Why is being beautiful so important to women?

[Anonymous]

Nah, I'm an attractive guy married to an attractive woman. Or maybe I'm delusional. But it doesn't matter, this whole "women have to be beautiful because men can be rich" thing was last true in the early 60s. The incredibly attractive mom at school catches my eye, as does the moderately attractive mom. [What? I'm not dead.] So what? I'm sure it works the same way with you and dads. You don't need to be beautiful. It helps, but it's not something you *need*, any more than guys need to be handsome.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man here. No, women don't need to be beautiful. I pick up my kid from school and look around and it's quite clear neither women nor men need to be beautiful to find spouses, earn enough to live in my neighborhood, and by all appearances happily raise a family. It may be that many of the moms I see spend and spend oodles of money on cosmetics, cosmetic surgery, etc., but most of their husbands barely notice. It's something you do for yourselves, or maybe, rationally, because you really wanted to trade up a half grade on the attractiveness scale of the men who were interested in you. But psssst, a little secret, you can trade up much further by having the right personality in general and especially for specific men.

Anonymous wrote:Its biology that dictates it.

Cost of reproduction is very low for men and extremely high for women. Women need to find a spouse who is a a good provider because of that. If they can attract a lot of men, they can choose the best provider and husband from them. To attract a lot of men, they need to be beautiful.

Similarly, men need to be very successful because that will ensure that they have beautiful women vying for their attention.

So, men need to be rich and women need to be beautiful...and it proves that Bimbos actually get this right

Yes, we as a society have moved beyond flat out appearances as a judgement for mating (hooray, we're better than those birds of paradise), but the underlying tendencies are still there. You may be an average man happily married to an average woman, but the incredibly attractive mom at school is still going to catch your eye. Now take things out of our DCUM bubble where we are cognizant of our human nature, and you will find many more examples where attractive people are treated differently.

I was once on a long flight with my obese aunt, and the woman across the aisle kept complaining about a bad smell. As the person who had to share an armrest with my aunt, I didn't smell a thing, but the woman spent the whole flight making a fuss, asking for air fresheners, and glaring at my aunt. I guarantee that would not have happened to a fit and attractive person.