Baby after 50

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Over the past year, three 50 something people that I know personally have lost their lives. An involved and much loved father of 4; an old friend with a demanding full time job who was also a part time fitness instructor - she died months after a tough diagnosis; a beloved mother and grandma who lived her life well but lost her hard fought battle with cancer.

I bring this up not to dissuade you from having a child, but to hammer in the reality that a long life or even reasonable health is not a given for any of us.

If you have a baby now Op just do not assume that you will be around to watch him/her grow up. You should have a plan in place in case something happens to you.

Good luck with whatever you decide. Being a parent is a ton of work but also one of the most rewarding things you could ever do.

The same can be said of anyone at any age. All parents should have a plan in place in case they die.

Yes, true enough. I know that we certainly had a back up plan in place when our children were little in particular (we were in our 30's when they were born) but it would have been a real fluke if something had happened to either one of us at that age. At 50 it would certainly be sad if something happened to either one of us but it would hardly be the fluke that it would have been in our 30's.

Obviously the risk of ill health and death go up as you age.

A fluke? Younger people die every day. Children die every day. It is very unfortunate, but it's a hardly a fluke.

Frankly, in this day and age to tell an otherwise healthy 50-year-old to not expect to be there 20 years later is rather odd.