Husband: no fun allowed without him, and fun allowable only on his schedule

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Make plans, tell him you hope he can come, he will either go, not go, or go for part of the time.

You can't do this for the next 15 years.

This is what I would do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's a holiday weekend, that's fishy he wants to work instead of spending time with his family.

That was my thought as well, particularly since the OP says it's not normal for him.

+2

[Anonymous]

Any updates OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any updates OP?

Whole family is now on mini-vacation a few hours away from home. Husband saw the light when realizing we'd otherwise spend the weekend trying to do household projects and ignoring kids. The idea that we'd spend more time really paying attention to the kids, instead of projects, is what swayed him. He will resume being stressed about work until Monday. (I myself will resume being stressed about work on Sunday as I have work to complete before Monday, but I brought that on myself and totally own it.)

Kids are having a blast. Husband seems to be enjoying himself.

[Anonymous]

My DH had this attitude for many years. Made it impossible for us to go anywhere or do anything half the time since he worked so much. It was a problem. I left.

[Anonymous]

What a great update. Glad it turned out to be a good weekend.