Kid leaves for the school bus and you notice they left their lunch sitting on the counter...

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Anonymous wrote:Going hungry for one meal will not hurt your children, and may teach them not to forget their lunch again.

Wrong. Sure it won't kill them but they will learn nothing in school if they're hungry. The school knows this and that is why it is federal law that the school must feed them if they don't have a lunch.

It is not

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I'd take it to school exactly once, especially if it happened in the first week of school.

But kid would know it was the one and only mulligan.

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Anonymous wrote:In MCPS, they won't go hungry. The school will offer a cheese sandwich as an alternative.

At some point, the kid needs to learn to remember his stuff. Maybe not at 6, but 10, 11? Yes. I assume OP's kid is around that age since the OP posted in the Tweens/Teens section.

What if your kid constantly forgot to bring HW home, or HW to school? At some point, you have to make your kid take personal responsibility.

And if you kid has ADHD, they will do this over and over and over and over no matter how much you want them to take personal responsibility

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Anonymous wrote:Going hungry for one meal will not hurt your children, and may teach them not to forget their lunch again.

This. No wonder people are so entitled. What are your kids going to do when mommy isnt there to fix everything for them?

Going all day without lunch isnt going to kill them. Not even close.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I ask my kid to pick up the slack when I make mistakes, like forgetting things, all the time. And he does it without complaint. So, I do the same for him. If I had a way to get the lunch to him, or put money in his account, then I would. While "don't forget your lunch" is a nice thing for kids to learn, "families take care of each other" is more important to me.

Love this. Great mom.

+1

Codependence.

And did you catch the whiff of judgement in her last sentence?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Going hungry for one meal will not hurt your children, and may teach them not to forget their lunch again.

Wrong. Sure it won't kill them but they will learn nothing in school if they're hungry. The school knows this and that is why it is federal law that the school must feed them if they don't have a lunch.

It is not

Giving a free lunch to a kid who does not participate in the FARMS program is at the discretion of the school system. However, the USDA strongly advises schools to not deny kids lunch, especially young and disabled kids. Most schools around here are pretty nice about it and just ask the kid to bring in money the next day. Other school systems give a non-paying kid the cheapest lunch available, usually a cheese sandwich.

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Anonymous wrote:You look out the window and you see them get on the bus. Too late to catch them. What do you do?

My kids buy cafeteria lunch once a week anyway, so they know if they forget the packed lunch, they should just buy lunch that day. I put the packed lunch in the drive and send it the next day.

Now, my kid who forgets her glasses, and I'm not convinced she's not "forgetting" them on purpose... I usually drive those to school, to disincentivize the "forgetting."

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At BTSN, our child's 5th grade teacher specifically told parents not to bring things to school if they are forgotten. I've never really done it anyway because I work, but we did have an au pair who brought a forgotten instrument once or twice (I didn't find out until later).

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I would bring it. We all forget things - how is it any different than my husband bringing me something to work that I forgot at home, or him bringing me something? It's happened before, why I not give my child that same respect?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I ask my kid to pick up the slack when I make mistakes, like forgetting things, all the time. And he does it without complaint. So, I do the same for him. If I had a way to get the lunch to him, or put money in his account, then I would. While "don't forget your lunch" is a nice thing for kids to learn, "families take care of each other" is more important to me.

Love this. Great mom.

You said this very, very well.

I love this, PP. The world is harsh enough, right?

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Anonymous wrote:At BTSN, our child's 5th grade teacher specifically told parents not to bring things to school if they are forgotten. I've never really done it anyway because I work, but we did have an au pair who brought a forgotten instrument once or twice (I didn't find out until later).

Exactly. It disrupts class, and kids need to learn personal responsibility. ADD or ADHD is not an excuse; I'm a nanny, and when there is a condition like that, you post a list on the door the child uses in the morning, that way they have one more chance to check. If they never have to learn, they won't.

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Update: He forgot his lunch twice. I didn't bring it to him either time. He may have had a snack in his back pack to tide him over until he got home and could eat his lunch after school. He has not forgotten it since. I think he is now in the habit of putting it into his back pack.

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Note on son's door, Don't forget your xxx, yyy, zzz.
~ posted by his college roommate.

It's still a problem, but he's managing

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Anonymous wrote:You look out the window and you see them get on the bus. Too late to catch them. What do you do?

put in the fridge, assume your kid (as a tween or teen) can figure it out at lunchtime. I always had cash on me, since I worked part time, or I could bum from a friend if necessary.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I ask my kid to pick up the slack when I make mistakes, like forgetting things, all the time. And he does it without complaint. So, I do the same for him. If I had a way to get the lunch to him, or put money in his account, then I would. While "don't forget your lunch" is a nice thing for kids to learn, "families take care of each other" is more important to me.

Love this. Great mom.

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