Kid leaves for the school bus and you notice they left their lunch sitting on the counter...

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Anonymous wrote:I ask my kid to pick up the slack when I make mistakes, like forgetting things, all the time. And he does it without complaint. So, I do the same for him. If I had a way to get the lunch to him, or put money in his account, then I would. While "don't forget your lunch" is a nice thing for kids to learn, "families take care of each other" is more important to me.

Love this. Great mom.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I ask my kid to pick up the slack when I make mistakes, like forgetting things, all the time. And he does it without complaint. So, I do the same for him. If I had a way to get the lunch to him, or put money in his account, then I would. While "don't forget your lunch" is a nice thing for kids to learn, "families take care of each other" is more important to me.

Love this. Great mom.

+1. I don't understand this teaching gem a lesson by making them go hungry shit. To what end? If I could being it I would, if I couldn't I would make sure they has money on their account to purchase.

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Anonymous wrote:Going hungry for one meal will not hurt your children, and may teach them not to forget their lunch again.

Wrong. Sure it won't kill them but they will learn nothing in school if they're hungry. The school knows this and that is why it is federal law that the school must feed them if they don't have a lunch.

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In MCPS, they won't go hungry. The school will offer a cheese sandwich as an alternative.

At some point, the kid needs to learn to remember his stuff. Maybe not at 6, but 10, 11? Yes. I assume OP's kid is around that age since the OP posted in the Tweens/Teens section.

What if your kid constantly forgot to bring HW home, or HW to school? At some point, you have to make your kid take personal responsibility.

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Depends on the kid's age. The older the kid the more likely I am to let them deal with the consequences on their own.

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I posted previously but am not understanding why this is a crowd sourcing issue, unless you don't keep a nominal amount on a kid's lunch account.

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I will drop it off, but if I didn't, I know DS would crowdsource and all of his friends would give him a little bit of their lunches to make up for it--they all refuse to eat the cafeteria food.

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Anonymous wrote:In MCPS, they won't go hungry. The school will offer a cheese sandwich as an alternative.

At some point, the kid needs to learn to remember his stuff. Maybe not at 6, but 10, 11? Yes. I assume OP's kid is around that age since the OP posted in the Tweens/Teens section.

What if your kid constantly forgot to bring HW home, or HW to school? At some point, you have to make your kid take personal responsibility.

NP. Personal responsibility is a good thing. And in general my kids exhibit it. On the rare occasions they forget things -- be those things homework or lunch or instruments or whatever -- I handle it the exact same way I handle the rare incidents when DH or I similarly forgdt something important we need for the day. I, as a member of their family, step up to bring them the thing or make other arrangements to get it to them if at all possible. I've called DH to ask him to run something somewhere for me; DH has called me and asked me to bring something he forgot in his rush to leave for work; at times DH or I even called one of our older two (driving age) girls and asked them to bring us something we forgot while we are en route somewhere and can't swing by home to grab it. Life happens, sometimes people forget things, and when they do the rest of the family is willing to help out to avoid problems.

If there's a reasonable way to get the forgotten item to the person, how would it be logical, productive, or kind to refuse to do so and force them to go without it?

I suppose if the forgetting were a really frequent occurrence, this policy wouldn't be sustainable in the long term and we would need to work together to come up with a way to reduce the frequency with which needed items were forgotten.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I ask my kid to pick up the slack when I make mistakes, like forgetting things, all the time. And he does it without complaint. So, I do the same for him. If I had a way to get the lunch to him, or put money in his account, then I would. While "don't forget your lunch" is a nice thing for kids to learn, "families take care of each other" is more important to me.

Love this. Great mom.

You said this very, very well.

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Anonymous wrote:I posted previously but am not understanding why this is a crowd sourcing issue, unless you don't keep a nominal amount on a kid's lunch account.

Can you imagine? Not every school has accounts.

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I would never dream of driving to school to drop off a lunch. I don't get schools allowing for this kind of parent behavior - unless something is an emergency. I know it happens ALL the time.

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Anonymous wrote:Going hungry for one meal will not hurt your children, and may teach them not to forget their lunch again.

I don't get comments like this. Have you never forgotten anything, even though you "know better"? People forget. Kids forget. It happens. It's one thing if the kid left his lunch everyday, but he leaves it one time and now needs to be taught a lesson? Ridiculous.

OP, if I had e time, I would drop it off; otherwise, I try to ensure the kids have money in their lunch accounts or have cash in them.

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I used to keep 10$ on my kids lunch accounts for "just in case", but now they are both down to 50 cents from other kids keying in the incorrect codes. While I realize this is likely on accident, I do not have time to keep calling the cafeterias to get this amount credited. I just keep 3 bucks in a pocket in their backpacks now.

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Anonymous wrote:I would never dream of driving to school to drop off a lunch. I don't get schools allowing for this kind of parent behavior - unless something is an emergency. I know it happens ALL the time.

But does it happen all the time for a particular kid? If my kid kept forgetting something, I would not keep picking up his slack, but I don't make him suffer just to prove a point. And I wouldn't be late for a meeting at work to drop something off at school, but if I can help out and it's a rare lapse, I help. As the PP noted, that's what families do. (Mine let me into the house when I forget my keys.)

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Eat school lunch.