I'm a teen, and I'm struggling to come to terms with my sexuality.

[Anonymous]

It's okay to not know and be in a place where you're evolving. Embrace it that you aren't fixed and you're getting to know yourself. And yes, it gets better. Hang in there.

[Anonymous]

I was told that you are born with the attraction that you have and that it’s not possible to change it. Certainly you can’t pray to be attracted to a different sex. Your attraction is unchangeable. So there’s nothing for anyone to help you figure out—unless you wanted someone to like talk you into actually BEING hetero or homosexual or convinced you that you are or should be one or the other. But again that seems pointless and against everything that the lgbtq+ community has been explaining about “how it works” fir at least the last 25 years.
Seems to me that when it’s important enough for you to act on it, you’ll know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Life is easier straight.

But it's not a choice who you're attracted to. It's not a choice.

I mean don’t be so inflexible. If I can choose to change my identity to be different from my biological reality that actually has genetic chromosomal characteristics, it makes no sense to be so rigid about whether or not you can choose your attraction. And even if you really couldn’t, OP can still choose whether to act on it or not.
If I’m 16 and my 45 year old teacher is attracted to me, he can stop himself from acting on it, right?
And if I’m married and I’m attracted to my next door neighbor, so what? I still am not going to do anything about that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to study in school right now and forget sex.

Come on. She's a kid for crying out loud. You sound very mature OP, and I applaud you for asking these questions. I don't know what the answer is, but I do know that I'm straight, and I've never gotten butterfly crushes on girls before. That doesn't mean that you are a lesbian, but you could be bi.

I live in VA, and all of my friends are very accepting of alternative lifestyles.o Good luck to you.

This is how you know OP is a troll. In todays NOVA public high schools, it is more common to be questioning your sexuality than not.