Child is sick, don't want parents to know
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Anonymous
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OP,
Cancel your trip, but don't let her know until the last minute. Give some excuse like the pipes burst/plumbing emergency. I don't like doing this, but I totally get where you're coming from. Sometimes, you need to insulate yourself from people who are well meaning but essentially are not. Best wishes for you and your kid. |
Anonymous
| Don't go back for Thanksgiving. Stop answering the phone all the time. Deactivate your fb account- you can say something about how your trying to be fb free for the holiday season to focus on people and the true meaning of the season of something like that. |
Anonymous
| Negative thoughts are just that thoughts. It won't chage your daughters diagnoisis. You could all die today if a plane crashes into your house. I would tell her and OWN IT , so liberating |
Anonymous
| The good news, it'll be a needle biospy. The bad news, my mom calls every day to ask if we know anything. |
Anonymous
| I hope everything turns out ok for your little one. |
Anonymous
"No, Mom. I'll call you when we know." Or.. "Oh I thought I told you we won't know anything for a while. When I hear, I'll call you." If she won't let up then cancel the trip. Tell her flat out that you can't deal with her right now. Sending good thoughts, OP. |
Anonymous
I agree with this, more or less. You could tell her that her calls are not helpful to you, and that you promise you will let her know when you get results. If she'll be at all receptive to hearing this, you could tell her that her frequent calls just make you anxious, and if she needs to talk about it, she needs to talk to someone other than you, but you'll let her know as soon as you have news. If that doesn't work, you could not pick up when she calls (and you could tell her after the first time that you will not pick up, but you'll call her when you know something - with any comment that you won't be responding to her until you have news, accompany it with telling her you will call her when you do get information). If you won't have test results before the trip, you can judge whether you think you want to go based on her response to your request not to call you daily. |
Anonymous
| Prayers for your child, OP. I hope you get good news after the tests. |
Anonymous
| Any update OP? |
Anonymous
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I'm a wimp, but I'd go with allergy testing as a reason.
"She's having a negative reaction to something and we are trying to get to the root of what it is. BTW, please keep her away from (plums, kiwi, ferrets...) while we are here." I am not very brave when it comes to things like this. I "adult" by surviving. |
Anonymous
Let it go to voice mail. You're enabling her by entertaining the neurosis-filled calls. |
Anonymous
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I have this mom. I hate it. I lie all the time
Telling them what you need doesn't work. Having your husband or father doesn't work They can't help it I'd cancel in a second. You must be so worried. Last think you need is more And I'd turn off the texts. No one has a right to compound your anxiety right now. No one |
Anonymous
| If it just a needle biopsy, then there should not be even need for a bandage. (Sorry if I missed if it will be a surgical biopsy.) Best of luck OP! |
Anonymous
I do let it go to voicemail, but she thinks me not answering means something is seriously wrong. The biopsy came back clean, as did blood work. There was a lot of concern regarding where the enlarged nodes were, but so far, it just seems to be a fluke. I'm looking into getting a second opinion, but for now things are ok. |
Anonymous
| Great news! Happy Thanksgiving! |