In all seriousness: What qualifies as a sexless marriage?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
What about the marriage in which the husband is so bad in bed that the wife never orgasms and has to satisfy him twice a week, then take care of business for herself?

Why would anyone marry someone who is so bad in bed?


I don't know why, but I did. (NP)

Most women are bad in bed and guy just put up with it. Let's face it most think if they have an orgasm they are good in bed.

It's a culture thing -- women are told that most of their job involves just showing up and "letting" him have sex with her. He has to earn it. It's probably not a majority, but I'll bet more women than men see their role as laying back and being pleasured.

[Anonymous]

We can debate what is sexless, but the real issue is whether your partner is sexually satisfied. My spouse would tell you we aren't sexless, and my spouse would be right because we do have sex a couple times a month, for a few minutes, in the same position. We both orgasm, usually. But my spouse does not want to try new things, to step up frequency, to engage in reasonable requests. So we aren't sexless but sex isn't good with spouse.

[Anonymous]

If you are unhappy with the amount you are getting, and you've already discussed with spouse and they aren't willing to do more, are you constantly pissed about it? Or do you still feel love for that person, so you just deal with it?

[Anonymous]

What I don't understand about husbands who don't want sex is that when I was single, I cared big time about getting laid and so did my friends. I would literally go at it with girlfriends any chance I could. Now I can understand if someone gains 50 lbs or their attitude sucks, but no way am I going to turn off having sex with my wife when in my earlier days I was so into it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
What about the marriage in which the husband is so bad in bed that the wife never orgasms and has to satisfy him twice a week, then take care of business for herself?

Why would anyone marry someone who is so bad in bed?


I don't know why, but I did. (NP)

Most women are bad in bed and guy just put up with it. Let's face it most think if they have an orgasm they are good in bed.

It's a culture thing -- women are told that most of their job involves just showing up and "letting" him have sex with her. He has to earn it. It's probably not a majority, but I'll bet more women than men see their role as laying back and being pleasured.

How many women have you heard on here talking about how much they love to lay there and get 'pleasured.' I'm not hearing about a lot of particularly pleasureable experiences for women up in here.

[Anonymous]

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How many women have you heard on here talking about how much they love to lay there and get 'pleasured.' I'm not hearing about a lot of particularly pleasureable experiences for women up in here.

Not in this thread, but I read more on dcum about guys who think about how to get their wife off than wives thinking about ways to get their husbands off.

[Anonymous]

I think a sexless marriage is when a man has to constantly ask or beg for sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think a sexless marriage is when a man has to constantly ask or beg for sex.

so if he gets it once a day wants it twice and begs everyday?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No sex means no sex. We have not had sex since DS was born 8 years ago.

So, then, not sexless - by your definition.

No, dw got pregnant before we married. Marriage hay never been consummated.

[Anonymous]

^^has

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No sex means no sex. We have not had sex since DS was born 8 years ago.

So, then, not sexless - by your definition.

No, dw got pregnant before we married. Marriage hay never been consummated.

Get an annullment!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What I don't understand about husbands who don't want sex is that when I was single, I cared big time about getting laid and so did my friends. I would literally go at it with girlfriends any chance I could. Now I can understand if someone gains 50 lbs or their attitude sucks, but no way am I going to turn off having sex with my wife when in my earlier days I was so into it.

My husband knows I'm chronically horny and would do it every day, so he gets lazy because I never turn him down and initiate as often as I think he'll give it to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What I don't understand about husbands who don't want sex is that when I was single, I cared big time about getting laid and so did my friends. I would literally go at it with girlfriends any chance I could. Now I can understand if someone gains 50 lbs or their attitude sucks, but no way am I going to turn off having sex with my wife when in my earlier days I was so into it.

My husband knows I'm chronically horny and would do it every day, so he gets lazy because I never turn him down and initiate as often as I think he'll give it to me.

I can't even begin to comprehend what my life would be like if my DW never turned me down and SHE initiated as often as she thought I'd give it to her. Un-f'ing-believable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What I don't understand about husbands who don't want sex is that when I was single, I cared big time about getting laid and so did my friends. I would literally go at it with girlfriends any chance I could. Now I can understand if someone gains 50 lbs or their attitude sucks, but no way am I going to turn off having sex with my wife when in my earlier days I was so into it.

My husband knows I'm chronically horny and would do it every day, so he gets lazy because I never turn him down and initiate as often as I think he'll give it to me.

So I'm making my wife lazy by initiating? Goddamn, I can't win!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What I don't understand about husbands who don't want sex is that when I was single, I cared big time about getting laid and so did my friends. I would literally go at it with girlfriends any chance I could. Now I can understand if someone gains 50 lbs or their attitude sucks, but no way am I going to turn off having sex with my wife when in my earlier days I was so into it.

My husband knows I'm chronically horny and would do it every day, so he gets lazy because I never turn him down and initiate as often as I think he'll give it to me.

I can't even begin to comprehend what my life would be like if my DW never turned me down and SHE initiated as often as she thought I'd give it to her. Un-f'ing-believable.

+1. If my DW ever initiated, I would worship her.