lives and didn't crawl around on the floor after every kid, constantly demanding kisses and attention, CONSTANTLY showering gifts. They were chill.

I'm LOL-ing about the grandparents printing out and framing pics of their grandkids with the other side of the family/friends they don't know! Get a GRIP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What is it with old people and Facebook? I woke up to about 30 pics of my kid on my FILs Facebook account. This after we've mentioned several times that we only share on Facebook on a very limited basis and with a select few people (we have a secret group of family and friends we are close to in real life and share pictures maybe once a month max).

Every time I post a pic there, he shares it with his friends (I have it set to no one else can see it but he hasn't figured that out yet). He must be on FB constantly because he "likes" everything within 2 minutes of anything I post.

My ILs also print and frame those pics from Facebook. Why not just ask me for the files or even for prints?

LOL! Mine, too. They even print the pics with my family/random friends of ours they don't know. So my ILs have all these printed/framed photos of, like, my sister and her husband holding my daughter. Um, OK...

Seriously, it is insane the number of photos of my family in their home. Bordering on weird. Who needs 5-6 photos of the grand kid in every. Single. Room. .?

Funny isn't it? We talk about millennialist being selfish but hell some of our parents are much more so.

I honestly think some members of this generation of grandparents are really just showing off how devoted/obsessed they are with their grandkids. It's the me-me-me Boomer generation making it all about them and how GRANDPARENT-Y they are. My grandparents certainly had photos of us and were proud of us, but had their own lives and didn't crawl around on the floor after every kid, constantly demanding kisses and attention, CONSTANTLY showering gifts. They were chill.

I'm LOL-ing about the grandparents printing out and framing pics of their grandkids with the other side of the family/friends they don't know! Get a GRIP.

[Anonymous]

Dear in laws. I don't care about your genealogy. I don't want your dead fathers carving knives as a holiday present. My DH doesn't know what to do with the inkwell that belonged to your grandfather. Stop giving us stuff you don't feel like storing in the basement anymore.

[Anonymous]

My MIL (whom I really like) came down with a cold and spent two of the 4 days we were here in bed. FIL watched tv really, really loudly.

We usually come here (west coast) both winter and spring break. The good news is that even DH recognized that this was not a good trip and helped me make alternative plans -- just our nuclear family-- for spring break. I invited my in laws and SIL to our house for Passover, but they declined because "it's too far away." Umm, the same distance that we have come every year for the past 9 years!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My MIL (whom I really like) came down with a cold and spent two of the 4 days we were here in bed. FIL watched tv really, really loudly.

We usually come here (west coast) both winter and spring break. The good news is that even DH recognized that this was not a good trip and helped me make alternative plans -- just our nuclear family-- for spring break. I invited my in laws and SIL to our house for Passover, but they declined because "it's too far away." Umm, the same distance that we have come every year for the past 9 years!

I know how your kids feel, PP. My mom was the only person in her family, out of 6 kids, to move to a city that is a six hr drive away. My family went to visit them every summer, every other Christmas, and most spring breaks. How often did ANY of them visit us? I can count on one hand. Nobody even came to celebrate her 50th birthday, even though they were all invited.

Not sure how old your kids are, but they will figure it out soon enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dear in laws. I don't care about your genealogy. I don't want your dead fathers carving knives as a holiday present. My DH doesn't know what to do with the inkwell that belonged to your grandfather. Stop giving us stuff you don't feel like storing in the basement anymore.

+100000

AND stop giving away priceless memorabilia away - that belongs in the IMMEDIATE family - talk about confused MIL!

[Anonymous]

Sil lives in Boston, but visiting DC for the weekend. Soon to be moving to another city and has decided to leave random crap with us "hey, I'm going to leave my old suitcase here for you guys to use. I have a new one, so I don't need it, but I might if I move back, so save it for me."

Um... Not your storage closet.

[Anonymous]

Seriously, MIL, we do not want gross old broken toys from when DH was little. Also, in the scrapbooks from when DH was little, there are still crumbs of cake on the used plate from his 2nd birthday that you Saran wrapped in there o_O.