My DS was fed jarred baby food today and I never gave them permission to

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Anonymous wrote:If you can name one good, logical reason as to why it is an issue that your baby was fed puréed carrots, I'll side with you OP. Do you have a family history of anaphylactic reactions to carrots?

Maybe OP feels disappointed that her baby experienced his/her first tastes of solid food -- a milestone -- without her? I can certainly sympathize with that feeling.

He's 6 months old!! What is she waiting for? This is ridiculous OP. Get over it.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you all for your feedback. I should emphasize that I don't think there is anything inherently wrong with what he ate, but it was the fact that I had left specific instructions. I knew it was a mistake since it was the first time that it happened, but I just assumed that this potentially could be a big deal because of allergies.

We do in fact have a family history of food allergies, and have been introducing our kid to foods really slowly in a controlled setting. I think yesterday when I went to pick him up, I was tired and stressed. I work full time, I'm submitting my final dissertation in a week, and now my kid ate something I didn't know how he would react to. On top of that, they were about to toss out a whole bottle of pumped breastmilk that he didn't need since he had eaten those carrots. And indeed, he puked twice in the middle of the night (obviously could be for other reasons, but nothing else indicates why he would vomit).

This morning it was a simple conversation with his daycare teacher, and another lady chimed in who said she had given him the carrots. All of the kids in his carpet were eating them, and she assumed he ate them too. We will just continue to keep our instructions clear on the daily sheet. And the conversation ended there.

I'm tired. I'm stressed. And this is my first time doing all this. I know stuff happens at daycare (I wouldn't want a nanny, as I love the culture of being in a daycare), but I do want to understand what's normal and what's not.

What normal is in about 6 months your child will be eating his own poop from the floor.

Get over it and move on.

I think the distinction is that that the child would eat the poop on their own. This case a daycare worker gave them said food.

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I kind of get it, in the sense that at first you try a few solids at home before letting other people give your baby solids in your absence, but when you're at the point of being comfortable enough with the daycare staff feeding your baby cereal, then I can see how they would have taken that to mean that they're free to feed your baby age appropriate foods along with the other babies. And as one of the other PPs pointed out, carrots are healthier than grains anyway, so if you were good with one, it wouldn't have occurred to the staff that you wouldn't have been okay with something even better than what you sent.

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What normal is in about 6 months your child will be eating his own poop from the floor.

Get over it and move on.

I think the distinction is that that the child would eat the poop on their own. This case a daycare worker gave them said food.

Um, when is a child eating their own poop off the floor normal?? Sorry to derail, but THAT sounds alarming and like very poor supervision. I don't it was meant as sarcasm.

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Was it a mistake that they acknowledged, or something they didn't think was an issue until you said something to them about it? They must have told you they fed it to your kid -- how did they treat the subject when they told you?

They probably didn't associate a major difference between some baby food from a jar and oatmeal from a box. I think you are overreacting because it's not a big deal if she gets some food at daycare. BUT, the point is that they weren't following your wishes, which is a concern. If they treated the situation appropriately (apologized, clarified what you want, etc.), then it's not anything to worry about. If they seemed not to care what you wanted, then it might not be a good fit.

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My kids are 6 and 4. In a few years, unfortunately, your kids will be eating their own boogers and stuff they dropped on the floor. You will look back at the carrot incident and laugh.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you all for your feedback. I should emphasize that I don't think there is anything inherently wrong with what he ate, but it was the fact that I had left specific instructions. I knew it was a mistake since it was the first time that it happened, but I just assumed that this potentially could be a big deal because of allergies.

We do in fact have a family history of food allergies, and have been introducing our kid to foods really slowly in a controlled setting. I think yesterday when I went to pick him up, I was tired and stressed. I work full time, I'm submitting my final dissertation in a week, and now my kid ate something I didn't know how he would react to. On top of that, they were about to toss out a whole bottle of pumped breastmilk that he didn't need since he had eaten those carrots. And indeed, he puked twice in the middle of the night (obviously could be for other reasons, but nothing else indicates why he would vomit).

