The great shirt debate: house rules for boys?

[Anonymous]

I grew up in a house with a very liberal mother who allowed us to set our rules for this based on our comfort level. My mother frequently wore a bathing suit top and shorts. Prior to puberty, we ran around in underwear, when I started puberty I started wearing pants or shorts so that a pantiliner or pad wouldn't show and a bra. Once my brother started to be uncomfortable seeing my sister and I in bras, we agreed that if we had to wear more than a bra, he had to wear a shirt too, so we switched from bras to loose chemises and he wore tanks or tees, my mother just threw on whatever shirt was on top of her pile or first in the closet.

Frankly, I can't imagine setting rules for clothing for kids other than requiring underwear for hygiene. Anything beyond that, they can work out for themselves, with or without my input.

[Anonymous]

Do all you free spirits let your kids wear shoes in the house?

My rule is: "Put your shirt back on."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do all you free spirits let your kids wear shoes in the house?

My rule is: "Put your shirt back on."

No shoes No shirt No problem
No sticks up the behind in my home

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do all you free spirits let your kids wear shoes in the house?

My rule is: "Put your shirt back on."

It depends. We have one pair of orthotics in the house, so that person has to wear shoes at all times. The rest of us can wear shoes or not as we wish, most of us don't wish.

[Anonymous]

I find this thread fascinating. I never thought about a rule in the house about shirts. Both my husband and 14 year old son always wear some sort of shirt at all times, except when they are in the process of looking for a shirt to put on. I think going around shirtless is low class, and we don't have to go through the trouble to enforce it because they don't feel comfortable walking around without a shirt unless they are at the pool or beach.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find this thread fascinating. I never thought about a rule in the house about shirts. Both my husband and 14 year old son always wear some sort of shirt at all times, except when they are in the process of looking for a shirt to put on. I think going around shirtless is low class, and we don't have to go through the trouble to enforce it because they don't feel comfortable walking around without a shirt unless they are at the pool or beach.

+1

[Anonymous]

My 2 boys ds is 11 and ss is 14. ss started wearing boxers and always has a t-shirt on so its never been an issue. my 11 y/o ds wears regular white briefs (hanes) and since he's gotten a bit taller put on a bit of muscle, i started having him put a white t-shirt on. one night last summer our a/c went out and it was a bit warm inside even with fans on. my ss was just in his boxers and my ds asked if he could take his white t-shirt off. i said 'ok' this one time and when he took his t-shirt off, his white cotton hanes briefs were fully revealed. i saw my 14y/o ss looking at my 11y/o son's white underwear as the cotton on his briefs shifted and wrinkled i talked to my ss later that evening and told him it wasn't appropriate for him to be looking at my 11y/o's white underwear. he said that he got jealous seeing his step-brother's white hanes and that his briefs looked soft. i think he might have some sort of fetish as i noticed him looking at my ds every time he moved and he was lookking at the soft cotton wrinkle on my young son's plain white underwear.

[Anonymous]

Shirts at the table. That’s nonnegotiable in my book. And no ball caps in the house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I find this thread fascinating. I never thought about a rule in the house about shirts. Both my husband and 14 year old son always wear some sort of shirt at all times, except when they are in the process of looking for a shirt to put on. I think going around shirtless is low class, and we don't have to go through the trouble to enforce it because they don't feel comfortable walking around without a shirt unless they are at the pool or beach.

+1

+2.

[Anonymous]

Who cares? Let the kid go shirtless at home.

[Anonymous]

10 and 8 and ours wear their underwear around constantly. They are like radiators so putting the house at 68 would not get clothes on them.

None of us wear shoes in the house unless we’re about to go somewhere (do people without foot issues really wear shoes around their house?)

[Anonymous]

14 yo son walks around in boxers all of the time. I tell him to put on a shirt if he’s cooking, mostly to avoid possible splatter and burns which happened once, when we are all eating together or if he goes outside. Sometimes he wears a shirt but often doesn’t in those situations. I’m not fighting that battle. He always gets dressed if we have company over.

[Anonymous]

20:59. I also have daughters and they sometimes wear crop tops around. I am always cold and don’t understand how my kids dress like it’s summer all year.

[Anonymous]

My boys can wear whatever - but both prefer to be clothed most of the time.
No naked bottoms downstairs.
Shirts and shorts/pants at the table or if there are guests.

[Anonymous]

My boys are often in their underwear or just shorts. They get fully dressed for company. I don’t have daughters. Don’t see the big deal.