Male teachers and diapering/toileting

[Anonymous]

Do your own research, 4:06. It’s a commonly known fact. No one cares if you don’t like the basic facts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men are wired differently to women, as a mother & a woman who was sexually abused as a child I would not feel comfortable with a male teacher toileting or changing my child. I am a teacher who works in a childcare centre, we have a new male teacher who is great & think it’s fabulous what he does with the children but feel strongly that he shouldn’t be changing or taking them to the toilet. It puts me on edge when he is alone in the preschool & feel it is high risk because he is a man. I feel very strongly about it.

+1,000,000

[Anonymous]

I would never let my kids go to a preschool where male staff were involved in diapering students and I would never have a male babysitter for my kids. 1 out of 4 kids will experience sexual abuse in their lifetime...99 percent of the time by a male perpetrator.

[Anonymous]

Curious what those of you who do not trust male caregivers make of the fact that a daycare or preschool discriminating on this basis in their employment practices would be…. illegal.

What are you going to do if there’s a staffing change not to your liking?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would never let my kids go to a preschool where male staff were involved in diapering students and I would never have a male babysitter for my kids. 1 out of 4 kids will experience sexual abuse in their lifetime...99 percent of the time by a male perpetrator.

Usually a family member though; use the statistics right.

[Anonymous]

Yup, male teachers and male nurses need this protection so often because of the way we have become.

My daughter is older now - and her best teacher (and favorite) was her male kindergarten teacher.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men are wired differently to women, as a mother & a woman who was sexually abused as a child I would not feel comfortable with a male teacher toileting or changing my child. I am a teacher who works in a childcare centre, we have a new male teacher who is great & think it’s fabulous what he does with the children but feel strongly that he shouldn’t be changing or taking them to the toilet. It puts me on edge when he is alone in the preschool & feel it is high risk because he is a man. I feel very strongly about it.

+1,000,000

First, I am really sorry about your past abuse.

However, it is discriminatory to feel that way because of a man.

[Anonymous]

No need to be so rude & condescending, I guess you can’t read or understand how I feel whatsoever. I don’t really care what you think of me , but I do care about young children being preyed upon by creepy men. A police clearance doesn’t guarantee safety. The man who abused me at 7 has been taking photos in schools & is married with 2 children. Sexual abuse towards young children can happen a lot easier than you might believe, mainly by men which isn’t a lie. I simply don’t agree that men should be around young naked children in a preschool/ childcare setting. You can think whatever you like but have respect that I wouldn’t be the only person who wouldn’t want a male teacher changing my child.

[Anonymous]

...by the way he wasn’t a family member either & thank you to whoever it was who said they wouldn’t let there child at a centre or be babysat by a male who would be involved in diapering or changing them. It’s unfortunate sum people may feel like that, but they do..... & for good reason. A detective shocked me recently when she told me how much of it is happening & she has to deal with it every day at work.

[Anonymous]

I do think it's inconsistent/somewhat discriminatory for a daycare to have this policy for male staff but not for female staff diapering boys (which of course should be allowed). That being said, I would not hire a male babysitter or nanny, unless it was my nephew or dad or something, so I guess *I'm* inconsistent, too.

[Anonymous]

...not being allowed to change children in a preschool setting won’t stop men being great teachers & I really think they are fabulous teachers. You can’t pretend that these things don’t happen as much as it does & it’s our job to keep children safe so please try & accept that rather than being offended ....the facts are there if you want to look. I’m speaking from experience & I am not a man hater...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 3-year-old daughter attends a daycare/preschool in Montgomery County, and it was just confirmed to me that they do not permit male teachers to do ANY diapering or toileting of the children. It just so happens that the lead teacher in my daughter's room is male (and this is a room full of potty-training kids), so one of the three teachers is rendered useless for taking kids to the bathroom (which is especially critical with the potty emergencies that we all know these kids have on a daily, if not hourly, basis). It was also confirmed to me that this is not a state or county rule, but rather an attempt by the school to "protect their male teachers". I assume this means they are wanting to completely eliminate any chance of a "claim" being made against those teachers.

My reaction to this, however, is frustration/irritation at the practical consequences of the policy, and shock/anger at the suggestion that male teachers need this "protection" but female teachers do not. Doesn't this ring of sexism? Maybe it is not even legal?

Am I wrong to be upset? I have no qualms about my daughter's well-vetted wonderful male teacher taking her to the bathroom, and I worry about what kind of message this is sending to the kids and male/female roles in society, etc....

That policy is completely nuts. It's like saying blacks can't work at a store by themselves since they might steal merchandise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:New center director here - we have a fairly small staff and have ad a few male teachers over the years. No diapering or toilet responsibilities for the male teachers. In the teacher's own best interest and for insurance reasons.

Yep. Same reason I wouldn't let a black employee close a retail establishment by themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t want my child changed by a male teacher & I know I’m not the only one!!!!!!

Do you let your husband do it at home? Statistically, he's more likely to abuse your children than a teacher.

[Anonymous]

Do the male teachers get paid less since they’re doing less work? I’d be willing to bet they actually make more. It is sad and messed up but also understand