No judgment in law thread

[Anonymous]

Super minor complaint compared to others, but despite DH suggesting to his mom that I would enjoy things other than clothes, she insists on buying me clothes as gifts-- and always a size too big. MIL always talks about how thin she was when she was my age, so the constant mis-sizing feels like a tacit judgement of my size (I'm a medium, not a large). She knows I returned last years items that were too big (DH navigated that one...)- but still bought the same wrong sizes this year. She also can't remember anything about my family- including basic things like how many siblings I have (much less remembering their names!)

[Anonymous]

MIL sits on her ass all day with ipad ignoring kids. I prep, cook, serve, clear, wash. Kids set table, DH cleans table. She just sits.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How is it that my FIL can sit on his ass and watch almost everyone else do all the work. He doesn't so much as carry a glass to the sink. And he sits for hours in the middle of the kitchen at my island watching all the work. WTF? He is physically able. Though why should I expect anything else -- it's been like this the whole time I've known him.

Do we have the same FIL? Last night, he sat down at dinner and immediately started eating. He was done before I and MIL finished serving everyone and sat down ourselves.

[Anonymous]

Tiny vent: I reminded DH to call his family, then he kept face timing on and on...so annoying! I hate how FaceTime takes up the whole room, and no one else can have a conversation because that is going on. I miss passing the phone around. Quick conversation with each person and all done!

But I do wonder how long it would have taken DH to reeve to call his parent s and feel like I probably did a good thing encouraging it. And now it is done and time to get a drink!

For all of you with major annoying holiday, I wish you well!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How is it that my FIL can sit on his ass and watch almost everyone else do all the work. He doesn't so much as carry a glass to the sink. And he sits for hours in the middle of the kitchen at my island watching all the work. WTF? He is physically able. Though why should I expect anything else -- it's been like this the whole time I've known him.

Do we have the same FIL? Last night, he sat down at dinner and immediately started eating. He was done before I and MIL finished serving everyone and sat down ourselves.

Maybe so! And if so, I feel your pain. Let's see -- does he do anything at all to help in the house? No? Then, possibly. And here I thought he was napping today...maybe he snuck away to be unhelpful at your house!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Super minor complaint compared to others, but despite DH suggesting to his mom that I would enjoy things other than clothes, she insists on buying me clothes as gifts-- and always a size too big. MIL always talks about how thin she was when she was my age, so the constant mis-sizing feels like a tacit judgement of my size (I'm a medium, not a large). She knows I returned last years items that were too big (DH navigated that one...)- but still bought the same wrong sizes this year. She also can't remember anything about my family- including basic things like how many siblings I have (much less remembering their names!)

I'm so sorry! That all stinks!

[Anonymous]

All the awkward, somewhat racist comments like "I don't care what you name the baby, as long as it doesn't end in -isha", or "that acrtress... She's black, but light skinned black- oh, Halle Berry"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How is it that my FIL can sit on his ass and watch almost everyone else do all the work. He doesn't so much as carry a glass to the sink. And he sits for hours in the middle of the kitchen at my island watching all the work. WTF? He is physically able. Though why should I expect anything else -- it's been like this the whole time I've known him.

Do we have the same FIL? Last night, he sat down at dinner and immediately started eating. He was done before I and MIL finished serving everyone and sat down ourselves.

Maybe so! And if so, I feel your pain. Let's see -- does he do anything at all to help in the house? No? Then, possibly. And here I thought he was napping today...maybe he snuck away to be unhelpful at your house!!!

He's currently watching basketball unnecessarily loudly. Meanwhile, I'm making dinner for the family and MIL is making dinner for him (because he only eats one thing, but won't make it for himself).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Right now, future MIL may be my hero. She's nuttier than a semi trailer of fruitcakes, but she just masterminded a plan to solve a problem with my mom that DCUM couldn't.

Do tell!

MIL is paying the nice Muslim college boy next door to drive my mother to/from a mean relative's nursing home today. That way, no one else's holiday is ruined.

I love your MIL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Super minor complaint compared to others, but despite DH suggesting to his mom that I would enjoy things other than clothes, she insists on buying me clothes as gifts-- and always a size too big. MIL always talks about how thin she was when she was my age, so the constant mis-sizing feels like a tacit judgement of my size (I'm a medium, not a large). She knows I returned last years items that were too big (DH navigated that one...)- but still bought the same wrong sizes this year. She also can't remember anything about my family- including basic things like how many siblings I have (much less remembering their names!)

I'm so sorry! That all stinks!

Time to start buying her clothes, one size too small...

[Anonymous]

OP here. DH refuses to acknowledge that in the past we've come on the 24th and left on the 26th. We came on the 23rd and he is insisting on leaving on the 27th. And we just saw his family for thanksgiving and the month before that and the month before that. I AM SO SICK OF THESE PEOPLE. They are so boring. They live in shitsville so even my preschooler is bored.

[Anonymous]

SIL and family are so self-involved. Every topic of conversation is them. Every family decision must revolve around their needs.

[Anonymous]

MY IN-LAWS WON'T SHUT THE H UP. It is after 11 p.m. You people have been talking NONSTOP at a needlessly loud volume since *6:30 a.m.* What the FUCK is there still to say? You've told all your rote stories, shared all of your oft-stated opinions, and made all of your routine observations.

GO THE FUCK TO SLEEP.

[Anonymous]

BIL and wife took off for a family vacation hours before we arrived in town meaning cousins wont get to see one another for over a year. I'm done trying to make this relationship work. No more effort from me.

[Anonymous]

Husband is an ass when his parents are around. And we have to eat crappy foods - they're taking us out for one meal, but it's benihanas.

They also arrived with gifts for kids, 2 sweaters for dh, a promise of a $250 Nordstrom gift card for him (they apparently forgot it on the counter at home) and nothing for me. Nothing. Sil also brought presents for my dh and kids and nothing for me. Now, w're Jewish and don't celebrate Christmas, but if you're bringing presents because it's "Christmas" and making a fuss over said presents, one would think you would include their DIL.

Sil (single, no kids, mid 30s) has told me that it's really important to have a clean house and that she doesn't understand why anyone would host a cookie exchange party or gingerbread decorating party (we went to both last weekend). She told me that those families "probably don't have nice things."