This morning it was a simple conversation with his daycare teacher, and another lady chimed in who said she had given him the carrots. All of the kids in his carpet were eating them, and she assumed he ate them too. We will just continue to keep our instructions clear on the daily sheet. And the conversation ended there.

I'm tired. I'm stressed. And this is my first time doing all this. I know stuff happens at daycare (I wouldn't want a nanny, as I love the culture of being in a daycare), but I do want to understand what's normal and what's not.

What normal is in about 6 months your child will be eating his own poop from the floor.

Get over it and move on.

Uh, what? No, it's not normal for a kid to eat his own poop.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry you're getting so much snark, OP. So unnecessary. A few posters made some valid points but you may be totally turned off by this thread now. I agree with those inquiring if this was an accident or purposefully defying your request. Even though you're disappointed in the end result either way, the intention of the caregiver makes a huge difference. Also agree with those who pointed out that these things do happen and that in the scale of things, this is pretty minor by most people's standards. If this really is huge for you, you probably want to investigate other childcare options or perhaps the possibility of staying home with your child.

Hope you and your DC have a great day today. It's beautiful weather!

+1. I can relate (and yes, am a FTM).

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You reacting the way you did because you are tired and stressed. Yes, the provider was wrong and steps should be taken to ensure it doesn't happen again in general because it could have been an issue for a child with allergies. That said, your reaction to your child having solids in general is a bit extreme. If your child is in daycare, you are not going to be around for a lot of "firsts." You are going to have to learn to give some leeway or you will all be uptight.

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I agree you need to stay home with your baby. You can't police from afar. Sounds like you have control issues.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

What normal is in about 6 months your child will be eating his own poop from the floor.

Get over it and move on.

I think the distinction is that that the child would eat the poop on their own. This case a daycare worker gave them said food.

Um, when is a child eating their own poop off the floor normal?? Sorry to derail, but THAT sounds alarming and like very poor supervision. I don't it was meant as sarcasm.

Yeahh...... I don't know any babies that eat their own poop. If you think that's "normal", PP...

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you all for your feedback. I should emphasize that I don't think there is anything inherently wrong with what he ate, but it was the fact that I had left specific instructions. I knew it was a mistake since it was the first time that it happened, but I just assumed that this potentially could be a big deal because of allergies.

We do in fact have a family history of food allergies, and have been introducing our kid to foods really slowly in a controlled setting. I think yesterday when I went to pick him up, I was tired and stressed. I work full time, I'm submitting my final dissertation in a week, and now my kid ate something I didn't know how he would react to. On top of that, they were about to toss out a whole bottle of pumped breastmilk that he didn't need since he had eaten those carrots. And indeed, he puked twice in the middle of the night (obviously could be for other reasons, but nothing else indicates why he would vomit).

This morning it was a simple conversation with his daycare teacher, and another lady chimed in who said she had given him the carrots. All of the kids in his carpet were eating them, and she assumed he ate them too. We will just continue to keep our instructions clear on the daily sheet. And the conversation ended there.

I'm tired. I'm stressed. And this is my first time doing all this. I know stuff happens at daycare (I wouldn't want a nanny, as I love the culture of being in a daycare), but I do want to understand what's normal and what's not.

I believe that medically they say is a food sensitivity in children under a year and not an allergy.

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Anonymous wrote:Then stay your ass home and tend to your own baby.

This clutching is silly.

Agree. Bossy pants needs to do her own baby care. Why not?

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I would be upset if not were my first baby and I wanted to be the first to do that milestone with baby. That said, what happened happened and now all you can do is move forward. Keep going with solids, or tell them your wishes again. If it was an accident, let it go. If it was done because they think they know what's best for your kid regardless of what you say, I'd give them a what for and then move on.

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I remember putting a lot of thought into introducing solids for my first, OP. I wanted to have all organic, sugar free, homemade food. I was so worried he would only want sweet veggies and fruits and all that silly stuff. 7 years later, I honestly have no idea what I first fed my 2nd child. We eat a lot of healthy food but also really love McDonalds. Yes, McDonalds.