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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The message that a nose stud, or an eyebrow stud, or tats send is always a bad one.  Always.  The answer is no, with disappointment.  
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What message does it send? I was unaware of this. My only thoughts upon seeing facial piercings or body art are "oh, that person likes _(whatever it is)_ . Ouch, glad it's not on me. But good for them as long as they like it." Some tattoos and piercings are even rather pretty, in my opinion.

And why would you be disappointed in your child for having different aesthetic preferences than you do?

Or did you mean you would be disappointed to 'have to' say no because it's unfortunate that society still judges these things negatively? In which case I am glad you don't buy in fully, but I would assert that (1) it doesn't send as bad a message as you think, or at least not universally so, and (2) even if it did, it would be ok to support your child's individual choices in this matter regardless of what "society" may supposedly say.[/quote]

PP, what messages does it send?  Highly permissive parents.  Undisciplined environment.  Refusal to conform for its own sake (not necessarily an activist, no reflection on political leanings etc, just wants to wear a sign that says "I'm not bound by your rules").  Not interested in presenting normally to an employer.  Cannot be counted on; will flake off.  May engage in unorthodox behavior (illegal? no - at least not necessarily and certainly can't be presumed).  Depending on age, highly and inappropriately precocious.  Possibly unclean.  Itinerant.  Not concerned in the slightest with perception and therefore may not reflect well on me as an employer or in any other capacity.

Yes, I understand that many people have nose piercings now, including bike messengers.

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