Would you let teen DD get her nose pierced?
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Anonymous
I am also wondering what message you think it sends you. The message it sends me is, "I decided to get a nose stud/eyebrow stud/tattoo." |
Anonymous
| If I wanted her to look like cattle |
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My 17 year-old DD got a septum piercing - just a tiny hoop. It suits her, she does not look like cattle, she's had no problems with the care of it, and it leaves no visible mark when she takes it out (unless you go digging inside her nose with a flashlight). I wouldn't want one, but it's not my face. I would draw the line at tramp stamps, neck and face tattoos, belly button piercings, nipple piercings, tongue piercings, stretched earlobes, 6 nose piercings, etc.
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Anonymous
| No way. If you decide to do this at any age you will be disowned. I also don't believe in punishment stopping at age 18. So get ready to be beaten severely with my belt |
Anonymous
| No. But I also said no to my son getting his ears pierced, and he did it anyway as soon as he graduated from high school. I hope it stops there, and that my kids won't get tatoos. |
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No.
As long as she is funded by me, she is a dependent and therefore I get final say over permanent body alterations (particularly where these may have an impact on employment in the future). |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
You sound like a horrible parent and an even more horrible person. Yikes! OP - my DD got a nose piercing a few years ago. I will admit to not being fully on board, but not because I have a particular problem with piercings. It was really because of what you have seen here on this thread. There will always be people in this world who feel it is their right and obligation to judge others' choices, even if it doesn't affect them at all. There are also people who will jump to assumptions about people based purely on appearances. I do believe these are the same people who still harbor the feelings that women deserve to be raped based on what they are wearing - luckily, these people are quickly being overcome by a more reasonable and thoughtful dialogue of late. They are, hopefully, a dying breed... As for my DD and her nose piercing, I actually like the look and have embraced it. Who knows how long she will choose to wear it, but whatever she does it's okay. She does not wear a nose ring because she doesn't like the way it looks on her. She has a small, flat stud on her nose. She has had many people compliment her and many are my friends who expressed dismay at the idea at first. One thing to remember about any of these things is that fashion is about more than what you are wearing. It's about how you present yourself and how you carry yourself. I have seen plenty of women wearing supposedly "acceptable" clothing (think a Lilly Pulitzer dress or something similar) who looked far more tacky than my DD and her nose piercing... Tell your DD to hold her head up high, dress and present herself in a classy and elegant manner and ignore the ignorant comments and all will be fine for her. |
Anonymous
I agree with you, OP. If she's a good kid, then yes I'd allow it. I'd also counsel her, however, on the uptight smuggies who will dismiss and look down on her b/c of it (such as when looking for a job). She should know what to expect. |
Anonymous
I'd have to think whatever job you get in HS is going to be fine with a subtle nose piercing for the most part. If its a really high end restaurant or something, they tend to not have teenage servers. If its a BS "internship" in HS in an office environment, they probably are getting the job because of a connection anyway so they might have to take it out but they were going to get the job anyway! Jobs that require they come out for safety reasons generally aren't HS jobs either. So while I would let he know about the job thing in the future, its disingenuous to think it would have this big impact today! |
Anonymous
What do you mean by teen? DD asked for her nose pierced at 13, I made her wait until 16. She is 19 now and I have never seen her without it in. I think it needs to be between you and your daughter. Ask her why she wants it and make sure she is able to take care of it. Good luck 
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Anonymous
PP, what messages does it send? Highly permissive parents. Undisciplined environment. Refusal to conform for its own sake (not necessarily an activist, no reflection on political leanings etc, just wants to wear a sign that says "I'm not bound by your rules"). Not interested in presenting normally to an employer. Cannot be counted on; will flake off. May engage in unorthodox behavior (illegal? no - at least not necessarily and certainly can't be presumed). Depending on age, highly and inappropriately precocious. Possibly unclean. Itinerant. Not concerned in the slightest with perception and therefore may not reflect well on me as an employer or in any other capacity. Yes, I understand that many people have nose piercings now, including bike messengers. |
Anonymous
| No. It equals trash. You don't see doctors, lawyers and congress with nose rings. |
Anonymous
Wow - you're a quality person...."trash" - really? Grow up and enter the 21st century. |
Anonymous
Why not? Better than her tongue...or vagina. |